Your first love

[Padwolf]

My first love was brilliant, he was everything I could have asked for in a boyfriend. But then he left me, for what seems to of been no reason at all and it tore my heart to shreds. He meant everything to me, was someone I could be myself with and had good times with. I don't dwell on it often now though, because I have to move on, he is not coming back and I guess I wouldn't take him back if he did. I guess it made me feel a lot less trusting and made me doubt myself for a while. But I had good friends to help me through it, who helped me feel better about myself. But now I know better about relationships and have learned a few lessons.

 

[xmbts]

Ah, my first love...they hated me with a passion.
Well whatever best not to dwell on these things.

 

[Jake the Snake]

Haven't had a first love. I've thought I had love, but that was just me being excited about being in a relationship. No, I don't think I've ever felt love. But I learned, that it's ok to have expectations. You don't just want to be whipped over any girl who'll give you the time of day. I feel like a stronger person because of the experiences I've had and am confident I will find love someday. Hopefully sooner than later.

 

[Max Goldfine]

My first love was brilliant, he was everything I could have asked for in a boyfriend. But then he left me, for what seems to of been no reason at all and it tore my heart to shreds. He meant everything to me, was someone I could be myself with and had good times with. I don't dwell on it often now though, because I have to move on, he is not coming back and I guess I wouldn't take him back if he did. I guess it made me feel a lot less trusting and made me doubt myself for a while. But I had good friends to help me through it, who helped me feel better about myself. But now I know better about relationships and have learned a few lessons.

on behalf of men everywhere, I'm sorry we are so fickle and emotionally unstable. I have dumped a girl because i got scared and couldnt handle the commitment. If iwould have stayed with her it probably would've been fine but my ego got the best of me. Its one of my biggest regrets not giving her a proper chance to be happy.

this thread is great btw.

 

[SturmDolch]

My first love was great. We seemed like the two most unlikely people to date, at least according to people that knew us. In actuality, we weren't all that different. We were both each other's first dates. We did everything together. I introduced her to all the things I liked and she loved it, too. Good movies, video games, Jim Butcher books... We started dating in Grade 11 and 2 and dated for two and a half years before...

Wait. Why am I talking in past tense? I'm still with her. And it's still going great. Especially now that friends are ditching us left and right in University, it's great to have someone to just be with that you can share anything with. I don't see myself with anyone else, ever.

 

[PixelKing]

I'm teenage, single and looking.
Don't really care however. I love you people <3 Hugz.

Top line was my seriousness.

 

[wynnsora]

Oh god my first boyfriend. He kept pushing me away from my friends, telling me that all my guy friends were just into me and not giving me a reason for my best friend (who at the time was my one female friend). I guess he was afraid I'd turn into a lesbian? Eventually I found out he was cheating on me from his younger brother. We split up, he tried to take me back, I said no.

 

[drisky]

My frist girl friend didn't last long, but it helped get at least some of my confidence back after middle and high school was girls being openly repulsed by me, it was a big deal that she told me I was physically attractive. Although she ended up leaving me quickly and I still have major confidence issues, it helped.

 

[Doctor What]

Well. We definitely had a really great run for the longest time. Then I moved away but we still managed to make it work. Then some seriously messed up shit happened and we bonded even more, but the damage was done. It's been getting rougher and rougher since that. And now, we're done. Very. Very. Very. Ugly. Never knew two people who loved each other could get so ugly and mean. I would certainly like to have handled it differently, but that's what life teaches you.

tl;dr: She stole my heart, and I hers but we couldn't account for life's difficulties.

 

[Thundero13]

I am in love with my first love right now, not that he'd ever feel that way about me :-(
He's made me think of love in a new way, and he's made me realise that people can be very different to what you think they are at first & that relationships can change very much (Long story).

 

[FlyAwayAutumn]

Well, there were some kids I loved in a not very romantical way when I was in elementary school and younger. Not really crushes, more like friendship, although I agreed to "date" one boy who was my buddy, since he asked, although there wasn't any romantical interest on my part, and it made me a bit unconfortable he had a crush on me.

