Would you consider this cheating?

[laststandman]

You're not in a relationship with her. It's her damn loss if she decides otherwise.
I'd be pissed off if the girl that deferred me thought she had any right to a say in further relationship statuses. in fact she did and it did tick me off, but it was ger loss in my opinion.

 

[geekRAGE]

No that is not cheating but that was a douchebag move.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

You should say the other girl took advantage of you while you were drunk, then break into tears. That seems to be one tactic that works in most relationship threads I've read.

Got me out of being charged with Crimes Against Humanity.

 

[Sarkule]

It's not cheating. But it's basically giving away any rights you have to dating the first girl.

 

[smashmaniac64]

its technically not cheating, but if you really liked her would you have immediately gone to another girl when she said no -_-

 

[Jark212]

This is in no way shape or form cheating. She said no, she has no right to be upset.

That's 100% the truth right there.

This situation has no middle ground, you are absolutely not at fault here, it's all on her for passing on a opportunity. The girl that rejected you seems like the jealous type, if I were you I'd avoid a relationship (friendzone is cool) with her. It seems like a classic case of "Now that someone else has you, I want you", so just be careful and tread lightly my friend...

 

[Anonymoustache]

Not technically cheating considering you weren't "officially" with her, but still a douche move. I know if I were in her position I'd probably be pretty upset, it does make it seem like you weren't too fussed whether or not she was the one you dated.
"Oh, you're not free? I'll just date this other girl then."
She has a right to be mad, but she's confusing a stupid move for cheating when it really isn't.

 

[Anonymoustache]

This is in no way shape or form cheating. She said no, she has no right to be upset.

That's 100% the truth right there.

This situation has no middle ground, you are absolutely not at fault here, it's all on her for passing on a opportunity. The girl that rejected you seems like the jealous type, if I were you I'd avoid a relationship (friendzone is cool) with her. It seems like a classic case of "Now that someone else has you, I want you", so just be careful and tread lightly my friend...

The girl said she wanted to clear things with her ex before committing. In my mind that isn't "No" it's "I want to start from scratch with you and not have issues from my last relationship leak into this one".
You're confusing flat out rejection for holding off until she's comfortable to commit.

 

[Jark212]

This is in no way shape or form cheating. She said no, she has no right to be upset.

That's 100% the truth right there.

This situation has no middle ground, you are absolutely not at fault here, it's all on her for passing on a opportunity. The girl that rejected you seems like the jealous type, if I were you I'd avoid a relationship (friendzone is cool) with her. It seems like a classic case of "Now that someone else has you, I want you", so just be careful and tread lightly my friend...

The girl said she wanted to clear things with her ex before committing. In my mind that isn't "No" it's "I want to start from scratch with you and not have issues from my last relationship leak into this one".
You're confusing flat out rejection for holding off until she's comfortable to commit.

I guess I misread that bit, but I still stand by my initial statement due to my interpretation of her basically saying "I'm not ready for a relationship" which is still a solid rejection in my book...

Thanks for clarifying that though...

 

[zombiesinc]

It's not cheating.

But what did you expect to happen? You both show an interest in one another, but because she isn't readily available, and wants to make sure she has completely ended things with her ex (so she can date you), you move on to the next girl.

She's upset because you jumped to the next girl, even after her saying she was interested. You have every right of course, as she has the right to get upset and express herself, even if she says you did something you didn't do.

 

[astrav1]

Jackass says what?

 

[Anonymoustache]

This is in no way shape or form cheating. She said no, she has no right to be upset.

That's 100% the truth right there.

This situation has no middle ground, you are absolutely not at fault here, it's all on her for passing on a opportunity. The girl that rejected you seems like the jealous type, if I were you I'd avoid a relationship (friendzone is cool) with her. It seems like a classic case of "Now that someone else has you, I want you", so just be careful and tread lightly my friend...

The girl said she wanted to clear things with her ex before committing. In my mind that isn't "No" it's "I want to start from scratch with you and not have issues from my last relationship leak into this one".
You're confusing flat out rejection for holding off until she's comfortable to commit.

I guess I misread that bit, but I still stand by my initial statement due to my interpretation of her basically saying "I'm not ready for a relationship" which is still a solid rejection in my book...

Thanks for clarifying that though...

Fair enough. I personally think they're both in the wrong and not just her, but I'm a girl so I suppose I could be mildly biased.

 

[Jaker the Baker]

It's not, but you still f'ed up your chances with her by doing that. It makes her question your intentions with HER.

 

[warprincenataku]

I would have had a grace period between girls, just in case, but this doesn't constitute cheating in any way, shape or form.

 

[SilverUchiha]

This reminds me of the "We were on a break" thing from Friends. Rachael wants a break. Ross sleeps with a girl the night this break starts. Rachael says she'll take him back the next take because she's over all the stress... She finds out what he did during the break and she gets mad and the relationship ends.

While Ross is technically right, like you are, it was still a bit of a dickhead move. You couldn't have been patient and just waited for girl #1 to deal with her shit first? I don't agree that you cheated, but I agree with her that you're probably a dickhead (or whatever insult she probably used when she found out about this).

 

[natster43]

No that is not cheating and I see no reason that you should be upset about it. You asked her out, she said no, and then she got mad about it when you decided to date someone else. Though I guess that shows that she likes you.

 

[Julianking93]

While this isn't cheating, I will admit that if someone I liked did this, I'd be upset but I would have no right to do so because I had yet to claim them as my own.

The girl isn't in the right to be upset, but it is understandable why she is.

 

[Anonymoustache]

Why does everyone keep saying the girl said no like she didn't want to date him at all?
Just to clarify, he said "She said no because she was dealing with a troublesome ex and wanted to completely end things with him before she did anything involving commitment."
Would you really want to enter into a relationship with a girl whose ex was being troublesome?
I know she's overreacting, but she didn't *actually* reject him completely, just to clarify that.

 

[Mordwyl]

An important detail has been left out: How long did you wait?

 

[Nieroshai]

I've been seeing this girl for about a month now and we really click. I was having a good time of it so I decided to ask her if she wanted to officially date. She said no because she was dealing with a troublesome ex and wanted to completely end things with him before she did anything involving commitment. I was cool with this and saw it as an opportunity to ask out this girl who lives down the road from me on a date. We had a pretty good time together and had some fun at my place afterwards. The girl who rejected me finds out about this and got really pissed at me for technically cheating adn that she wanted to date me after she had cleared her other stuff up. I'm telling her that because we weren't official it can't be considered cheating but when I think about it I can't help but feel a little bad. I'm not a fan of cheating and I really do like her.

So my question is this. In your opinions, would you call that cheating? Should I be mad with myself? Her? should I try to work things out?

No it wasn't cheating, but you'd better decide quick which one you actually want to be with. Fast. You don't need TWO enemies.