A 16 year old boy on teen sex.
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No sex before marriage is just an outdated idea. It carries back to the virtues of the Middle Ages. Times have changed, we no longer need our daughters to be virgins so we can wed them to dukes or princes, or at least that rich cotton trader down the road. I believe the perception of sex and marriage should be changed like our society did.
As long as you're being wise and safe about it all I can say is "Good On Ya". I'm all for positive and consensual sexuality in all its forms.
Don't feel bad, you're not alone. I'm 19, never been on a date, to a school dance, held hands with a girl, or anything else. I have hugged a few, but they were just friends...blakfayt said:
Eh...perfectly acceptable to not adopt your mothers beliefs.
I would suggest using 2 forms of birth control, just to be sure. It might be slightly neurotic, but a baby or a particularly nasty STD is a pretty swift end to your fun.
I have a friend who has a baby despite using condoms, and it hasn't been a blessing. The lady has decided she doesn't like him, wants to move away and basically cut him out of both her and the babies lives. She also told the police that he had hit her(which was a complete lie, that she later admitted was completely untrue).
I'm not sure what my point is exactly... I guess it's, enjoy sex...but do your best not to compromise your freedom or the health of your penis.
I would suggest using 2 forms of birth control, just to be sure. It might be slightly neurotic, but a baby or a particularly nasty STD is a pretty swift end to your fun.
I have a friend who has a baby despite using condoms, and it hasn't been a blessing. The lady has decided she doesn't like him, wants to move away and basically cut him out of both her and the babies lives. She also told the police that he had hit her(which was a complete lie, that she later admitted was completely untrue).
I'm not sure what my point is exactly... I guess it's, enjoy sex...but do your best not to compromise your freedom or the health of your penis.
Ahh, I had my first time too soon as well. A bit sooner than Pennyy, though.
I was lucky enough to manage to keep my head. I did my homework and made sure we were being safe (I had an agreement with an older cousin; he buys the condoms/pills and I pay him a little extra for the favour). Despite going at it a seriously ridiculous number of times like... well, like a pair of exceptionally horny teenagers. We really were madly in love for a few years.
We're not together any more, of course, but we're still close friends. We grew out of the love we had. (The sex is still wonderful though!)
My point is that, well armed with the knowledge and 'tools', having an intense romance while you're still young is absolutely not a bad thing. Not for everyone and not legally acceptable (I laugh when it's claimed we're "enlightened" as a species), maybe, but that's just how the cookie crumbles.
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I was lucky enough to manage to keep my head. I did my homework and made sure we were being safe (I had an agreement with an older cousin; he buys the condoms/pills and I pay him a little extra for the favour). Despite going at it a seriously ridiculous number of times like... well, like a pair of exceptionally horny teenagers. We really were madly in love for a few years.
We're not together any more, of course, but we're still close friends. We grew out of the love we had. (The sex is still wonderful though!)
My point is that, well armed with the knowledge and 'tools', having an intense romance while you're still young is absolutely not a bad thing. Not for everyone and not legally acceptable (I laugh when it's claimed we're "enlightened" as a species), maybe, but that's just how the cookie crumbles.
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There was a paternity test...it's his...sadly. It turns out she was sleeping around almost immediately after having the baby though...which seems really odd to me. I guess she had no intention of ever making a go of the relationship, despite the fact that they had moved in together. The real kicker is, he was at home looking after the kid whilst she was out screwing around...yet she will inevitably win custody.Jirlond said:
I'd like to point out a few things in the beginning argument and play devil's advocate.
