Women I?m sure most of you have encountered this. The guy you know, he is popular among his friends, he is masculine, probably has a bit of a bad boy streak to him and he rarely seems like the sensitive type. But when he is around you or a woman, he is quite the teddy bear. He is open and honest and bares his soul to you. How endearing?
Allow me to shed some light on these types. They are chauvinistic and do not think very much of you, worse off they probably are not aware of it. The god honest truth, and whether a fellow male out there will admittedly stand by me or not ? it?s true.
Men are egocentric, power hungry and seek to be dominant.
Any male who does not exhibit these behaviours in some form or manner is not male, I do not speak in the biological sense, rather from a framework which see?s gender and it?s social expectations and sexual anatomy as separate. To be those qualities is to be a man ? and this is from an evolutionary stand point. Women find door mats to be very unattractive as they could never provide the security and comfort a woman needs. Women like men they can rely on, and the alpha male who is confident, strong and never afraid to be assertive is much more of a viable dating option than the ?nice guy?.
Nice guys finish last. It?s survival of the fittest. Between the brute and the gentlemen, the brute will have a higher chance of surviving and procreating.
But enough about this, I?m sure any woman with some wisdom or experience is well aware of this. As for younger girls, if you?re wondering why you might be attracted to the bad boys, this is why. But this little segment was for my fellow male escapees. I?ve seen my fair share of relationship posts, you guys are really nice even if you can be a bunch of smartasses, but I?m will to wager that for many of you ? you have wondered why even though you?re a nice guy and you?d treat the girl with love and respect she deserves, why does she only consider you a friend and continue to date guys who are VERY unlike you. Just consider what I just said.
Back on topic now with the bad boy with a sensitive soul.
I may just be generalizing and you may probably scream at me saying ?but the guy I know is nothing like you say?. Well you may just be the exception to the rule; either that or you?re just not looking close enough.
The male species are great performers, I mean theatrically not in the dirty sense. They can put up a façade and keep up appearances so well they can fool themselves. They sometimes have a soft smile and a sensitive look that only women can tune into and find. Males will generally not delve into soulful and heart to heart conversations with their fellow males. A lot of them will ? but I?ll get into that later. But with a woman they will open up like a Christmas present, and you women will find this adorable.
The truth is men never want to appear weak in front of other men, including their friends. Which is why men are generally ?rough? with each other. In competitions they will have no inhibitions about crushing their best buddy in the ranking ladder. They?ll never admit it, but almost all well adjusted men think that they are slightly superior to their male friends in some aspect.
But why is it with a woman that they are not afraid to vulnerable. Why is it that when other people will call a man shallow assholes, there is some woman out there other than their mother who will defend them claiming they are ?complicated, misunderstood, more than meets the eye?? It?s simple really, those women can see the vulnerable side the men consciously or unconsciously chooses to show them. Everything I stated leads up to the next statement ?
A lot of men don?t value a woman?s opinion, which is why they are not generally afraid to show them weakness.
Men think that all women are suppose to have a nurturing soft soggy heart, and men will have little reservation vomiting all their thoughts and feelings into them. The same thoughts and feelings they refuse to share with their friends. Because once their friends know, that?s it ? the power politics has shifted in their favour. Men think they have to be stoic which is why their brethren can never know. However if a female is aware of the feelings, the male will seriously not care if that woman?s perception of him changes. Because in all honesty, it?s probably changed for the better. Men think all women are sympathetic, and women think the same thing. Women actually are a lot more sympathetic and nurturing than men. But men believe that means that women will feel affection and pity for almost anything.
All the men reading this, honestly think back when you told a woman something you would never tell your buddies. If her perception of you changed, would you care? If she thought less of you, than you?d probably try to rationalize it in your mind that she is just a ***** and you should never have trusted her. But if she thought you were not as stoic, as strong, as iron willed as you appear to others, would that slow you down for a second? But if a few of your mates thought the same thing could you shrug that off? If she told you she thought you were weak, you would think something along the lines of ?like your opinion matters to me? but if you?re mates said that you?d feel more insecure.
Now for men who have the heart to heart with their buddies. That is probably a true honest moment that you?ve had. More so than compared to when you told the same thing to a woman? Think about it.
What I?m trying to show is that there are very subtle sexisms among most of us; we just may not realize it because they aren?t so clear cut as sexual harassment and oppression. So men, really think twice before you claim you treat men and women the same. Because do you really?
