A question for our non-smoking, non-drinking, non-recreational-drugs-using, romance seeking Escapees

[aithilin]

Don't smoke, drink, or go out to play the field simply because I don't see the point in it. The lifestyle you seem to think is "not boring" looks dull, repetitive, and boring to me. I don't see how it can possibly be enjoyable.

That said, I'm very happy. I enjoy my life, my job, have a committed relationship going on seven years, and hanging out with my friends immensely and doing something different at each gathering. No pressures other than rent, and that'll change once the new job kicks in.

 

[TimeLord]

I don't smoke or do drugs, and whenever I drink I end up like this:

I am kinda happy

 

[rankfx]

I enjoy those things but I feel bad afterward. I think they are just a filter- they can emphasize or distort other things that are going on, in themselves they do not make happiness. My dad drinks every night and has done for years, yet he is always happy. These experiences can't tell you who you are or if your lifestyle will lead you to happiness.

 

[Goro]

I don't drink, smoke etc. and I feel good with it. Overall I'm not completely happy, but the reason for this is not related to my lifestyle.

My view on alcohol and drugs: If you need them to be happy, then it means you can't enjoy life sober. Either your life is not that good or you just can't use your potential to be happy on a normal way. You try to compensate for your closed mind with substances, instead of working on your problems.
Smoking: I can't really see any pleasure. It doesn't taste good and the only reason you do it is your addiction. The relief after smoking a cigarette is how non-addicted feel like all the time.

I wish I'd said that.... Spot on!

 

[LionheartDJH]

I'm a moderate drinker, only have 4 to 5 drinks at most on the rare occasions that I do go out, and I have no interest in cigarettes, drugs or casual sex. I am generally happy with my life and don't get why getting wasted on beer regularly, screwing your mind up with drugs or having sex with somebody that you have no real feelings for makes your life necessarily better.

I only really started drinking when I got to university, but before that I'd have people having a go at me all the time when I told them I didn't drink. They'd tell me I was boring and asked how I could have fun without drinking, and I just replied that yes you can have fun without drinking.

People can call me boring all they want, I'm not bothered. I'm happy with the way I am and I won't change it for anyone. I don't mind if other people like to do those things, that's their business and it's not for me to judge. But by the same token I don't appreciate it when people try and tell me that the only way to enjoy life properly is to do those things.

 

[rankfx]

You know what grind's my gears? When people pull the smug face and go,

'Well if you can't have fun without drink, drugs ect then you obviously can't enjoy life on your own. narf narf.'

Agree 100%. Some people stay away for the right reasons, but the right reason is not ignorance. A lot of people are hesitant to try new things, and that's OK. But judging others because they have experience you lack is not OK. We all make good and bad decisions at times, but through that experience you inform the decision making process.

 

[Zing]

Well I don't smoke or do drugs, mostly because they are permanantely harmful, smoking especially. I do drink though, and sex is sex to me. So I guess I'm kind of in the middle here, but I'm quite happy.

 

[The Righteous One]

I like drink now and then, weed okay don't mind it. And yes I'm happy and am not an addict.

 

[Flare Phoenix]

You know what grind's my gears? When people pull the smug face and go,

'Well if you can't have fun without drink, drugs ect then you obviously can't enjoy life on your own. narf narf.'

Agree 100%. Some people stay away for the right reasons, but the right reason is not ignorance. A lot of people are hesitant to try new things, and that's OK. But judging others because they have experience you lack is not OK. We all make good and bad decisions at times, but through that experience you inform the decision making process.

I also agree. I found the original poster's post to be incredibly condescending and downright rude. Especially when he stated he thought his life was better for doing drugs, alchohol, smoking, and fucking random women. Also, when he downright stated anyone who didn't do these things weren't normal.

I can't stand people like that; people who act all high and mightly because they do what they think is cool! Think before you speak next time, original poster!

 

[Dark2003]

I don't drink, smoke, or use any kind of drug. I think negative, pure and simple. Most people turn to drugs when they can't deal with shit(from what i've been told recently, I'm not saying it you). I just think negatively, so when that band-aid of misfortune is about to rip away and release all kind of crap upon, I find out it didn't hurt as much as I thought

 

[death525]

uhm yeah i am happy and i dont any of that
what are you stupid
you dont need cheap thrills to have a happy life
guess what youll be poor and die early from overdose of drugs, but ill be fat and happy drinking from the holy grail of money that i saved from not paying for drugs or whores.
and one more thing you dont need freakin sex to have a great relationship

 

[Technocrat]

I take enough pills to *prevent* hallucinations and losing control.

Children don't ordinarily engage in any of these things. Do they desperately crave substance abuse or sex? No? Why do you?

 

[PhoenixKing]

Honestly, I'm a very happy guy and I never do any of the things you had mentioned. Other than gaming. God I love gaming. Anyways, I've never smoked, done drugs, had sex, or alcohol. Unless you count those rum candies. Tricky bastards. Had it when I was 9, and it tasted like crap, so that completely turned me off of alcohol. Anyways, back to the topic at hand. What you had mentioned, I perceive to be false sources of happiness. Why would I need to get wasted and bang my best friends sister to have a little fun?( Not implying you do that). Why should I go and get mad high and just stare at trippy pictures while blasting some Infected Mushroom for the next hour or two? You see what I'm getting at? I don't need those things to be insanely euphoric all the time. My drug is life itself. My life is just so awesome it's unbelievable. I have a big house, all gaming systems, tons of friends, money, etc.

EDIT: Not meant to be offensive to any users of drugs or alcoholics. Or anybody else.

 

[Aux]

I have played around with all of these in the past and I ended up giving up smoking and drugs. I just thought smoking was stupid and went against everything I have ever worked on trying to get my mother to quit. Drugs I stopped more recently, not that I was a huge pothead or anything. I just simply was not enjoying the high that I got from it anymore, true I could move onto harder drugs but I have seen the aftermath and I rather not risk that.

My only issue with casual sex is that I find one person gets attached. I'm still for it however, as I have learned the hard way to block out those emotions take a step back and realize that nothing serous will come of this.

I drink like a fish at times, other times I just have the social beer while talking with my father or out for lunch with a friend. I know alcohol can screw people in the long run just like drugs, however I feel that I have picked my poison and that is my choice.

So am I happy? Yes I am, I enjoy my social life and wouldn't trade it for anything. I am random and spontaneous, yet predictable. There are parts of my life that I wish I could change but I feel that is normal.

 

[Harlemura]

I do none of the things in the title, including seeking a relationship.
I'm still sticking to the theory that being with someone would just be another person to have to spend money on. Yes, it's an excuse for not bothering to even try, no I don't care.

But overall, I'm happy. I have friends. I have my games. I can play these games with my friends.
I don't see why I need to go out all the time and put nasty things inside me just to be with one more person.