Congratulations, you're heterosexual. This was not relevant.Pennyy9 said:
If you're association to the Baptist faith was a social handicap, I'd blame the pastor. Nevertheless, you're suggesting there were NO girls who were christian in your junior high. Or that they were all ugly and you didn't want to talk to them. So either you're the pariah of your town, or shallow. Your allusion to a "real" girlfriend leads me to believe the latter is more likely.Pennyy9 said:
So let's recap: You found a nice, but sad, girl. Because you're a good listener and she doesn't try to change you, you two fall in love. Then she becomes... sad? Was the relationship making her happy? Not important to the reason you wrote this, but why include it? Especially since she breaks up with you "because she isn't so sad anymore"! Is she a Mood Girlfriend, that you can only date when she's the right mood?Pennyy9 said:
So the first part - the longest - was just a set up for this? Moreover, it's addressed to the parents? How many parents are reading a forum on a site for Gaming and Entertainment?Pennyy9 said:
So lets wrap up here. You want everyone of "us parents" reading to teach "our kids" about sex. Even allowing for some rigid families, who won't discuss sex at all, Sex Ed is a part of Junior High and High School curriculum in Health. (Then again, how many kids do you know who READ the book?) I will point out that the real reason for it isn't to prevent AIDS or other STDs. It's to prevent more kids whose parents are too busy being kids to be adults and parents. So it's not a religious thing. That's just shows that religions have good ideas sometimes, too.Pennyy9 said:
I would come with the logic that he's only sixteen did you remeber your girlfriends/boyfriends when you were on that age? You were so "madly" in love.
But I really don't care if people copulate before marriage after marriage or never it's their own personal business.
But I really don't care if people copulate before marriage after marriage or never it's their own personal business.
You can tell when someone is right because they believe what they say, they say it with confidence, and they back it up with logically valid argument. The OP is right.
Still, some of the people who disagree with him are right too. "To each his own" is a valid approach to some extent, in this case.
Still, some of the people who disagree with him are right too. "To each his own" is a valid approach to some extent, in this case.
I find it very likely, yes, but nobody knows for sure hence the word "probably".go nana go said:
As for what I base it on, it largely comes down to massive contridictions within the bible itself, leading me to believe that before any attempts at standardization people were changing, and adding to, the bible for whatever purpose they wanted to see served at the time.
I understand there are bible scholors who can "explain" things, or have theories about how things are intended to be interpeted, but at the same time I would expect the word of god to be clear, especially if it was mystically preserved, and not rely on what are some pretty involuted explanations.
For example in The Bible, there is plenty of stuff about how anyone can be saved. But at the same time in Exodus (which stuck in my mind for some reason) it's said that god will punish people's descendants for their transgressions to the third or fourth generation. Meaning that if your grandfather sins, you could be lobbed into the pits of hell even if somehow you did everything perfectly.
Then you've got stuff about "turning the other cheek" and how vengerance will be God's in the after life, but then we've also got "Suffer Not A Witch To Live" and other statements that have been the justification for numerous holy wars where the bible clearly spells out followers being expected to kill people. Forcible conversions, religious genocide, torture, witch hunts, etc... can all be justified by the The Bible, which at the same time can also be seen to spell out this being wrong.
So of course this leads me to believe that parts of it were edited, changed, or added in over a period of time to serve the desires of the church, and various religious leaders, and what they wanted at any given time.
The Bible being literal (which to my way of thinking is impossible given the contridictions inherant in a lot of it... I'm not a fair person to ask because I admit I'm not a massive expert and don't have the greatest memory) to me is sort of like the Pope being infallible and pretty much the right hand/mouthpiece of god in a literal sense. Yet when you look at some of the excesses of the office, as well as the existance of "Anti-Popes" it raises a lot of questions well beyond what caused Protestants to break off. I mean how could one have an Anti-Pope like Bonafice if there is supposed to be a literal, divine aspect to the role? What's more how could some of the things guys like the Borgias (I think I have it right) fly who had the office legitimatly if god was supposed to be holding Popes to infallible religious standards? What's more why do Cardinals appoint them rather than god choosing who his right hand on earth is supposed to be?
Do I know for certain? Of course not. However I think I am correct, and I have solid reasons for thinking what I do.
BAH! I came from a family with those kind of values and spat in their faces.
I lost my virginity to the man that I have been with since I was a freshman in high school. We love each other and have no regrets about what we did.
I'll admit, I was kinda trying to spite my mother a lot, but I really do love my boyfriend.
You're mom should just accept the fact that you are a hormonal teenager and you have no regrets about what you two did.
I lost my virginity to the man that I have been with since I was a freshman in high school. We love each other and have no regrets about what we did.
I'll admit, I was kinda trying to spite my mother a lot, but I really do love my boyfriend.
You're mom should just accept the fact that you are a hormonal teenager and you have no regrets about what you two did.
