A 16 year old boy on teen sex.

[Penguinness]

Don't know about some of the people in this topic but 16 seems a fine age for it. I don't know when you finish high school in america but we finish compulsary school at 16 in the UK. I'd say you'd classify as a young adult at that age, I don't think your behaviour would change much between 16 and 20.. mine certainly didn't. I feel you should have be able to have sex when you feel ready for it, but then I felt ready for it before 16. I had it at 17 by the way, but I knew to bring a condom, and still with the girl now after 3.5 years. It's pretty much drilled into your head from being taught once every year in secondry school and adverts and all sorts of crap that you need protection.. I had no information given to me by my parents. Guess it's different in other places, I knew the drill from 13 or so.

And about getting pregnent, I think that's something that would probably affect the lives of anyone up to like 24, and hell even past that I bet. Putting off sex until you are scure enough to support a kid "just in-case" isn't the solution.

But yeah, the way I see it, no-one should be allowed to tell you to stop feeling for x amount of years. If you want to find romance then do it, if you're gona wait forever then you'll be missing out on some good times. Get married and give it 10 years or more and you'll be back to not getting any anyway!

 

[Bat Vader]

I promised myself I would stay a virgin till I die. Not because of my religion or some sense of honor but because I really dislike and hate children. I am taking the ultimate precaution.

In my opinion I say stay safe and use protection. The people that don't and then whine and cry about it because they are going to be parents at a young is is really annoying. Plus, it lowers my faith in humanity and that is never good.

 

[mkg]

It isn't your legal married status your parents were trying to have you wait for. Most people make mistakes when it comes to sex as young people; heartbreak, cheating, stds, abortions or unwanted pregnacy, rape. These are the things your parents were thinking of (maybe not rape so much for boys but you get the point). Kids do stuff they go on to regret and parents want to protect their kids from making that mistake and that's where communication between the two groups needs to come into play. Your mother was probably more ashamed than angry that she couldn't have that type of communication with her son. Instead you hid things from her and might have almost made your girlfriends issues worse instead of better.

 

[Danny Ocean]

I'm 16.

I really don't see the problem with this particular event. 16 is the age of consent here, after all. People act surprised if you haven't had sex before you're 18. Although, how much of that is bullshit, I don't know.

 

[spikeyjoey]

I promised myself I would stay a virgin till I die. Not because of my religion or some sense of honor but because I really dislike and hate children. I am taking the ultimate precaution.

haevz teh bumsex

 

[Penguinness]

I promised myself I would stay a virgin till I die. Not because of my religion or some sense of honor but because I really dislike and hate children. I am taking the ultimate precaution.

haevz teh bumsex

Well, I woudlve said a vasectomy.. but the chances are he'd change his mind in coming years.

 

[JonnoStrife]

Snip.

I'm another 16 year old who's story is pretty damn similar. I change towns and all the chicks latched on because of new-guy-syndrome. A year later I was getting laid regularly. I told my parents when they asked coz hey, it was under their roof right?

They didn't skitz out and they were pretty cool with it.

If parents love their kid they should let them go for it. I say 16 is legal so why is there a problem?

Without a doubt, that's the most nebulous and intangible response I have ever seen. I don't want to be mean, or anything, but when you put it in that wording, you aren't getting your ideas or meaning across. Articulate your thoughts coherently and I'd love to hear what you have to say, I just can't really understand you.

Okay lets try this in a manner befitting the internet.

I lived once in a town in the desert, then I moved to the coast. Women then decided I was some fresh meat and therefore must be owned. After a year of sifting through potential candidates I found a good one. We had lots of sex.

Then I informed my mother that her guesses at my sexual activity were indeed correct. I felt I should because it was happening under her roof most of the time. She was alright with it because I was of age.

Sorry for my incoherence.

 

[BringBackBuck]

haevz teh bumsex

Your... Avatar...so hypnotic...can't...look....away...

 

[ClunkiestTurtle]

Despite what you may think, You're not even close to being adults. Not even young ones. Even if you understand exactly what's going on doesn't change your age nor the possible consequences.

That is the exact attitude that causes these problem.

Telling these kids "you're to young to understand it, wait till you're more mature and then you will be ready to responsibly comprehend the issues involved" is just the worse advice.

These guys are wanting it, craving it if they are not having it and at the very least have a lot of questions about it that they either are to embarrassed to ask or don't know who to ask them to.

You know there is so many threads about sex issues lately it just proves these guys ARE mature enough to handle it. They are trying to get some sort of answers from their peers and obviously its easier to ask them as a faceless anonymous poster here to strangers then people they know.

What does that tell you?

It tells me that its the "adults" in their lives that aren't mature enough to handle it and avoiding the topic, saying just wait untill you are older and more mature is just a way of not talking about their kids having sex. In my mind they are the irresponsible ones.

Back in school i was part of a program set up where the oldest students would teach sex education to all the younger years, we were given like a week of training and all the information and statistics we needed and then we were just left to it. what happened? as soon as the teacher went out of the room pretty much every hand went up! These kids are not just capable of being responsible most of them want to be responsible but its this attitude of sweeping it under the carpet that means they are just going to be ill informed and make life changing mistakes.

Teenagers are going to have sex its inevitable and its ok as long as you know what you are doing and are safe.

Also a lot(probably most) of teenagers aren't going to have sex at least while they are still in school anyway and thats inevitable to, you know what it's perfectly normal and fine as well but either way they should know what the deal is and be prepared when their ready.

