Your Problems

[xitel]

Have any of you ever thought that this is your problem? The very fact that you are on the Internet asking for help rather than just DOING it. The time that you spend on the Internet and on Games has to be limited to encorperate time for Studies and work.

Christ, come on!

The point of this thread is to get advice. No matter what the problem is, you can still always use advice. And the reason asking here is useful is because you can maintain a certain level of anonymity if you have a slightly embarrassing question that you wouldn't feel comfortable asking your friends in person.

If you feel you can't ask your friend something because it may be embarrassing, then you need to look at the relationship you have with him/her.

Deep down you will always know what is wrong with yourself and you know what to do but just don't have the motivation or confidence to do it. You just want someone else to clarify your desision, and that's okay. But people over the Internet don't know you, and part of giving advice on a situation is knowing the person you are giving it to.

I still strongly feel that you should just think as much and do as much as you can in a situation before giving up and resolrting to asking someone else. Self motivation is important in life.

Some people find that logical, anonymous advice is just what certain situations call for. If you don't want advice, then don't ask for it. If you want to help people, then by all means do so. But don't insult people just because they are looking for advice on a problem they may have.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

Have any of you ever thought that this is your problem? The very fact that you are on the Internet asking for help rather than just DOING it. The time that you spend on the Internet and on Games has to be limited to encorperate time for Studies and work.

Christ, come on!

The point of this thread is to get advice. No matter what the problem is, you can still always use advice. And the reason asking here is useful is because you can maintain a certain level of anonymity if you have a slightly embarrassing question that you wouldn't feel comfortable asking your friends in person.

If you feel you can't ask your friend something because it may be embarrassing, then you need to look at the relationship you have with him/her.

Deep down you will always know what is wrong with yourself and you know what to do but just don't have the motivation or confidence to do it. You just want someone else to clarify your desision, and that's okay. But people over the Internet don't know you, and part of giving advice on a situation is knowing the person you are giving it to.

I still strongly feel that you should just think as much and do as much as you can in a situation before giving up and resolrting to asking someone else. Self motivation is important in life.

Some people just want to remain anonymous when asking. Don't ask for advice if you don't want it and help people if you feel like it, but don't mess with people asking for advice.

 

[xitel]

Alright, I've got a problem. A friend of mine doesn't get that parroting me annoys everyone, and I'm worried that other folks think that I like him doing it. I JUST CAN'T GET HIM TO STOP.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

Have you tried talking to him personally?

 

[Uncompetative]

Well, I managed to drop out of Art School so I don't think I'm in a position to give out advice ;-)

 

[xitel]

Have you tried talking to him personally?

Yes, yes I have. STOP STALKING ME.

Well, I managed to drop out of Art School so I don't think I'm in a position to give out advice ;-)

Well, you can give advice on the other problems here.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

Well, maybe he's just really bored and trying to get a laugh or two.

 

[xitel]

Have any of you ever thought that this is your problem? The very fact that you are on the Internet asking for help rather than just DOING it. The time that you spend on the Internet and on Games has to be limited to encorperate time for Studies and work.

Christ, come on!

The point of this thread is to get advice. No matter what the problem is, you can still always use advice. And the reason asking here is useful is because you can maintain a certain level of anonymity if you have a slightly embarrassing question that you wouldn't feel comfortable asking your friends in person.

If you feel you can't ask your friend something because it may be embarrassing, then you need to look at the relationship you have with him/her.

Deep down you will always know what is wrong with yourself and you know what to do but just don't have the motivation or confidence to do it. You just want someone else to clarify your desision, and that's okay. But people over the Internet don't know you, and part of giving advice on a situation is knowing the person you are giving it to.

I still strongly feel that you should just think as much and do as much as you can in a situation before giving up and resolrting to asking someone else. Self motivation is important in life.

Some people find that logical, anonymous advice is just what certain situations call for. If you don't want advice, then don't ask for it. If you want to help people, then by all means do so. But don't insult people just because they are looking for advice on a problem they may have.

I was frustrated and still am. I don't mean it in an insulting way. I just think that anonymous advice is such a bad way to go about getting help. If you want help, ask a family member, a friend, a Shrink. But not the Internet. People on the Internet don't know who you are.

However, if it's a problem like "what tie should I wear", which has already been asked, then folks on the internet can give perfectly fine advice. As far as more serious problems go, I'm not saying that you should only go by the advice you get from here, but instead use it as a source of 3rd-party advice. Sometimes the advice you get from people who don't know you is more useful than the stuff you get from your friends and family.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

What color slacks should I wear to my job I mentioned earlier? I have to wear a white shirt and that's set in stone.

 

[xitel]

What color slacks should I wear to my job I mentioned earlier? I have to wear a white shirt and that's set in stone.

Light brown. They're not to casual, not too formal, and go well with the houndstooth.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

So I should wear light brown because it's not too casual or formal and it goes with a houndstooth?