EDIT : When I say masculine types, why do many people here assume I talk about jerks, beef heads, jocks, uncaring assholes? If that's the first thing you think of than perhaps you should examine what your general conceptions of what you consider to masculine and feminine before you're quick to shoot down my argument.
Allow me to shed some light on these types. They are chauvinistic and do not think very much of you, worse off they probably are not aware of it. The god honest truth, and whether a fellow male out there will admittedly stand by me or not ? it?s true.
Men are egocentric, power hungry and seek to be dominant.
Any male who does not exhibit these behaviours in some form or manner is not male, I do not speak in the biological sense, rather from a framework which see?s gender and it?s social expectations and sexual anatomy as separate. To be those qualities is to be a man ? and this is from an evolutionary stand point. Women find door mats to be very unattractive as they could never provide the security and comfort a woman needs. Women like men they can rely on, and the alpha male who is confident, strong and never afraid to be assertive is much more of a viable dating option than the ?nice guy?.
Nice guys finish last. It?s survival of the fittest. Between the brute and the gentlemen, the brute will have a higher chance of surviving and procreating.
But enough about this, I?m sure any woman with some wisdom or experience is well aware of this. As for younger girls, if you?re wondering why you might be attracted to the bad boys, this is why. But this little segment was for my fellow male escapees. I?ve seen my fair share of relationship posts, you guys are really nice even if you can be a bunch of smartasses, but I?m will to wager that for many of you ? you have wondered why even though you?re a nice guy and you?d treat the girl with love and respect she deserves, why does she only consider you a friend and continue to date guys who are VERY unlike you. Just consider what I just said.
Back on topic now with the bad boy with a sensitive soul.
I may just be generalizing and you may probably scream at me saying ?but the guy I know is nothing like you say?. Well you may just be the exception to the rule; either that or you?re just not looking close enough.
The male species are great performers, I mean theatrically not in the dirty sense. They can put up a façade and keep up appearances so well they can fool themselves. They sometimes have a soft smile and a sensitive look that only women can tune into and find. Males will generally not delve into soulful and heart to heart conversations with their fellow males. A lot of them will ? but I?ll get into that later. But with a woman they will open up like a Christmas present, and you women will find this adorable.
The truth is men never want to appear weak in front of other men, including their friends. Which is why men are generally ?rough? with each other. In competitions they will have no inhibitions about crushing their best buddy in the ranking ladder. They?ll never admit it, but almost all well adjusted men think that they are slightly superior to their male friends in some aspect.
But why is it with a woman that they are not afraid to vulnerable. Why is it that when other people will call a man shallow assholes, there is some woman out there other than their mother who will defend them claiming they are ?complicated, misunderstood, more than meets the eye?? It?s simple really, those women can see the vulnerable side the men consciously or unconsciously chooses to show them. Everything I stated leads up to the next statement ?
A lot of men don?t value a woman?s opinion, which is why they are not generally afraid to show them weakness.
Men think that all women are suppose to have a nurturing soft soggy heart, and men will have little reservation vomiting all their thoughts and feelings into them. The same thoughts and feelings they refuse to share with their friends. Because once their friends know, that?s it ? the power politics has shifted in their favour. Men think they have to be stoic which is why their brethren can never know. However if a female is aware of the feelings, the male will seriously not care if that woman?s perception of him changes. Because in all honesty, it?s probably changed for the better. Men think all women are sympathetic, and women think the same thing. Women actually are a lot more sympathetic and nurturing than men. But men believe that means that women will feel affection and pity for almost anything.
All the men reading this, honestly think back when you told a woman something you would never tell your buddies. If her perception of you changed, would you care? If she thought less of you, than you?d probably try to rationalize it in your mind that she is just a ***** and you should never have trusted her. But if she thought you were not as stoic, as strong, as iron willed as you appear to others, would that slow you down for a second? But if a few of your mates thought the same thing could you shrug that off? If she told you she thought you were weak, you would think something along the lines of ?like your opinion matters to me? but if you?re mates said that you?d feel more insecure.
Now for men who have the heart to heart with their buddies. That is probably a true honest moment that you?ve had. More so than compared to when you told the same thing to a woman? Think about it.
What I?m trying to show is that there are very subtle sexisms among most of us; we just may not realize it because they aren?t so clear cut as sexual harassment and oppression. So men, really think twice before you claim you treat men and women the same. Because do you really?
EDIT : When I say masculine types, why do many people here assume I talk about jerks, beef heads, jocks, uncaring assholes? If that's the first thing you think of than perhaps you should examine what your general conceptions of what you consider to masculine and feminine before you're quick to shoot down my argument.
