Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?
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OP: From the title, I interpreted this as "NO SEX EVER," and I had to actually think about it.
Now that the rules are a little less strict, I say yes. I can wait for marriage before sex. I am waiting for marriage before sex in my current relationship.
What can I say? I want the one who (vigorously) removes my v-card to be my husband.
Now that the rules are a little less strict, I say yes. I can wait for marriage before sex. I am waiting for marriage before sex in my current relationship.
What can I say? I want the one who (vigorously) removes my v-card to be my husband.
Absotively Posilutely. I love my significant other and if it meant abstinence to be able to live with him for the rest of my life, I'd do it.
But you can pretend you have achieved something deep!Supernova2000 said:
Which just means I agree. Sex is half the point. The other half is being with the person you love, of course. I'd say the two are rather strongly connected.
Nope. I don't think a single person has ever existed that actually enforced that rule on themselves, and not made to feel guilty if they broke it by parents, society, or a traumatic experience.
Some father way back when wants to sell his daughter for some young guy's stuff, he doesn't want her discovering how awesome and loving and intimate sex can be with any other guy, so he tells her it's a sin before marriage and arranges her marriage with Mr. Rich and Fancy. He gets his money, she gets a lifetime of loveless marriage, and mommy doesn't get to say a word because daddy isn't afraid to hit women.
Yeah no thanks, I've already done the pre-marital sex thing and only regret not doing it sooner.
Some father way back when wants to sell his daughter for some young guy's stuff, he doesn't want her discovering how awesome and loving and intimate sex can be with any other guy, so he tells her it's a sin before marriage and arranges her marriage with Mr. Rich and Fancy. He gets his money, she gets a lifetime of loveless marriage, and mommy doesn't get to say a word because daddy isn't afraid to hit women.
Yeah no thanks, I've already done the pre-marital sex thing and only regret not doing it sooner.
Sorry, love is a great thing, but there is no way I'd marry someone without knowing if we were sexually compatible or not. Sex is a big part of a relationship. It'd be like marrying someone without having seen them before, or marrying someone without ever eating a meal together. I couldnt commit to spending the rest of my life with someone without knowing them inside and out. (pun intended) And I definitely couldn't marry someone with different religious beliefs and convictions than me, so the whole "no sex before marriage because god said so" would be a deal breaker anyways.
Of course my partner is my best friend and I wouldn't leave her over something as trivial as sex. I think you have a more important problem then that, by which i mean you and your partner have a serious ideological difference, if you have to tiptoe around her beliefs to preserve your relationship then the two of you will never be able to be 100% honest with one another, and i don't think a relationship can survive without that.
Depends on the reasons. For that reason it would be a deal breaker for me, because I am not religious. That would show a fundamental flaw in our relationship that eventually would cause a rift between us.
EDIT: Essentially, precisely what the person above me said.
EDIT: Essentially, precisely what the person above me said.
ahh your title is misleading -_-
i would wait until marriage, sure, thats not a big deal really, if she means JUST sex
although no offense but there have been a few girls i've been with where they were awesome at everything besides sex..which i don't get how you can be awful at it from a girls angle, but they just were..
so i'd be kind of worried if i got stuck with a girl who is awful, granted that's not what love is about.. but still, if i have to deal with fucking her and only her for the next god knows how many decades..i want someone decent -_-
i would wait until marriage, sure, thats not a big deal really, if she means JUST sex
although no offense but there have been a few girls i've been with where they were awesome at everything besides sex..which i don't get how you can be awful at it from a girls angle, but they just were..
so i'd be kind of worried if i got stuck with a girl who is awful, granted that's not what love is about.. but still, if i have to deal with fucking her and only her for the next god knows how many decades..i want someone decent -_-
I've been with my girl for over 8 years now.
She is a cradle Catholic and as such we will not have sex until after marrige.
Even then it could be another ten years, as she has a much more higher earning career than I have.
No relationship should be based purely on physical interaction: anyone that NEEDS physical interaction has issues a good psych could deal with!
