Your first love

[Monkeylord]

My first love was my best friend. We spent a summer together, and the day I finally worked up the guts to tell her that I loved her (a sentiment I'm known to very rarely express) she leaves me to go back to the ex who hurt her on multiple occasions.

She showed me how much I could love someone.

Then she showed me just how much burning hatred I was capable of.

 

[samaugsch]

Hiya escapists.

I was just recently thinking of a song [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ycFYM5M6lM&feature=related].

Spoiler: The chorus goes, roughly translated, like this.

"My first love
Did more for me
Than you can ever imagine.

My greatest love
I gave to you
There was only one of it in me"

So I can't help but wonder; dear escapists: How was your first love, and what did it do to/for you?

Spoiler: My first love:

Spoiler: I do not really know if I have fallen in love with anyone yet, so I have to go with this girl

Yeah, she's a cartoon character. I know.

How has this affected me?
I suppose I have sort of a weak spot for read, semi-short hair and big eyes.
I'm also afraid that spending so much time fantasizing about love in my younger days might have left me with unreasonable standards and an unachieveable ideal of true love.

By first love, do you mean a crush or someone you actually dated?

 

[samaugsch]

My First(and only) love:
Sakura Kinomoto

She has turned me from a souless bastard to a slightly less souless bastard.
When she is near, I feel emotion... I feel... happy.

Only she can allow me to feel.

That's almost as creepy as seeing twilight fangirls going gaga over Edward Cullen.

 

[samaugsch]

Yet to have a first love. This makes me sad

Well, it's like I always say, "Better to not have loved at all than to have loved and lost."

 

[rosemystica]

My first love dumped me for a television set. Shit you not. He came up to me and said TV was more interesting and reliable than me. Me, who had always been there to help whenever he needed, whether on a school project or just a depressive episode.

So I have crippling self-esteem problems, and that's part of the reason for it. Yeah, I know he was probably just dating another girl or something, and I wish he would've told me that directly. I could have gotten over that pretty easily, because I can appreciate the qualities and charms of other women.

He really wasn't any great prize, himself--he was a whiner, lazy, and did not like the idea of self-improvement or ambitions. I've never missed him. But being told you're so incredibly dull that a guy would prefer an inanimate object for company kind of scars you when you're only twelve or thirteen.

I'm still sometimes worry that I really am that hideously boring.

So much for first love being the best love. XD

 

[samaugsch]

My first love dumped me for a television set. Shit you not. He came up to me and said TV was more interesting and reliable than me. Me, who had always been there to help whenever he needed, whether on a school project or just a depressive episode.

So I have crippling self-esteem problems, and that's part of the reason for it. Yeah, I know he was probably just dating another girl or something, and I wish he would've told me that directly. I could have gotten over that pretty easily, because I can appreciate the qualities and charms of other women.

He really wasn't any great prize, himself--he was a whiner, lazy, and did not like the idea of self-improvement or ambitions. I've never missed him. But being told you're so incredibly dull that a guy would prefer an inanimate object for company kind of scars you when you're only twelve or thirteen.

I'm still sometimes worry that I really am that hideously boring.

So much for first love being the best love. XD

This may be a good reason for me to stay single. I'll probably end up paying more attention to my computer/video game console than my gf.

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

The first guy I loved was pretty awesome. He and I shared a lot of interests; we had lots of great experiences; he loved me back; it was great.

Then he dumped me out of absolute nowhere after saying he'd stay with me long-term. It made my current relationship a real hard thing, because now I live with an eternal paranoia that one day I'll wake up and everything will go horribly wrong again. I feel like it's all my fault for asking him to commit before he was ready, and so now I try my best never, ever to bring up the topic. Nothing can convince me that I didn't screw myself over.

Fun times, eh?

You need a *hug*. And you know what they say, better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all. I'm still stuck on the second part.

 

[samaugsch]

The first guy I loved was pretty awesome. He and I shared a lot of interests; we had lots of great experiences; he loved me back; it was great.

Then he dumped me out of absolute nowhere after saying he'd stay with me long-term. It made my current relationship a real hard thing, because now I live with an eternal paranoia that one day I'll wake up and everything will go horribly wrong again. I feel like it's all my fault for asking him to commit before he was ready, and so now I try my best never, ever to bring up the topic. Nothing can convince me that I didn't screw myself over.

Fun times, eh?

You need a *hug*. And you know what they say, better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all. I'm still stuck on the second part.

I say that's bullshit. I've talked to or heard of plenty of people that get hurt really bad emotionally after loving and lost. I haven't had an actual gf ever and I'm not a bit upset. ^_^

 

[Max Goldfine]

Oh, and I dispute anyone's first love being in grade 5. That was just the first girl you tried to date.

Why? do you not think a 5th grader has the capacity to love? who are you to say otherwise?

No, a 5th grader can not love in the same way an adult can. They have no life experience and don't yet have the knowledge or judgement to make any meaningful decisions or come to meaninful conclusions at that level.

well, I'm telling you that you are wrong. allthough we were very young, what was between us was very beautiful and real. I have been in many many relationships and when you are in love you just know that you are.

