Would you stay in a relationship with someone you loved if there was going to be no sex, garuanteed?

[Lt. Surge]

So, I've been going out with this great girl for a while and we've been spending a lot of time together and all that and we're pretty sure we're in love (i say pretty sure because nothings really taken for granted in my world) and we kiss and all that, but she's Christian and believes that pre-marital sex is sin. Now, I'm not here to complain, I'm completely fine with following her views with that, but I wondered, would other people?
If you were deeply in love with a girl/boy and you wanted to take it a step further but they didn't believe in sex before marriage then would you accept that fact or would you not want to be with them anymore? I guess the question, when it boils down, is:
WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?

Edit: I'm fine with waiting until after marriage to sleep together. In fact, I don't think the relationship needs sex, I think it would be a nice something on the side, cause that's not what I'm in it for. That's my answer

Would she do "other things" with you?

If other things were on the table the STAY! Sex isnt necessary i think

 

[ColeusRattus]

I never said I lost it. I said I wish I kept it. Instead, I gave it away, as if sacrificing one of my beliefs would cement a relationship.

I was wrong.

You must not neglect the social realities that surround virginity. It is easy to say that virginity is not some precious gift that keeps me pure and chaste and desirable. It is harder to deny the perceptions of those around you.

Then it's time to change your surroundings. People who think worse of you because your hymen isn't intact anymore can't possibly be labeled as "sensible people".

Also, having read through all of it, but being to lazy to go back to fetch a certain quote about sex being a kind of magical spititual experience between pure and true lovers:

Boy (or girl), you're in for a dissapointment. Having had sex with some different girls with various levels of affection towards them, I can assure you that there are no angel harps, no fireworks, and you're not a different person afterwards.

Sex is friction of mucous membranes and sensory areas.

Having said that, it's still one of the, if not the most, awesome activities two (or more) people can share, and it's a vital part of a healthy relationship. But at the end of the day, it's a physical and psychological need, that, not unlike hunger or thirst, has to be eased. And there is nothing shameful or sinful about it. And it triggers some neat reactions in your brain that make you happier and strengthen the bond of the participants.

So by NOT doing it, you make sex actually more important than it really is.

And as a last disclaimer for those who still read the thread in general and my post specifically: Still, Sex has to be in consent and of free will, always. But refraining from it should always be an emotional decision, based on trust and affection, and not on a religous rule that changes when you comitted an insitutionalized ritual...
Also, even though I am an atheist and have a quite liberal view on sexuality (anything goes as long as all the people involved agree with it, and it doesn't break any law), I prefer to lead sexual exclusive relationships.

 

[Blue Musician]

If it isn't because religion, it's fine for me!

 

[The Afrodactyl]

Me and my girlfriend are doing the "no sex" thing. It's been 2 months, and it's going well.

 

[UltraXan]

Is sex vital for a relationship? Yes and no. No, because (as many people have already stated) it is just an activity that two people participate in. Yes, because the act of sex itself is giving yourself, and everything that you are, to the other person.

OT:
I'm not very religious, in-fact, I don't like the idea of religion because I'm one of those people that like concrete proof about big things, like god. Do I believe in god? No. Why? Because there is nothing to support his existence besides a really old book, one that, mind you, isn't the most credible source as pretty much everything in it has been dis-proven. But I digress.

Like most people have said here, if you are ok with her religious beliefs and you truly love her, just go with it.

If I were put in that situation where I wouldn't be able to have sex until after marriage, I'd go with it on condition that we can at least cuddle :3

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?

I'd absolutely stay in the relationship. Hell, if my girl brings up sex, I will say no. I intent to wait until 6-12 months into the relationship before even entertaining that possibility. To me, sex is the most primal, intimate thing two people can share. I want to be sure we are in for the long term before committing myself to that.

And if she wants to wait, I'll gladly wait. As long as it takes. She's special like that.

 

[Sandernista]

To be fully in love, I need to love you emotionally and physically.

I would just be horribly stressed out and that would only contribute to my depression.

