Your grown-up kid is gay

[Snowalker]

I tell him to stop posting threads about it on the internet.

this.

 

[E-mantheseeker]

I don't get your point, should a parent have a long conversation with their child about how they have sex with a similar gender? It really is something to shrug off, if a child tells their parent that they're straight, the parent wouldn't care, so why should any parent care if their kid is gay? Because the rest of America isn't "cool" with it?

Come on, you must realise that's ridiculous. That's like saying that we shouldn't bother to give counselling to victims of rape because we wouldn't give it to those who've had consensual sex. It's a lot tougher to be gay than straight simply in virtue of the fact that the majority are straight and, whilst homosexuality is a lot more accepted these days than it used to be, there is still vociferous anti-gay believers in the public. The BNP (here in the UK) are usually quite open about it and, like it or not, every single major religion condemns homosexuality (it's not an adequate rationalisation to claim that followers of the religion don't 'really' think that because if they claim to align themselves with an openly gay-hating religion that's almost as bad as 'really' thinking homosexuality is wrong).

Now I'm not arguing that we need to all be really tolerant and no-one should dare have a controversial opinion, nor am I saying (as my analogy might imply) that gays need 'counselling' to 'cope' with their sexuality, I'm merely saying that a gay child is going to face incredibly different hurdles to a straight child and I'm sure they'd prefer their parents to be behind them and try and help them out.

Well of course I'd help my gay child deal with any issues that arises because of their homosexuality, the same way I'd help a straight child of mine. That's basically what I mean, on an individual level there's nothing that needs to be said, because when it's broken down, my child simply finds the same sex attractive. However if they come home and they want to discuss an issue that came up because of their homosexuality, I'll help them out. Not because they're gay, but because they need help/advice with something.

Overall I think everyone's seemingly indifferent reaction is based on the thought that the child in question is admitting their homosexuality just for the sake of saying it.

 

[Arisato-kun]

Don't care. That matter would be my kid's decision to make, not mine. I'd stay supportive.

 

[Jumplion]

First I'd ask him if he truly believed he was gay. If he is, I'll completely respect him either way, but for all I know it could just be a phase in his life (sexual confusion and whatnot) of having some homoerotic dreams about his friends or something, and if that's the case I'll just sit back and just wait for it to pass. Could be bisexual, wouldn't care.

Whatever the case may be, I'd still respect him, he's my flesh and blood after all.

 

[benylor]

Make a point of saying their sexuality matters not at all to me, and that I'm absolutely fine with it. But, advise them that not everybody is as rational and sensible about the issue of homosexuality as I am, and that at some point in their life they're going to have to deal with some bigoted pricks who'll hate them for it. Crucially, the final thing is advice on dealing with these people.

 

[brumby]

So thats why he liked dressing up in women's clothing..!

 

[Shock and Awe]

In all seriousness that is what I would do.

 

[t0mba]

HAR HAR I would hug'em

 

[Rascarin]

See if I could do anything to turn him straight again. If that failed I'd have to accept it.

You can't "turn" a gay person straight. It really doesn't work that way.

 

[cobra_ky]

What an ignorant douche you are.

First of all, refrain from calling other users names. You've made it clear your only intentions in our community is trolling, however you could at least do so without blatantly breaking the guidelines for the site.

Ffs, why do you think I care what you have to say about me?

because he's telling you how not to get banned.

Stop posting shit about my sometimes nonsensical, rambling, hypocritical and sometimes offensive comments, and get back to the frakking topic at hand, which is: What would you do if your kid announced he/she were gay?

no, we're going to keep harping on it until you learn you're accountable for the things you say or we stop getting a reaction. if you want to change the subject then just stop responding, starting with this post.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

I honestly believe that sexual orientation has everything to do with genetic predisposition, so it's not my fault in any way, or a deviation on his/her part.


Anyway, here's what I'd say:

"That's nice, but I want to know something... do sharks fart?"​

 

[HyenaThePirate]

I would tell them that they should be who they feel they should be and always follow their heart, no matter how hard it might be to do.

Then I would walk away and never talk to or acknowledge their existence again.
I disagree with homosexuality, and have personal opinions on it that I will just suffice to say are not positive/nor supportive.

I understand people are people and have their own ideas and feelings and are capable of making their own decisions.
I would not stop my child from following his true destiny.
But I would no longer be a part of it.
SO I would wish him well and advise him that he should just consider me "dead" whenever someone asks him about his father.
Because to him, I truly would be.

 

[Aunel]

I tell him to stop posting threads about it on the internet.

shazam, burn

it wouldn't bother me at all.

 

[kannibus]

Toss him or her a condom and say, "You still gotta watch out for those STDs."

 

[cobra_ky]

So thats why he liked dressing up in women's clothing..!

transvestism does not equal homosexuality.

See if I could do anything to turn him straight again. If that failed I'd have to accept it.

You can't "turn" a gay person straight. It really doesn't work that way.

plus you're assuming he was straight to begin with.

 

[Rolling Thunder]

Congratulations, you figured that out. *Hugs*

What, you thought I'd be pissed?

I would tell them that they should be who they feel they should be and always follow their heart, no matter how hard it might be to do.

Then I would walk away and never talk to or acknowledge their existence again.
I disagree with homosexuality, and have personal opinions on it that I will just suffice to say are not positive/nor supportive.

I understand people are people and have their own ideas and feelings and are capable of making their own decisions.
I would not stop my child from following his true destiny.
But I would no longer be a part of it.
SO I would wish him well and advise him that he should just consider me "dead" whenever someone asks him about his father.
Because to him, I truly would be.

I really, really do not like you. At all. Entirely. Either you're a child, and thus, really shouldn't be posting here, or you are simply an entirely, wholly contemptible person. What kind of wretch are you, to put something as tawdry and malleable as beliefs or ideals, over a person you love, care for, raised.....Seriously. Explain it to me. Explain what the fuck is so important in your beliefs that it overrules something as important as love.

I can understand being uncomfortable with homosexuals. I can understand thinking 'well, maybe some of them are going a bit to far'. I can understand considering it unnatural. I can not, I honestly cannot physically comprehend, though, abandoning a child, a child you loved, cherished and raised, in essence, destroying them...for what!? For what purpose, for what reason!? Damn you sir, explain this....utter, abject...insanity! This viciousness, this unnatural, monstrous coldness in your nature, it repells me so!


Oh fuck.


Damnit.


Just....ah, hell. Sod this for a game of soldiers, I really shouldn't get this angry.

 

[GLXRBLT]

If I had a boy: I'd give him a pack of condoms.
If I had a girl: I'd buy her some hairproducts.