I feel like a thread for answering these kind of questions / problems should be set up as there has been a lot of it lately and i don't know if between the mocking and bad advice these guys are getting the answers they need.If you guys want it and it would probably help you out if you do say so and i guess i'll volunteer if no one else around feels like they are better suited for the job

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Sex after marriage is a bunch of bullshit. Why should I take permission to fuck from an invisible bloke on a cloud that doesn't even talk to me? You did good, kid, you did good (especially if she was hot, but I know that didn't matter to you).

 

[Sir-jackington]

Sex before marriage is an out-dated idea which doesn't make much sense nowdays. Oh and it sounds like you have a bit fo a Marilyn complex

 

[f0re1gn]

Agreed with the first post. Completely. Sex isn't something to be afraid of - it's something people do when they feel like it. The main thing about sex, as I've actually said earlier in some post, is that you Don't regret it in the future. Then it was worth it.

 

[randomrob]

I'm 16 myself. Me and my girlfriend have an understanding of no sex before 18 (she doesn't feel ready) and a kind of grey area of stuff that isn't sex but I personally believe that as long as both parties want it and are ready for it they should be allowed to have sex as long as they're safe.

Parents shouldn't make their kids feel guilty for expressing feelings of genuine love because we do have independent thought and we are capable of making an informed decision based on the relevant information.

I think it's sad when religious dogma gets in the way of reason as it seems to have with your Mum. However I wouldn't worry about it, you did it, nothing bad happened and good for you. You're 16 you are practically an adult, you have the right to do whatever you please within the law just as much as anyone else. I don't understand why all developed governments and a lot of adults over the age of 25 seem obsessed with mollycoddling teenagers and saying we can't do the shit that the majority of us are clearly old enough and mature enough to do. It's...discrimination.

 

[The_root_of_all_evil]

You're saying in a nutshell that we need to save something simply because we'll get bored if we run out of things to give to other people?

Not totally, you'll just have to start inventing new ways to "express your love".

That's why "happily married men" take to being spanked with celery. Allegedly.

 

[Jolly Madness]

Adults are overrated. 16 is old enough to be out in work and sometimes old enough to be sent into war to die, sex is just peanuts in comparison.

 

[pirateninj4]

Not even halfway through highschool, still shouldn't have done it.

Early graduate my friend. But please explain why I shouldn't have.

Hear hear, I got mine out of the way at that age and it didn't stunt the sex life I have with my wife now...if you were ready and it wasn't an abortion of a time, then I say good for you mate.

Also good work on the protected thing, you never know what you're going to run into with all that manky ole snatch out there. Keep doing that and you'll not regret it.

One of the big reasons that Christians want people to wait is because they did and let's face it, people don't like it when other people get to do fun shit before they did. Don't let your parents old BS traditions hold you back from experiencing something that is hella fun and scientifically proven to extend life.

 

[Macgyvercas]

Not even halfway through highschool, still shouldn't have done it.

Early graduate my friend. But please explain why I shouldn't have.

Despite what you may think, You're not even close to being adults. Not even young ones. Even if you understand exactly what's going on doesn't change your age nor the possible consequences.

Consequences don't change as you get older do they? STD's, pregnancy, heartbreak (to name a few) don't change with age.

You're right, they don't. They sure as hell become easier to deal with, however. Say despite all safety you somehow got her pregnant, and she wasn't willing to get an abortion or have it adopted, How would you even take care of it? You're both too young for real jobs, etc.

See, that's just the thing. You can never be 100% sure. Funny how the most the argument against teen pregnancy has is the smaller-than-1 percent chance of conception. I agree, it would have been a fiasco if we did, but take all the precautions and it is very unlikely. Now, you can't say that's a reason to not have sex. Car accidents within a mile of your house are just as likely, if you use all contraception available. It's that you can use the "You're taking a huge risk!" factor by twisting it way out of proportion.

But you have to admit he has a rather good point. Hypotheticals sound like they won't happen (in this case, pregnancy and STD's), but in the event that they do, you have to have planned for them beforehand or things will get really scary really fast. It's like what my dad once said to me, "Expect the worst and you will never be caught off guard".

My personal opinion on the matter? You though it was right and you did it. Kudos to you (and this is coming from a Catholic, mind). I personally wouldn't have done it myself because I have an agreement with myself to wait until I'm married, but would be okay with it if something happened before then.

 

[Salviar]

Well, isn't this a touchy subject.

Unlike a lot of other people who commented on this, I think you are very compelling in your arguments and well spoken. I can't find a fault with what you're saying but it seems there's a lot of people who think that the whole "Whoa, hold on! Pregnancy!" thing is a massive deal in this case.
I can understand that, I guess, but it's being thrown out of proportion, I think.
I mean, I'm 17 now (a girl) and I had my first time at 15. I was younger than you are so maybe that's why I can't see the major issue in this. (And that's not becasue I'm some slut chick who has sex with everything that moves. I did it once when I was 15 and didn't do it again until I hit 17)
Also someone mentioned that she might decide not to get an abortion...I'm sorry but I found that a little ridiculous. I can understand religion and all that but I'm fairly certain that most teenage girls, religious or not, would get an abortion at a young age like that. (Also, if they are THAT religious, they wouldn't have sex in the first place and would probably make their intentions known.)
Sorry for the rant, I just find the fact that some adults think that people under the age of 18 or 20 aren't aware of the risks they are taking and that they are just breezing through things ignorantly. Not everyone is a sexed-up teenager these days, and I think that people need to give most teens a little more credit.

OT (sorry, again, for the rant): Sex before marriage is fine as long as it's consensual and safe.
...In my opinion.