PS. I'm an ardent Anti-Theist with a sexdrive like a steamtrain... I still wouldn't change anything about her.
She is a cradle Catholic and as such we will not have sex until after marrige.
Even then it could be another ten years, as she has a much more higher earning career than I have.
No relationship should be based purely on physical interaction: anyone that NEEDS physical interaction has issues a good psych could deal with!
PS. I'm an ardent Anti-Theist with a sexdrive like a steamtrain... I still wouldn't change anything about her.
I was in a similar relationship myself, actually. And while it didn't last, that wasn't the reason for the break up.
We didn't go all the way, but we were certainly intimate with one another and did share a bed.
I'm not one to kiss and tell, but at the end of the day, just explore what you can both do together.
Be honest, be open, and don't get embarrassed
That said, if she's so religious you can't even touch her... I can see that becoming a bit of an issue.
As long as you feel close to her and you're both on the same page, you'll be fine. Just make sure she realises you have needs, but that you're not going to push the issue.
We didn't go all the way, but we were certainly intimate with one another and did share a bed.
I'm not one to kiss and tell, but at the end of the day, just explore what you can both do together.
Be honest, be open, and don't get embarrassed
That said, if she's so religious you can't even touch her... I can see that becoming a bit of an issue.
As long as you feel close to her and you're both on the same page, you'll be fine. Just make sure she realises you have needs, but that you're not going to push the issue.
Oh ok, when I glanced at the title I thought, "No sex ever? Daaaaamn. This is gonna be a hard decision." But nah, I'd be fine waiting for marriage if I really loved them.Everin said:So, I've been going out with this great girl for a while and we've been spending a lot of time together and all that and we're pretty sure we're in love (i say pretty sure because nothings really taken for granted in my world) and we kiss and all that, but she's Christian and believes that pre-marital sex is sin. Now, I'm not here to complain, I'm completely fine with following her views with that, but I wondered, would other people?
If you were deeply in love with a girl/boy and you wanted to take it a step further but they didn't believe in sex before marriage then would you accept that fact or would you not want to be with them anymore? I guess the question, when it boils down, is:
WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?
Edit: I'm fine with waiting until after marriage to sleep together. In fact, I don't think the relationship needs sex, I think it would be a nice something on the side, cause that's not what I'm in it for. That's my answer
ps- BTW there is no part of the bible that says you actually need to wait for marriage to have sex. It says that sex is sacred, but nowhere does it actually say, "WAIT TIL MARRIAGE" of course that was probably because in those times no one had sex before marriage because it could ruin their lives.
I can live with that easily.
If your relationship cannot survive without the sex, you're doing it wrong.
If your relationship cannot survive without the sex, you're doing it wrong.
It's fine if it's cool between the two of you, but those people saying that its not neccessarily important for aloving relationship might be slightly wrong, as sex is actually quite an important part of a couple connecting. I've had relationships where there has been no sex, and it doesn't concern me that "I'm not getting any".
But what I will say is that the feeling of closeness you get just after sex is one of the best feelings in the world, love snuggling up with m'lady after a session as its just a nice content feeling, laying in each others arms.
But hey, each to their own.
But what I will say is that the feeling of closeness you get just after sex is one of the best feelings in the world, love snuggling up with m'lady after a session as its just a nice content feeling, laying in each others arms.
But hey, each to their own.
I never said I lost it. I said I wish I kept it. Instead, I gave it away, as if sacrificing one of my beliefs would cement a relationship.ilion said:
I was wrong.
You must not neglect the social realities that surround virginity. It is easy to say that virginity is not some precious gift that keeps me pure and chaste and desirable. It is harder to deny the perceptions of those around you.
No. To be honest with myself.
Sex is something very important in a long term relationship- part of really knowing someone and literally and physically connecting to them. I don't see how I could know someone or really fully love them enough if I hadn't shared such passionate and inimate moments with them.
Sex is something very important in a long term relationship- part of really knowing someone and literally and physically connecting to them. I don't see how I could know someone or really fully love them enough if I hadn't shared such passionate and inimate moments with them.