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MrHappy255

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This thread has broken down into two dudes practically cuddling each other or is that coddling, I dunno.
Guys, crap hat has a point, discuss issues or problems not personal things that require first hand knowledge of you to give an appropriate response. but really two smiley faces talking to each other, hey wth. Have fun. :)
 

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MrHappy255 said:
This thread has broken down into two dudes practically cuddling each other or is that coddling, I dunno.
Guys, crap hat has a point, discuss issues or problems not personal things that require first hand knowledge of you to give an appropriate response. but really two smiley faces talking to each other, hey wth. Have fun. :)
Well, we're trying to get people to post their problems, but folks seem to be ignoring the thread. Unfortunately, folks seem to keep ignoring it. As for the thing with Crim, yes, he's just weird like that. He can't stop screwing around.
 

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MrHappy255 said:
This thread has broken down into two dudes practically cuddling each other or is that coddling, I dunno.
Guys, crap hat has a point, discuss issues or problems not personal things that require first hand knowledge of you to give an appropriate response. but really two smiley faces talking to each other, hey wth. Have fun. :)
Can you not appreciate good humor? I can't allow a serious thread to exist. If you don't break the tension, it gets boring.
 

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seydaman said:
Im having trouble keeping my grades up in school.Im somewhat lazy and need some help?
Well, your best bet would be to find some way to provide external motivation. If you can't make yourself motivated, get your friend or roommate to motivate you. Personally, I had my roommate reach over and turn the TV off anytime I turned it on until I finished my paper.
 

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crimson5pheonix said:
MrHappy255 said:
This thread has broken down into two dudes practically cuddling each other or is that coddling, I dunno.
Guys, crap hat has a point, discuss issues or problems not personal things that require first hand knowledge of you to give an appropriate response. but really two smiley faces talking to each other, hey wth. Have fun. :)
Can you not appreciate good humor? I can't allow a serious thread to exist. If you don't break the tension, it gets boring.
Actually, could you please make a concerted effort to keep this thread serious? I don't want it to die like all the other threads you post on. I want this to be a place people can actually get advice.
 

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xitel said:
crimson5pheonix said:
MrHappy255 said:
This thread has broken down into two dudes practically cuddling each other or is that coddling, I dunno.
Guys, crap hat has a point, discuss issues or problems not personal things that require first hand knowledge of you to give an appropriate response. but really two smiley faces talking to each other, hey wth. Have fun. :)
Can you not appreciate good humor? I can't allow a serious thread to exist. If you don't break the tension, it gets boring.
Actually, could you please make a concerted effort to keep this thread serious? I don't want it to die like all the other threads you post on. I want this to be a place people can actually get advice.
My threads don't die, they just fade away.
 

Ken Korda

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Can I ask an essay question? I was wondering if anyone here might think of something I hadn't
 

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Ken Korda said:
Can I ask an essay question? I was wondering if anyone here might think of something I hadn't
Any questions. What is it?
 

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Duck Sandwich said:
I've been doing kickboxing for 5 months and mixed martial arts for 1 month. But there is the occasional moment during my training where I just feel like I've lost my edge. Like I just can't do as good as I normally do. I must admit that sometimes I have a very slight lack of motivation, but other times, I just tire out more easily than I normally do.

I don't think the problem is with my eating/sleeping habits. I almost never eat junk food, and I get at least 7 hours of sleep a day. (I read on a fitness website once that the more you exercise, the less sleep you need, so I should be able to get along fine with 1 less hour of sleep than most people, seeing as how I do kickboxing fairly often)
Two questions I have to ask you:
1. Have you sparred/gotten to the level sparring?
2. Do you have any "close" friends/people about your skill level that are "rivals"?

I've had the same problem before, definitely, and for a while I bounced around from one martial art to the next (TWD, various forms of karate, capoeira, etc.) but I stuck with Aikido once I got into it. It wasn't just because I liked the martial art (I had liked other forms of martial arts as well), it was because I had competition/teachers. I had people in my classes about my skill level to practice basics/fundamentals, and friends outside that were of varying belts in different martial arts (TKD, BJJ, Kung Fu, Karate, etc.) to "mock spar".