 

[Rensenhito]

First love... For me it was a girl with long, curly brown hair and these huge brown eyes. She was tan and tall for a girl, and she lived in a log cabin. We were on the swim team together in the 7th grade, and I never worked up the courage to ask her out until a few of my teammates told her I "liked" her. I was right there when they told her, too. I thought I would die from embarrassment when it came out, but I didn't, and she said "sure." Off to the races it was from there.
We'd kiss outside the YMCA after swim practice. We hung out together at her house almost every day after school when we didn't have practice. We'd have our parents drop us off at movies. We went everywhere together. We even spent the night together once or twice, though nothing came of it besides more kissing. It was every 12-year-old's dream relationship.
Then, at the beginning of 9th grade, the high school gossip engine started working its magic on the two of us. Rumors started floating around that she was pregnant by me, despite the fact that we were both still virgins. That, combined with this newfound social awkwardness that came with being a freshman, ended up tearing us apart.
For a while after that, I couldn't let her go. I had been shut down inside. I couldn't function for months. We still spoke sometimes, but I didn't know how to be just friends with her. I learned slowly. But then, she started dating this douchebag with a black belt and a chip on his shoulder who said that if I ever spoke to her again, he'd bring a gun to school and kill me. (Needless to say, my high school wasn't a great place to be.)
I ignored him. Kept talking to her. They ended up breaking up anyway.
She invited me to her 16th birthday party. She also invited another former boyfriend and, to my surprise, a former girlfriend. That night, after everyone else had left, I lingered for an hour or so and talked her through some of her relationship and sexuality issues. It was the first natural conversation we'd had in three years. For that, I got a kiss and an acknowledgement that she knew I still loved her. I was a true friend, she'd said. Nothing more, nothing less.
That was the last time I ever saw her. She's at some out-of-state college now, and all my attempts at getting back in touch with her have failed. She seems to have vanished off the face of the earth, in fact.
There are few things I wouldn't give to talk to her again.

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

The first guy I loved was pretty awesome. He and I shared a lot of interests; we had lots of great experiences; he loved me back; it was great.

Then he dumped me out of absolute nowhere after saying he'd stay with me long-term. It made my current relationship a real hard thing, because now I live with an eternal paranoia that one day I'll wake up and everything will go horribly wrong again. I feel like it's all my fault for asking him to commit before he was ready, and so now I try my best never, ever to bring up the topic. Nothing can convince me that I didn't screw myself over.

Fun times, eh?

You need a *hug*. And you know what they say, better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all. I'm still stuck on the second part.

I say that's bullshit. I've talked to or heard of plenty of people that get hurt really bad emotionally after loving and lost. I haven't had an actual gf ever and I'm not a bit upset. ^_^

Shush you, I was trying to make Aurora feel better.

 

[Kevlar Eater]

I can safely say I've never had a first love. More than likely, I'd be scared shitless if that were to happen to me.

 

[dogenzakaminion]

The first girl i fell in love with has fucked me up. Makes me trust people less. Has made me almost too forgiving. *sigh* but i love her still

Know how you feel. My first "love" was a lecherous whore and made stop trusting women, but you need to turn the feelings that she messed you up into hate (essentially) and understand that she wasnt for you. Don't love someone who hurt you.

 

[Lieju]

Well, there were some kids I loved in a not very romantical way when I was in elementary school and younger. Not really crushes, more like friendship, although I agreed to "date" one boy who was my buddy, since he asked, although there wasn't any romantical interest on my part, and it made me a bit unconfortable he had a crush on me.

I suppose my first love was this girl who sat next to me in school for a few days, before transferring away in junior high. It was the kind of thing where just being near her made me unable to do anything intelligent. We hardly spoke, since she transferred away after few days. I do remember she had a horrible case of acne and smelled nice.

Wait, wait I'm confused. You agreed to "Date" one boy, then your first love was a girl? I have to ask are you a girl or a boy?

A woman.

 

[Strain42]

I dunno what my first LOVE was, but I still remember my first elementary school crush/sweetheart.

Her name was Michelle. We had a lot in common and I really liked her.

She woulda been way outta my league in high school lol

 

[Jonluw]

By first love, do you mean a crush or someone you actually dated?

That's open to interpretation.
Whatever had the greatest impact on you, I suppose.

 

[Caspertjuhh]

havent loved yet.

EDIT: I mean, having girlfriends doesn't mean you love them, right?

 

[Zersy]

My First One, I want to brutally torture and murder.

My Second, I want to beat with a cane.

As you can tell, I've lost almost all respect for women. But I'm Happy.

 

[pharaoh malik]

...My first love, in retrospect was quite a childish high school sort of love --looking back on it and comparing it to the present, I could hardly count it as love at all. But at the time that's what it was, young love and I gotta say ... it really fucked up my perceptions of men. I dated him for 3 years, and afterwards I pretty much despised men for awhile -- dated girls for a few years because I really had no trust for boys because of my unhealthy relationship with my ex. SO YA. Bad idea, I guess. -shrug- It's okay because I've learned from it, and now I'm back to guys... >n> which is a whole separate issue.. this one is a real asshole but I'm feeling some pretty deep feelings for him. BLAAAH. Because APPARENTLY i don't really learn my lesson at all. ^^; -dies-