 

[khaimera]

I doubt it. As has been proven to me many times, women can outlast men in that department tenfold.

Would she do "other things" with you?

I know a Christian who does a lot more than just the "other things", but is still saving the proper sex for marriage. I don't understand the logic in that, really. Is God going to go "Anal sex before marriage? That's fair game, I suppose"?

Ha, now you have me wondering what the "other" other things are.

As for the God thing, I wonder if that is what he would say. Would he be okay with money shots too. Just stay away from the vagina, and its all good. lol

 

[Nargleblarg]

Yes, simple answer no explanation needed I decided I would be willing to do that a long time ago.

 

[MortisLegio]

well this is easy, as Im in the same boat as your girlfriend is so
yeah I can be in a relationship with a girl I love without sex

sex isnt the important part of the relationship anyway

 

[noxymoron19]

I'd be fine with it. You can express feelings without emotion and sex isn't entirely neccesary, although it is nice. As long as it was her opinion that she didn't want to have sex until marriage, not something pushed on her by her parents or God.

 

[Katana314]

I'd be fine with it. I've always wondered if I'm a bit weird about it, but I always thought sex looked a bit weird. Whether or not it's porn, I always have the same reaction as someone who just accidentally walked in on it. You can still be physically close and hold each other, which for me might be the more memorable part.

Besides, if you do get married, you're okay from there.

 

[FoolKiller]

No.

Not because I don't agree with the view because as irony would have it, I have developed feelings for a girl of this type. But I really enjoy sex and find it an integral part of a romantic relationship. If it doesn't work well, then I wouldn't want to be in a marriage as that is just asking for trouble.

 

[FoolKiller]

No sex?

Fuck that.

Ironically, no

But I'm with you. Otherwise its just a friendship IMHO.

 

[CM156_v1legacy]

As I share that view on relationships, yes, I could go with that. The past 18 years of my life without sex haven't killed me, so I think I can manage.

EDIT: This may also be due to my minor phobia of being exposed, and thus, I don't want to get that close to a person without an idea that we are together for life.

 

[ModReap]

Good Relationship > Sex

 

[Klarinette]

If the guy said there wouldn't be, I'd probably end up trying to make him change his mind. If it was because of some sort of personal reason or whatever, I dunno, maybe... depends on a lot of things... but I draw the line at marriage. If it's a religious thing... no, I'm sorry.

 

[Arizona Kyle]

Absolutely. Love is about more than just sex.

THANK YOU!!!! Good gawd people base relationships and manliness on sex

Everyone knows manliness is directly proportional to hugeliness - LLR

 

[Mechanix]

I'd never be in that situation myself, because I don't think I could really love someone with those kinds of religious views. But, if I were you, I'd see if marriage for you two is a real possibility in the future, and how soon. If you think you can make it until then, I'd say stay with her. This may sound selfish, but you need to consider yourself as most important. It's just not fair to be stuck in a relationship where you are prevented from doing something this big.

 

[radioactive lemur]

So, I've been going out with this great girl for a while and we've been spending a lot of time together and all that and we're pretty sure we're in love (i say pretty sure because nothings really taken for granted in my world) and we kiss and all that, but she's Christian and believes that pre-marital sex is sin. Now, I'm not here to complain, I'm completely fine with following her views with that, but I wondered, would other people?
If you were deeply in love with a girl/boy and you wanted to take it a step further but they didn't believe in sex before marriage then would you accept that fact or would you not want to be with them anymore? I guess the question, when it boils down, is:
WOULD YOU BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE IF THERE WAS NO SEX UNTIL YOU WERE MARRIED, GARUANTEED?

Edit: I'm fine with waiting until after marriage to sleep together. In fact, I don't think the relationship needs sex, I think it would be a nice something on the side, cause that's not what I'm in it for. That's my answer

My answer is that if you truly love her, or even think you might, you should WAIT. Don't think of it as NEVER having sex ever, think of it as WAITING until after you are married. That's just not so bad, especially considering religious girls tend to want to get married real young. Unless you see no long term future with her, it's not "no sex guaranteed" it's "no sex right now."