A 16 year old boy on teen sex.

[Pennyy9]

have sex0. fuck religion. have fun.

Now it's that kind of mindset that makes it so damn hard for people like me to get my point out.

 

[spikeyjoey]

wait, are you guys actually giving out to this kid for having sex!?!

he's 16, you ever heard of a thing called testosterone..

yeah yeah, there are risks, I wouldnt advice having condomless sex, unless the girl is on contraception, but they loved each other..

I lost my virginity at 17.. didnt start having regular sex until I met my current girlfriend at 21, whom I love.. and no, im not in a financially stable situation, I wouldn be able to raise a child etc, but if the worst comes to the worst there is always abortion

I say if he found love at 16, go him

 

[Vern]

Look into family history. My Father and Mother got married, and two months later my older brother was born. Girlfriend noticed her oldest brother was born six months after her parents got married and asked her mom about it, serious red faces were created, especially in a religious family. Hell, my grandmother was embarrassed when my mom pointed out her oldest brother was born only seven month's after her parent's got married. Point that out, they'll stop talking about waiting for the sanctity of marriage and actually have a serious conversation about sex. Or they'll pull a holier than though attitude, bring up immaculate conception, and send you to your room. People have had sex outside of marriage well before, and well after the idea of marriage was institutionalized. Call them out, laugh when they fluster because they're pissed at you for doing the same thing they did, and maybe have a decent conversation.

 

[Pennyy9]

have sex0. fuck religion. have fun.

Now it's that kind of mindset that makes it so damn hard for people like me to get my point out.

you had a point? i just saw "sex" and "religion" and thought "fun and "stupid" respectively
cmon any idiot with their head screwed on straight knows that theres nothing wrong with pre-matieral sex

No, and I'm going to be frank here. People who believe in something but don't articulate their ideas politely are really just not worth the two cents they put into any conversation. You make people look bad when you mindlessly blurt ideas.

 

[Ldude893]

I swore lifelong virginity on myself. This is one game in life that I do not want to be part of.

I can guarantee you will come close if not fail in that endeavor, and also, how old are you?

15.

 

[Communist partisan]

why even get married? (no offence)

 

[Pennyy9]

I swore lifelong virginity on myself. This is one game in life that I do not want to be part of.

I can guarantee you will come close if not fail in that endeavor, and also, how old are you?

15.

Honestly, good luck. If you manage that your whole life, you have an enduring character. Good luck.

 

[go nana go]

You "Knew she was clean"
Did she submit paperwork?
HPV says Hi.

 

[The Rockerfly]

Well I cant even marry freely, so I have no intention of waiting till marriage. Sex should wait...till you are ready. Married, not, 16, 25, whatever. Should be ready.

Why not?

I'm just about to finish further education and go to university and I can safely say, thee is nothing wrong practising safe sex. However go unprotected and the amount of crap that can happen, pregnancies, STI's and it doesn't even make it that much better

 

[Mozza444]

There is nothing wrong with sex..
Sex is great.

I lost my virginity at 15, to somebody that I really love. I have had sex hundreds, hell could be thousands of times. Guess what? All with that one person, nobody else. I'm still with her today and i couldn't be happier. We're in love and that's all that matters.

 

[Idocreating]

Marriage before sex to me makes little sense. Why would you enter into an agreement where you and your significant other agree to be together forever without knowing what there like in the most intimate act a human can partake in first? Love alone can not keep you going in a 20 year+ relationship, your body is going to need it's urges fulfilled.

OT, OP seems to have his head in the right place. Be proud of yourself.

 

[Pennyy9]

You "Knew she was clean"
Did she submit paperwork?
HPV says Hi.

Do you not understand? This was my then-girlfriend. I trusted her explicitly. And her me, and don't you dare say otherwise. When I say things, I mean them. I knew she was clean.

 

[Sonofadiddly]

You seem like a very mature and sensible young man, Pennyy. You waited until you loved the girl and you use protection most of the time. That's a lot better than some, or maybe most people your age.

I don't really understand why she broke up with you just because she wasn't sad anymore. But I'm sorry you went through that. It's tough being emotionally connected with someone who is so depressed. Been there.