We taught each other the basics from other martial arts, and more importantly we put things into practice. I remember how giddy I was when I got an elbow lock on my friend that did BJJ for the first time. It keeps you sharp, and makes martial arts exciting when you have someone to practice with/spar against.
 

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One thing I should clarify: The type of kickboxing class I take is more of a cardio workout-type thing than a martial arts class that focuses on technique and learning moves. There's no actual contact involved (one partner holds a bag and the other punches/elbows/knees/kicks it).

However, in every Mixed Martial Arts class that I take, we do BJJ type sparring where we start off on our knees and try to get the opponent in a submission (there's no striking allowed).

But yesterday, for the first time in Mixed Martial Arts, we did some light kickboxing style sparring where we were wearing gloves, shin guards, head gear, and (for those that had them) mouth guards. It was awesome.

As for your other question, none of my friends do martial arts, except for one guy that does Aikido, but he lives far away so sparring is out of the question. But in my mixed martial arts classes, I do have a sort of "rival" with whom I had the aforementioned sparring match. He's better and more experienced, but our sparring match was pretty closely matched and not one-sided.

For the time being, I'm going to stick with kickboxing, as it's my best way of staying in shape. Perhaps sometime when I move out to college, I'll take Tae Kwon Do or Muay Thai if I get the chance.
 

Good morning blues

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seydaman said:
Im having trouble keeping my grades up in school.Im somewhat lazy and need some help?
There are a couple of different skills you might need to develop based on what sort of school you're in - grade school or post-secondary, I mean - but here are some tips that have always worked for me (might be biased toward university stuff but should be generally applicable):

-Have a wall calendar. Not the type with one page per day and you tear it off, the type that shows a whole month at once. Separate it out so that you have all of the months of your semester, and put them on the wall behind your working space so that you can see the entire semester at once. Once you get your course outlines, write down every major event on those calendars - exams, assignment due dates, anything else important. You will be able to see when you'll have lots of time and when you're going to need to get to work. If any of the dates change, update the calendar immediately. It's one of your most valuable planning tools.

-Speak to your teaching staff about your assignments. Especially if you're in university/college, because those profs are lonely and nobody ever comes to their office hours and they really want to talk to you. I went to a prof to ask about an essay topic, and he handed me three books, pointed to chapters to read, and asked me to get the books back to him at the next lecture. These people are there to help, and especially in a university setting, doing so is one of the most rewarding parts of their jobs, so they're sure to do it.

-Use study groups. Do the assignment on your own, and then meet up with other people and look over each others' work. Never hand in an essay that hasn't been proofread by at least one other person.

-Teachers always tell you what you need to know; you just need to figure out how they're doing it. Only some of what they're saying in lecture is important; the most important thing is to separate the wheat from the chaff, as it were.

-When doing readings, don't use a highligher or underline the important bits. Take notes. Rephrase them into your own words. It's really easy to read a paragraph and absent-mindedly highlight the sentence with a lot of big words; if you're taking notes, you need to take the ideas, understand them, and rephrase them. By taking notes, you're forcing yourself to actually process the information.

-Get enough sleep, especially before exams. Never pull all-nighters; use your calendar to plan ahead and do your assignments while there's still plenty of time.
 

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Is it right for me to embrace the capitalistic society in order to achieve wealth so that i may spend it on ecological philanthropy and scientific research in order to advance society and protect the planet?
 

wewontdie11

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ianuam said:
Is it right for me to embrace the capitalistic society in order to achieve wealth so that i may spend it on ecological philanthropy and scientific research in order to advance society and protect the planet?
No! You may not attempt to better mankind!

...sorry *serious face*

Ok serious problem, is it ethically justifiable to attempt to seduce somebody currently in a relationship? Not like cheating but attempting to lure a person away from their current partner, because my conscience has been kicking my ass about this one recently.

Also has anybody got any particularly good de-stressing techniques or activities? My usual shooting pixelated people and drinking heavily hasn't been cutting the mustard as of late.
 

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ianuam said:
Is it right for me to embrace the capitalistic society in order to achieve wealth so that i may spend it on ecological philanthropy and scientific research in order to advance society and protect the planet?
If you use the money for good I don't see what's wrong.
 