 

[Uncompetative]

I got a problem, let's see if anyone can relate. How do you cope with everyone dismissing what you're passionate about? I was raised up in a halfway traditional Asian household (i.e. still Asian values but just a little bit of freedom), but I "betrayed" my family by loving to write vs. being an engineer. I'm eternally grateful to my family (because they supported me through college, after all), but I'm still treated like crap.

Friends of family don't miss the opportunity to sometimes brag about their profession (Doctors and engineers, mainly), other people are adamant about me going to law school (the only "prestigious" career path left to me), and many feel fit to be condescending whenever I voice an opinion (after I made an off-hand comment about Twilight to my sister (a big fan), she said "Well, Sorry I'm not as well-read as you are, I'm too busy BEING A DOCTOR" -_-).

Have any of you taken any flak for your career paths? My friends that usually cheer me on and give me strength are currently scattered around the world, so it's a bit of a tough period right now. Who in your life gives you hope/strength to follow your dreams despite all opposition? I think this has turned into a bit of a rant, so I'll stop now.

I'll have a bash at answering this...

If you really care about what you are doing, it isn't a "means to survive" job, it isn't even a "gain social prestige" career, it is a passion.

Unfortunately, this cuts both ways. Yes, you can ignore what the rest of your siblings assert as 'the correct and only way to live', but only if you make what you have chosen to do with your life your top priority. This means that any relationships that you may choose to 'blend' into your life-mix will ultimately push you back into the direction of tempering you life-path as a career ("selling out") or just plain giving up (as babies are very expensive) as the shoestring-budget you could exist on by yourself stretches to break apart when you have to support others, in all likelihood compelling you towards that undesired job.

However, following your "passion" is incredibly rewarding on a daily basis. Thinking about it further, your siblings may not be jealous of your freedom, but bitter at the sacrifices they have to make every day doing things they don't feel deeply passionate about.

I hope that helps.

 

[xitel]

So I should wear light brown because it's not too casual or formal and it goes with a houndstooth?

Although I would recommend maybe a dark green tie if you wear light brown slacks. Or you could wear dark green slacks and a light brown tie. Yeah, the second one is better.

 

[xitel]

I got a problem, let's see if anyone can relate. How do you cope with everyone dismissing what you're passionate about? I was raised up in a halfway traditional Asian household (i.e. still Asian values but just a little bit of freedom), but I "betrayed" my family by loving to write vs. being an engineer. I'm eternally grateful to my family (because they supported me through college, after all), but I'm still treated like crap.

Friends of family don't miss the opportunity to sometimes brag about their profession (Doctors and engineers, mainly), other people are adamant about me going to law school (the only "prestigious" career path left to me), and many feel fit to be condescending whenever I voice an opinion (after I made an off-hand comment about Twilight to my sister (a big fan), she said "Well, Sorry I'm not as well-read as you are, I'm too busy BEING A DOCTOR" -_-).

Have any of you taken any flak for your career paths? My friends that usually cheer me on and give me strength are currently scattered around the world, so it's a bit of a tough period right now. Who in your life gives you hope/strength to follow your dreams despite all opposition? I think this has turned into a bit of a rant, so I'll stop now.

I'll have a bash at answering this...

If you really care about what you are doing, it isn't a "means to survive" job, it isn't even a "gain social prestige" career, it is a passion.

Unfortunately, this cuts both ways. Yes, you can ignore what the rest of your siblings assert as 'the correct and only way to live', but only if you make what you have chosen to do with your life your top priority. This means that any relationships that you may choose to 'blend' into your life-mix will ultimately push you back into the direction of tempering you life-path as a career ("selling out") or just plain giving up (as babies are very expensive) as the shoestring-budget you could exist on by yourself stretches to break apart when you have to support others, in all likelihood compelling you towards that undesired job.

However, following your "passion" is incredibly rewarding on a daily basis. Thinking about it further, your siblings may not be jealous of your freedom, but bitter at the sacrifices they have to make every day doing things they don't feel deeply passionate about.

I hope that helps.

You have a point. Enjoying your job, looking forward to coming to work each day, is one of the greatest intangible benefits you can have.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

So I should wear light brown because it's not too casual or formal and it goes with a houndstooth?

Although I would recommend maybe a dark green tie if you wear light brown slacks. Or you could wear dark green slacks and a light brown tie. Yeah, the second one is better.

Are you sure? my hair is a fairly dark brown as well.

 

[xitel]

So I should wear light brown because it's not too casual or formal and it goes with a houndstooth?

Although I would recommend maybe a dark green tie if you wear light brown slacks. Or you could wear dark green slacks and a light brown tie. Yeah, the second one is better.

Are you sure? my hair is a fairly dark brown as well.

It still works. It's contrast.

 

[crimson5pheonix]

So I should wear light brown because it's not too casual or formal and it goes with a houndstooth?

Although I would recommend maybe a dark green tie if you wear light brown slacks. Or you could wear dark green slacks and a light brown tie. Yeah, the second one is better.

Are you sure? my hair is a fairly dark brown as well.

It still works. It's contrast.

Okay then. I'll try it. Thanks.

 

[Seydaman]

Im having trouble keeping my grades up in school.Im somewhat lazy and need some help?