Try not to let your mom's behavior get to you. Be firm in your beliefs, but understand that she can't agree with you on this issue and likely never will.

 

[go nana go]

My thought is that there is no real problem with having sex simply for fun, as long as you practice it safely.

I believe it's okay for teens to have sex with other teens, but not adults, and of course again the practice of, and education in, safe sex. I am one of those who figures we won't stop teens from having sex, and it's part of growing up, and learning about life. We aren't going to stop it, so I am one of those who encourages mandatory education (ie can't be opted out of by parents), and the distribution of free condoms and birth control in high schools.

I think people take the subject way too seriously at times.

On a metaphysical level, I am a Christian, but not a deeply spiritual one. I neither believe the Pope is Infallible, nor that the bible is 100% accurate, mystically preserved record of god's will. Maybe I'll suffer for this, but I desperatly want to believe god is a benevolent being overall. I do not think god punishes people for sex outside of marriage or whatever, but I do believe that people probably changed the bible to say so, and that it was a good idea at the time in days when reliable birth control was uncommon to say the least, childbirth was risky, and fighting over women in a very lethal sense was not uncommon. A fear of god doubtlessly helped hold societies together, and keep things fairly orderly.

They changed the bible?
what are you basing this on?
what is this I don't-

 

[Pennyy9]

You seem like a very mature and sensible young man, Pennyy. You waited until you loved the girl and you use protection most of the time. That's a lot better than some, or maybe most people your age.

I don't really understand why she broke up with you just because she wasn't sad anymore. But I'm sorry you went through that. It's tough being emotionally connected with someone who is so depressed. Been there.

Try not to let your mom's behavior get to you. Be firm in your beliefs, but understand that she can't agree with you on this issue and likely never will.

People change, and I don't love her now as I did. It was short, but I felt it very deeply. This may prove to be untrue in years to come, but it was the best experience I have ever had.

 

[BarbaricGoose]

No, and I'm going to be frank here. People who believe in something but don't articulate their ideas politely are really just not worth the two cents they put into any conversation. You make people look bad when you mindlessly blurt ideas.

That sounded really condescending. I love to mindlessly blurt out ideas. And when you do mindlessly blurt out ideas, you're only making yourself look bad. Anyone who looks at one idiot and says "I'm gonna use THAT guy as an example for an entire race/belief/whatever," is just as stupid. Anyway.. That is not a cat fight that I want to be a part of.

I suppose I'm rather torn on the issue, but here's my question to you; did you pull out? 'Cause if you just learn to control yourself long enough to pull out.. Everything will be fine. I know how safe it is and all that, and frankly, I lean more towards the "Do whatever you want, it's your life" belief, but, if you were to knock 'er up.. Well, at that age, it's not just your lives that are going to get screwed, it's your parents lives, as well.

In fact, I'd say it's more so your parents that are going to have a hard time. Because at your age, you are given what parents choose to give you. One of which is money, and the other is shelter. So if you did get her pregnant, you'd be taking care of baby with someone else's money, and in someone else's home. And children are a ridiculous time and money sink. It just seems a bit irresponsible.

 

[go nana go]

You "Knew she was clean"
Did she submit paperwork?
HPV says Hi.

Do you not understand? This was my then-girlfriend. I trusted her explicitly. And her me, and don't you dare say otherwise. When I say things, I mean them. I knew she was clean.

Just a question dude
DON'T DARE IMPLY OTHERWISE
Relax, count to 10.

 

[Pennyy9]

You "Knew she was clean"
Did she submit paperwork?
HPV says Hi.

Do you not understand? This was my then-girlfriend. I trusted her explicitly. And her me, and don't you dare say otherwise. When I say things, I mean them. I knew she was clean.

Just a question dude
DON'T DARE IMPLY OTHERWISE
Relax, count to 10.

You can't expect people not to react angrily when you openly, and in front of them, invalidate things they feel strongly about. Just don't.

 

[spinFX]

Bah. Who cares? People pretend virginity means something. It doesn't. It won't change anything in the universe, and it certainly didn't change me as a person losing it.

It's all religious garbage.