A MAN'S TOPIC: Why are They Obcessed with sex?

[vfaulkon]

The difference in the sex drive of a man and woman is this:

The male's biological imperative is to spread his seed to as many willing females as he possibly can.

The female's biological imperative is to seek out the single best male with which to share her genes. This is the female's way of enacting semi-population control...

Agreed.

Put in economic terms, men are in a seller's market when it comes to sex; there are a lot of competitors and the consumers, so to speak, though roughly equal in number and with a demand matching supply (how's that for a double entendre?), are interested in quality control. Because of this, we as men can't afford biologically to be picky with potential mates.

As matrix put it, if men and women had equal abandon when it came to sex, then we'd have an even greater overpopulation problem than we have now. But if both genders were equally picky, we'd probably have died out several million years ago. SOMEONE has to always be on the hunt, and for us homo sapiens, the males are it.

Whether or not you find that scenario preferable is a matter of personal taste. But that's another topic...

 

[GyroCaptain]

I'm, for one, obsessed with GRAMMAR.

Grammar IS sex.

Oh yes, you dirty, dirty vowels. Wrap those prepositions around me again.

...I think I'm significantly less obsessed with sex than most. I mean, it doesn't come up.

 

[Kryson]

If the internal programming of people were actually that efficient, the earth would be ruled by scientists by now, with the jock becoming extinct after the second generation.

Scientists are not genetically superior. Intelligence is an important factor, but there are plenty of species who rely on power and speed that are at the top of the food chain.

Back to the topic at hand, it has been beaten into the ground. Men are genetically made to want to mate as much as possible. Guys who say this is not true are either A) lying, B) in denial, or C) truly asexual. I'd say A and B are the more likely answers. Wanting to have sex does not make one a pig and one can certainly be a "gentleman" and have a healthy lust for sex. The thing about humans is that we can easily go against our natural instincts if we so choose. It's just much easier to follow said instincts. Or get a girl (or guy if that's how you go) that likes to have sex.

 

[Not Good]

The difference in the sex drive of a man and woman is this:

The male's biological imperative is to spread his seed to as many willing females as he possibly can.

The female's biological imperative is to seek out the single best male with which to share her genes. This is the female's way of enacting semi-population control, thereby insuring the species doesn't become ruled be genetic deformities and mental retardation.

Obviously, this biological programming has become somewhat (greatly) diluted over the past millienia.

If the internal programming of people were actually that efficient, the earth would be ruled by scientists by now, with the jock becoming extinct after the second generation.

You do realize that the most burly of Gorillas were the ones more likely to be gettin' some? So your theory is in fact an anti-theory proving once again that nerds are pretty much doomed to a life of less sex.

 

[slxiii]

women think about and desire sex every bit as much as men
men just don't care if anyone knows

and men want sex because their genes tell them to want it

 

[slxiii]

]You do realize that the most burly of Gorillas were the ones more likely to be gettin' some? So your theory is in fact an anti-theory proving once again that nerds are pretty much doomed to a life of less sex.

less sex for tenfold intelligence and a six figure job? pretty fair trade to me.

 

[Dys]

A womans take on this subject:

We think about sex just as much as the other gender. Its just we tend to think of the consequences more, the future, would this man be right to be my partner, would I enjoy concieveing a child with him, would he make a great father, will he end up harming me and my child, will he be a good role model in the future, and what is that stuck in his teeth?
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But back to the topic at hand. Yes i believe men are obsessed with sex, its just Women tend to control it on a deeper level. We will ache your pole by not letting you stick it in our hole.

Close to what I have seen/heard.
A man who listens to to much radios take on the subject.
Recently I heard a huge radio thing where women (mostly young twenties) were calling up and complaining that they couldn't get their boyfriends to put out, and that they were being left unsatisfied. This was reportedly because, as you said, sex is about control. As women and feminism becomes more prominant, and men lose control of the finances/career/whatever, they move back to the ultimate power, sex.

I'm not sure that it is entirely about the power struggle, I also think that women are naturally more patient than men, and so while men might see a pretty girl and want to sleep with her straight away, women are more content to wait a little longer, and are less likely to get bored of it as quickly.

This, also coupled with (this is off a radio advert for nasal spray, I've heard it that much I know it by heart now, however I'm unsure if I beleive it) 50% of all men suffer from premature ejaculation, so there is probably a certain level of shame associated with it, especially if that statistic is anywhere near true.

...AAAAnnnnnnyyway, just though I'd point out that the going social norm (in melbourne at least) is that in long term relationships, the women generally want and think about sex more than men.

 

[Lunar6]

I'm, for one, obsessed with GRAMMAR.

Then wouldn't it have been smarter to say, "I, for one, AM obsessed with GRAMMAR."?

 

[BubbleGumSnareDrum]

Women who say they don't think about sex all the time are liars. Bad ones.

 

[Inverse Skies]

Meh, when you're in a stable relationship for a while it destroys any interest in sex you previously had. It's still gone even after we've broken up. It's not as great as it's made out to be.

 

[Dommyboy]

Like everything else mentioned in every thread:

IT DEPENDS AND VARIES FROM PERSON TO PERSON.

 

[Mariena]

I know plenty of women who have a crazy libido.

I believe I am one of them =)

 

[orifice]

Testosterone, androsterone, and adrenilin! These are why we are obsessed with sex.

 

[Ignignoct]

Not obsessed with sex.

Not satisfied with sex.

Probably going to end up thrill-killing hookers in the desert to get my kicks. Not that I want to, of course.

Though, I wonder about this topic myself when I look at my peers, and they ask if I want to hit up "tha club" with em. I think it's just cultural thing right now.

Get drunk, get krunk, get fucked like the cool kids. You wanna be cool, right?

 

[rekabdarb]

my theory is:
A: virgins can't get any and always think about it (me =()
B: it is (in theory...) freaking awesome
C: yeah thats about it...

 

[Nostalgia]

It varies from person to person. While we may still behave how any animal of the planet might subconsciously, we've grown passed simply just wanting to continue the species. Women and men who don't want kids certainly exist, so while they might enjoy sex, they don't believe they must procreate, unlike animals, who will mate for just that purpose (excluding some, like dolphins), even if hurts the female (notably the cat family).
So, while instincts are there, humans are "obsessed" with sex because it feels good. We have sex for pleasure.

Now as a species in the whole, we are unique, we can mate all year round, very few species can do this as well, and also what makes us unique is our mindsets, Normal species dont mate with the same gender, but we do. I for one think myself as fond of both sexes, and I would mate with both.

Depending on what you mean by mate, we can't either. Also, animals do display homosexual acts in nature.

It is viewed as a fault in society because men have been represented as chauvinistic pigs who only want sex. It is a gross misunderstanding. Some men are like that. Other men are gentlemen.

It is just that there a so few gentlemen these days that men are stereotyped into being pigs who are hungry for sex.

Not that I'm justifying it, but when men ogle at women who look good and dress sexually appealing, or have the luxury of porn tailored to them more so than women do, or have a much higher crime rate involving sexual acts than women do, and have shown that 'sex sells' by using the argument whenever anyone questions why women are objectified, it's not exactly rocket science.

 

[Baby Tea]

I think 'obsessed' is too strong a word, unless you're a teen who is hitting puberty.
I certainly enjoy sex, but 'obsessed'? Naah. I was when I wasn't having any, then I got married and have it regularly. I'm not so obsessed anymore.

I enjoy it, she enjoys it, we don't need to have it every day.