I suppose my first love was this girl who sat next to me in school for a few days, before transferring away in junior high. It was the kind of thing where just being near her made me unable to do anything intelligent. We hardly spoke, since she transferred away after few days. I do remember she had a horrible case of acne and smelled nice.

Wait, wait I'm confused. You agreed to "Date" one boy, then your first love was a girl? I have to ask are you a girl or a boy?

Anyway on topic now, I've only ever had one girlfriend at one point I thought I was beggining to fall in love then she broke up with me on valentine's day. Felt bad man...

 

[ZakCanard]

L - she messed my head up good and proper, and made several therapists happy in the process. That was over 11 years ago and not for want of trying I've never dated since.

 

[Jonluw]

Hiya escapists.

I was just recently thinking of a song [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ycFYM5M6lM&feature=related].

Spoiler: The chorus goes, roughly translated, like this.

"My first love
Did more for me
Than you can ever imagine.

My greatest love
I gave to you
There was only one of it in me"

So I can't help but wonder; dear escapists: How was your first love, and what did it do to/for you?

Spoiler: My first love:

Spoiler: I do not really know if I have fallen in love with anyone yet, so I have to go with this girl

Yeah, she's a cartoon character. I know.

How has this affected me?
I suppose I have sort of a weak spot for read, semi-short hair and big eyes.
I'm also afraid that spending so much time fantasizing about love in my younger days might have left me with unreasonable standards and an unachieveable ideal of true love.

Shes an amazing, wonderful and bright young woman, I love her and what she does for me is enough to help me get through anything. <3

For a split second there, I thought you were talking about the girl in my post. I was very confused.

You wouldn't happen to be talking about yourself now? It doesn't count as a first love if it's yourself [sub]Or maybe it does? Maybe I can count myself as my first love? Instead of seeming like a nerd, I can seem like a narcissist... Nah, I don't really love myself in any case.[/sub]

Well, nice to hear you've got someone to share gay times with. (See what I did there?[sub]Or was that out of line? Jeez, insecurities.[/sub])

 

[GiglameshSoulEater]

And then there was my first real, adult, grown-up, honest-to-gods, capital letters LOVE, at age 20. I loved her then---13 years later I still love her, and I always will. Our relationship ended because she literally descended into madness. Schizophrenia, DSM-IV genuine psychiatrist diagnosis schizophrenia. And watching her slip away from me...I've dedicated the "Forever Rachel" song from Final Fantasy VI to her. I hope she's OK. I haven't seen her since everything went down.

If you dont mind me asking, where is she now then? Couldn't you visit her?

 

[Skye1]

She has put up with so much of my shit and she still puts up with me. She is the most amazing woman in my world and I love her so much.

 

[aether-x3]

My first "Love" was one of my guy friends, Got the courage to ask him out, getting rejected hit me pretty hard and has destroyed what little confidence I had. Also goes out with one of my closest friends and they got together just as I was in the next room. To add salt into the wound she promised me many times that nothing would ever happen between them two. :/

He was also my first kiss but thats a whole different story /ramble

 

[Zykon TheLich]

Not really sure if it could be called "love" in the true sense but it was at least the adolescent version of it mixed with a fair amount of drug abuse and other such crap. Perhaps the desire for sex drugs and rock and roll mixed in with feelings of admiration and concern. Stayed with her for the best part of 8 years on and off. Finally split up permanantly when I was 22 over an argument about a friend that had OD'd and I've not seen or spoken to her since. We'd grown apart over the years anyway and I was really only there for the memory of what we'd had and that's really no way to be in a relationship.

I guess it has had the effect that I'm quicker to give up on a relationship now, I don't see any point in grinding it into the ground in an attempt to make things work, I'd rather bail out before we start to hate each other so we can at least remain on decent speaking terms.