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wewontdie11 said:
ianuam said:
Is it right for me to embrace the capitalistic society in order to achieve wealth so that i may spend it on ecological philanthropy and scientific research in order to advance society and protect the planet?
No! You may not attempt to better mankind!

...sorry *serious face*

Ok serious problem, is it ethically justifiable to attempt to seduce somebody currently in a relationship? Not like cheating but attempting to lure a person away from their current partner, because my conscience has been kicking my ass about this one recently.

Also has anybody got any particularly good de-stressing techniques or activities? My usual shooting pixelated people and drinking heavily hasn't been cutting the mustard recently.
It's almost never justified to get someone out of a relationship for selfish reasons. It's only really morally justified when they're in an abusive relationship and you have no interest in them other than their well being.

As for de-stressing, meditation, gardening, country walks and cooking work for me.
 

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ianuam said:
wewontdie11 said:
ianuam said:
Is it right for me to embrace the capitalistic society in order to achieve wealth so that i may spend it on ecological philanthropy and scientific research in order to advance society and protect the planet?
No! You may not attempt to better mankind!

...sorry *serious face*

Ok serious problem, is it ethically justifiable to attempt to seduce somebody currently in a relationship? Not like cheating but attempting to lure a person away from their current partner, because my conscience has been kicking my ass about this one recently.

Also has anybody got any particularly good de-stressing techniques or activities? My usual shooting pixelated people and drinking heavily hasn't been cutting the mustard recently.
It's almost never justified to get someone out of a relationship for selfish reasons. It's only really morally justified when they're in an abusive relationship and you have no interest in them other than their well being.

As for de-stressing, meditation, gardening, country walks and cooking work for me.
What he said.

Also, reading removes my stress.
 

wewontdie11

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ianuam said:
It's almost never justified to get someone out of a relationship for selfish reasons. It's only really morally justified when they're in an abusive relationship and you have no interest in them other than their well being.

As for de-stressing, meditation, gardening, country walks and cooking work for me.
Ah you see I've got the whole angel and devil on the shoulders thing going on because I know it's inherently wrong to attempt to break up a perfectly fine relationship, and I'm usually a very morally upstanding person, but on the other more selfish hand, I can't really help how I feel about the person in said relationship a great deal either. Plus my life has been full of too many "what ifs" already and I really wouldn't like to chalk another one on there.

Also the stress, I did used to meditate but I found it became less and less effective until I gave up on it. Gardening stresses me to no end, I do it for a job in the summer and the physical labour does me no favours. I don't think I've got a long enough attention span for walking as instead of clearing my mind I tend to just get bored unless I'm with my dog, which voids the whole de-stress thing anyway. Have also tried cooking but I'm a terrible chef. If it isn't sealed in plastic with the instructions on the back I can't cook it.
 

odatnarat

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wow. this is like psychoanalysis online.

i've got love, work, academic, and time management problems.
which one do you wanna solve first? lol.
 

Good morning blues

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ianuam said:
Is it right for me to embrace the capitalistic society in order to achieve wealth so that i may spend it on ecological philanthropy and scientific research in order to advance society and protect the planet?
I'm not down with mass culture and commercial culture and consumerism, but I know how to use that money a hell of a lot better than the people buying themselves beemers do. Thrive in the society you're in, and use your resources to improve it.

wewontdie11 said:
Ok serious problem, is it ethically justifiable to attempt to seduce somebody currently in a relationship? Not like cheating but attempting to lure a person away from their current partner, because my conscience has been kicking my ass about this one recently.
I'm going to give you a convoluted answer. My girlfriend left another dude so that she could be with me, and we're really happy together. I didn't "seduce her away from him;" I just flirted with her like I would with any other girl I was interested in, and eventually she decided of her own accord that she'd rather be with me. Basically, don't try to steal her away. That's the bad part. I'd argue that it's quite misogynistic. There's nothing wrong with flirting with her, however; if she's not happy with her current situation and she sees that things will be better with you, she'll go for it. HOWEVER, don't simply wait around for it to happen, either; get out there, and find some other girls, and flirt with them and take them on dates and all that jazz. There's nothing more pathetic than a guy sitting around willing a girl to like him.

Basically, she's a human being, and she can make her own decisions. Go ahead and show her what a great guy you are, but don't think you have to chase after her exclusively.