Your first love

[thecourtlibrarian]

My first love was an emotionally abusive jackwad, but I was too young to recognize that. I come from a small town where emotionally and physically abusive relationships are the norm, unfortunately. My parents only had a small period of this, thankfully, before my father sobered up. But being exposed to a culture where it's okay for your significant other to treat you like absolute shit, demand things (be it money, sex, time, etc) that you do not want to give, and physically hurt you, really warped my sense of what "normal" love should look like.

My first *real* love, though, is the man I'm with right now. It's been a long and tumultuous journey, because we both didn't know what a loving and caring relationship was supposed to feel like. (He's from the same place I am, oddly enough.) But we've figured it out, and now we complete each other. (As corny as that sounds....)

 

[jameskillalot]

I have not met a person I trust enough to become intimate with.

 

[SuccessAndBiscuts]

I've realised what I did wrong with my first love so it helped in that respect as I've learned from my mistakes. Unfortunately there are MANY mistakes with regards to the opposite sex and I've got a long way to go before I can learn from them all.

You will never learn them all, never.

[/hopecrusher]


My first love, is still a friend of mine she has hurt me more than anything else in my life but I'm kinda okay with it now. I just want her to be happy really. Guess I've moved on. This isn't exactly where I expected to first voice my realisations of how I've changed as a person but whatever.

Moral of the story: You can recover from having spent the best part of your life emotionally wrecked when it comes to the other sex.

 

[USmedik]

My first love and I are still really good friends. We were really young when it happened, she was a freshman in high school, I was a senior getting ready to leave for the Army. Really all we had was a year physically together and 8 months long distance, but this girl meant everything to me. There is still a huge part of me that is sour for the way things went down (tl;dr version, some girl I chatted with on yahoo was jealous of my relationship, hacked my email, and sent all sorts of nasty things to Malii. Since it was 2002, and she was barely a junior in high school, she had no idea this was even possible, and so she bought off on all of it, big fight, kerplosh). But we keep in touch, we've forgiven each other for our failings as younger versions of ourselves, and we live our lives.

I'd still kill for her though.

 

[Nagisa94]

My first love was my best friend. I met him last year when I was living in Brazil. I was in a horribly depressive state after leaving behind all my friends and family in the US and he was the only person who I was ever happy around. I eventually developed a crush on a girl at our school, got rejected, and fell into an even deeper depressive state. My friend helped bring me out of it, he was there for me, he was the only person I could talk to. It wasn't until after I returned to the US and he moved to Portugal when I started to fall in love with him. I didn't know what to think, this was my best friend. I eventually told him my feelings, and he said to me that he would always be there for me, but he didn't feel the same way, and he was sorry.
I still love him, even though I know I have no chance at all with him. And I still talk to him everyday. He's become like a mentor to me, the one person who I talk to about anything, and that's why I love him.

 

[Volothos]

The first girl i fell in love with has fucked me up. Makes me trust people less. Has made me almost too forgiving. *sigh* but i love her still

2nd one for me but without the still loving her

 

[Wildcard5]

I married my first love!

I hope to have that happen for myself seeing as I am still with her. I met her about four or five years before we actually became an item. In all that time she had never entered the dating game and had known me as an annoying yet loveable kid. I was able to shape myself into a far better person and worked up the courage to ask her, and she said yes.

It was not all sunshine and candy though. There was a small time at the begining where we split because a douche decided to move in on my happiness. They were together for all of two weeks in which time he made it abundently clear that his motive for wishing to be with her stemmed from one of humanities basest desires. He did not know that she has is hell bent on waiting for marriage, a fact "I" can live with. Needless to say they split after that little revelation, I waited a few weeks because I needed time to seethe and she was a bit broken up. After that she asked me if I wanted to get back together. I accepted and we have been together since and grown closer from the turmoil.

On a less personal note what is with the fixation on redheads?
I prefer a woman who has hair of ebony...

 

[endnuen]

My first love I have almost forgotten.
I've been reborn since then. Become a new and better person.
And none of that thanks to her.
On the rare occasion that I see her, I still care, but only as I would for any old friend.

 

[duchaked]

For me, legit "love" takes time. So really I can only say for real...one so far.

It didn't end well but I'm learning from it still. Messed me up? Yeah but changed me? Yeah, for better and for worse, depending on what I take away from it anyway.

Maybe number two will come around soon, but really by then (if it's to be legit) I won't be thinking numbers, just only one.

 

[nofear220]

The first girl i fell in love with has fucked me up. Makes me trust people less. Has made me almost too forgiving. *sigh* but i love her still

We're in the same boat

..uh, *man hug*

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

My first love was not but a year ago. Before that, I was essentially asexual, but... I don't know, she got me somehow.

Of course I regret things now, because my current girlfriend was eying me then and my relationship with my ex wasn't exactly healthy...
And the breakup just tore me up inside for months, which my current girlfriend thankfully helped me out of. So my first love was my worst love, and I feel nothing for her now. But hey, live and learn.

 

[Hashime]

Never had one, probably never will. That does not mean I will not reproduce though.

 

[General Vagueness]

I've only ever had a crush, just one. I was in first grade, believe it or not, and she'd been in my kindergarten class and rode the same bus I did. I moved away with my family after second grade and wished I'd told her. It took until somewhere around a year after my family had moved away to realize it wasn't love but I still wished I'd told her, and that taught me to take chances and not hold things back. (I still wish I'd told her.)

 

[Tdc2182]

I wouldn't say I have ever loved a girl, but I unfortunately have told women that I love them when I was backed into a corner and/or they misuderstood what I meant when I used the word "love" (long story) and then was immediately backed into same corner.

I have the unfortunate problem of-to put it bluntly- getting bored of the same relationship after a while.

I have grown to care about a girl, but I would not yet consider myself in love with anyone.

Except Emma Watson.

She's a babe.

 

[Tdc2182]

Never had one, probably never will. That does not mean I will not reproduce though.

Do your future child a favor and reconsider that.

 

[MegaManOfNumbers]

Love? no

Crush? yup, ALL THE TIME. well, used to.

now I've come to the conclusion being single and happy will do me way more good. that, and I'm a soulless, remorseless, unattractive asian freak of nature.

 

[Feste the Jester]

Mine was a simple school kid crush. I asked her out. She said yes. Then sent her friend to tell me she changed her mind.

 

[ComicsAreWeird]

My current girlfriend. My exes are nice and i still hang out with them on occasion, but this one is different.