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Get made redundant means lose job/be fired. If this is the case I recommend trying to find a job very similar to what you had. If things start to get difficult finding a job ask your spouse (if you have one) to get a job, if only temporary, to help support the family. If it's not possible try branching out into different sectors, even if the pay is slightly lower. This way you increase your job diversity and you can easier move around.corporate_gamer said:
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Hey thanks for all the help. For the nightmare stuff I eat about two hours before sleep and stress hovers around me. I can't get rid of the stress (last two weeks before holidays mean we get exam marks back and must do a ton of work for report card). But the thing is that my nightmares are of the most random things. Occasionally it goes on to stuff I can understand but the rest is like a swirling shadows, masses of light...etc. For some reason this freaks me out.
Continuing the divorce thing. I see my Dad for new years and I don't know how I feel about this. Should I be angry at him for making things so difficult for my Mum? Should I accept him? But most importantly...should I still love him? Is it wrong if I do?
Although it's perfectly natural to feel angry with him, you also have to remember that he is your father and wants to see you, and you should try to remain impartial to both parties. After all there may be more to it than you realise. Of course it isn't wrong to love him and you still should.notyouraveragejoe said:
notyouraveragejoe said:
I think the best thing you can do is to get his side of the story. And yes, he is your father, and he does want to see you, so you shouldn't go into this angry and hating him. Just keep in mind that every story has two sides.galletea said:
To deal with bitterness you can do a few things. I recommend joining a team or starting a sport (especially boxing). Or if you're less sporty do what I did and start playing an instrument. If a fit of rage/venom hits you, let it out once in a while just to let people know how little you fucking care whether or not their life rocks.
I heard my Dads side of the story. The reason they split up is because he changed (and its not my Mum saying that its that I saw that). My Dad doesn't know why he doesn't have money to give my Mum. I think that's bullshit and that is what pisses me off the most. Also it seems like he doesn't care. I know for sure that he threw a party last saturday. I find that disgusting. I'm also scared with how I'll act when I see him since I don't want to make him feel bad since I think he's beating himself up.
Overall Dilemma: It feels like my parents are trying to get me to pick between them but I can't. It is possible to love both without hurting either?
I heard my Dads side of the story. The reason they split up is because he changed (and its not my Mum saying that its that I saw that). My Dad doesn't know why he doesn't have money to give my Mum. I think that's bullshit and that is what pisses me off the most. Also it seems like he doesn't care. I know for sure that he threw a party last saturday. I find that disgusting. I'm also scared with how I'll act when I see him since I don't want to make him feel bad since I think he's beating himself up.
Overall Dilemma: It feels like my parents are trying to get me to pick between them but I can't. It is possible to love both without hurting either?
Though never on good terms from my three dad's, I think best advice is to support both as much as you want. But if you feel your dad is making it harder on your mom I would suggest to speak to him about it. Trust me no matter how it goes you want to go say how you feel in these situations rather then biting your tongue.notyouraveragejoe said:
Overall: Just do not regret not saying or taking a stand if you want,Or you may not get that chance to sit down again with them. Support and love them both in the way you want to and that's all both of them should ask for is that support and love.
The thing is I have trouble confronting either of my parents since I'm really over-protective of them. This means I am afraid that confronting either will cause them pain. Also if I confront my Dad he may feel that I resent him for becoming who he is. Changing to make himself "better." Argh...I hate divorce.
True, Maybe thinking about it in a reverse way where what would you want your son doing in a situation like that. I think most parents would be happy to have a child who just supports them and loves them in there own way. Even though being the middle person just have to do the best you can and that's all you can do.
That way your happy and that alone should give them both some joy knowing your doing good during all of it.
That way your happy and that alone should give them both some joy knowing your doing good during all of it.
You have a point. It's instinctual for a parent to want their children to be happy and safe. It means that they can preserve their legacy.Chiasm said:
On an unrelated note, can we get some more problems? I think we've discussed the current ones to the point where they're solved.
I want help on trying to improve my writing. I am pretty decent but I have massive trouble getting my ideas down on paper. Could someone impart some general tips? I would appreciate it.
I am also having trouble with finding a job. I, for some unexplainable reason, am having massive trouble with finding a first job. I get this feeling that I have to go in to a job interview and be told that I got a job. Over the summer, I went on a job interview for Barnes and Noble and found that I did not get the job 3 weeks after the interview. I feel that I can not deal with the down time inbetween the letter of employment or rejection. I think the word disillusioned applies here.
I am also having trouble with finding a job. I, for some unexplainable reason, am having massive trouble with finding a first job. I get this feeling that I have to go in to a job interview and be told that I got a job. Over the summer, I went on a job interview for Barnes and Noble and found that I did not get the job 3 weeks after the interview. I feel that I can not deal with the down time inbetween the letter of employment or rejection. I think the word disillusioned applies here.
Well, you can normally get a feel for whether or not you're going to get hired at the end of the interview. But really, the trick is to apply to multiple jobs at once. That way you increase your chances of getting at least one job.DreamKing said:
What about your writing are you having troubles with exactly? Motivation? Wording? You have to be more specific than that, but here's a tip (it's what I do when I have "writer's block)DreamKing said:
To do this, you'll need:
-to be familiar with your keyboard (you know where the keys are)
-Something to wrap around your head.
Sit in front of your computer, PHYSICALLY put your wrap/blindfold/etc. over your eyes, and start typing. It doesn't have to be about anything at all: just start writing about whatever comes to mind. You'll make a LOT of spelling/grammar errors along the way, but it'll help you stay motivated (cause you're not stressing about what to write and more importantly you can laugh at how bad it was when you need a bit of humor). For academic writing, it's not much different: just write about everything that comes to mind/you know from research/etc., and then go back and re-write it with your ideas already on paper.
It's crap writing, but hey, you're actually writing.
Next thing you know, my pet alien will think he's Caesar & start taking over the world. O wai...
Edit: lol posted in the wrong thread.
Edit: lol posted in the wrong thread.