A question for our non-smoking, non-drinking, non-recreational-drugs-using, romance seeking Escapees

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Shadowflame66

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I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, or have casual sex at all whatsoever.

I also happen to be quite happy. Not only that, but I have absolutely no desire for any of the first three, and know I can get better than the last one.

I've pretty much been happy all my life without any of those things. And so is every one of my friends and family. Huh, go figure.
 

Denamic

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I don't drink because I get migraine from alcohol.
I don't smoke for the same reason, and it's expensive.
And I don't do drugs because I don't want to. (I'm for legalization though)
Although I did do marijuana a couple of times. Didn't impress me.
I'm with you on the sex thing though.
It's a lot more fun when your dick is in a vagina.
 

Pinguin

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Spinozaad said:
A simple question.

Are you happy?
Your question was quite well written. I can't really speak for those you are asking about because I enjoy some of the pleasures you list myself.

Happiness is a strange thing though. One cannot compare one person's to another's. There are people in wheelchairs who lead full, happy lives. And there are lottery winners who sink into unfulfilled despair. Personally I think there are just happy people, and people who tend not to be. If you're a happy person you'll be happy whether you're smoking, drinking and f*cking the day away, or if you're sitting quietly reading a book.

Also I'd point out the human behaviours tend to escalate, but the ones you list as giving you personal enjoyment perhaps especially so. The more you smoke, drink, etc; the less overall effect it has on you, and the more it alters the way you see the world without it. I don't wish to call you jaded from your experiences, but I'd imagine that someone who does none of those things gets almost imcomparably different pleasures from their own activities.
 

Jake the Snake

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I do absolutely none them. I've never had any kind of desire or inclination to try drugs of any kind or smoke anything. I rather like the reality I live in and I'm a bit of a control freak, so tripping out would probably drive me insane. I don't drink because I'm underage, which i suppose in the eyes of someone who drinks isn't a very good excuse, but, I just don't feel the desire too. I've never really understood the mystique drugs and alcohol have with young people. Is it because they're illegal and its cool to do things you're not supposed to? Or is it truly just for that fleetingly short lived high? Idk, I just avoid them. My friends do too, we have plenty of fun without them.

As for the girl thing, if anyone thinks there's a "Soul Mate" out there waiting to sweep them off their feet, they need to be slapped repeatedly until they wake up from their self deluded dream. Maybe sex is just sex, but that shouldn't really stop you from trying to build a relationship with someone, that's ridiculous.

Edit: To answer your original question, yes I am quite happy with my life. I don't see how someone can't enjoy life sober. If you need to escape, listen to music, or draw or write. That's what I do. Works wonders.
 

C117

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I'll survive. If I can just get good grades enough to get out of this house...
 

Krantos

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I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I'm married to the girl I lost my virginity to, and I'm very happy.

It's the Now vs. Future argument. Drinking, smoking, drugs and casual sex may make you "happy" in the moment, but how do you think those things are going to affect you 10 years from now?

On the other hand, yes, being a "straight-edge" virgin can cause you to be depressed. I know, I've been there. However, now that I'm married, I'm very glad I made the lifestyle choices that I did, while a lot of people I used to know who lived the "Now" lifestyle are regretting it.

The question boils down to "Are you willing to live with the long term consequences of your actions just to acquire that quick thrill?"

As I said, I don't think the NOW lifestyle is worth it and am very glad I stayed away from it.
 

SimuLord

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You have an interesting take on life. I used to be sex, drugs, and rock n' roll turned up to 11...and I was miserable. I lived a clean, moral, dull life...and I was miserable.

I've found a happy medium. Put simply, I fuck---disease-free + reliable birth control + at least moderately attractive = come on over and bring a friend if you like. I eat fast food and rare cheeseburgers and don't worry about my social conscience. I don't drink anymore, but that's because of an incident that proved to me that I don't handle my liquor well (I'm a violent drunk), not because of any stick up my ass.

So I'm with you in spirit, OP. But you don't have to be an ass about it.
 

Misterian

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I don't do any of those things and I'm happy.

I got good games, a career (sort of) as a fanfiction writer, a great family, I might be graduating high school and persue a career in the police force.

I lead a strictly pure life, which was what got my ex-girlfriend to dump me, I was only bummed out until I learned she was a druggie.
 

Chefodeath

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Ah, what a silly thread. What works for some doesn't work for others, blah blah. As long as we're arguing though, suppose I'll weigh in.

Its my opinion, OP, that your happiness does not stem as much directly from your use of drugs/casual sex etc. as it does from your willingness to engage in such things. You're uninhibited, you have little regrets.

We all have our highs and lows, but true misery, the kind of thing we build over a lifetime, the stuff that makes us look back as old men and cry over a squandered life, is made from regrets. Its looking back and saying "If only I had done that, if only I had done the other."

Personally, I'm happy with a quieter life, although when an opprotunity for something a little wilder appeals to me, I try to make it a discipline to take it.
 

elcamino41383

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I'm not HAPPY, no, not really. I've suffered from "clinical depression" most of my life. But it has NOTHING to do with the lack of those things in my life. I personally don't see how any of that is fun, well, except maybe the sex part. But I'm not "looking for the right girl" per say, but I am not fond of the idea of sleeping around either. The lack of a significant other is probably a problem leading away from my happiness, not my lack of random sex. As far as the drugs/drinking/smoking, I have enough wrong with me already, I don't need help in making them worse or killing myself any faster, thank you very much.

You don't get how I/we can have a nice life without those things. I personally don't see how people can have a nice life WITH them.

Little edit: I don't think I'm better than anyone else that DOES do such things. I just don't get it. I may not approve but it's your life, do what you will with it.
 

LostTimeLady

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I don't smoke, I don't take drugs, I don't get drunk (I do have to the odd half pint of a weekend, I'm not te-total), I don't have casual sex and yeah, I'm pretty happy. The reasons why I'm not happy when I'm not happy merely stems from other things and not an absence of things like drink and drugs.

Sure, I get why people would ask whether non-smokers/drinkers/drug-takers/causual-sex endulders have a good time of it, as they don't know what it's like to live without those things, but actually the reverse can be true. I don't really understand why some people think the only way to have fun with their mates is to get totally plastered. Frankly I don't see how that makes you happy, but that's just me.

What I'm getting at is that with all things it's each to their own.
 

GLo Jones

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This thread is never going to be successful. The reason being that while you can't put yourself in anyone else's shoes to compare, neither can anyone else.

No-one can know that they're having a 'better' life than anyone else, because everyone feels different. Everyone expresses their feelings differently, and while people can often gauge whether or not a person is particularly miserable/happy, you cannot judge whether anyone's life is generally more satisfying/happier. All these things are very subjective.

My nihilism makes me quite the hedonist in many respects, though I only smoke when nervous, and only enjoy occasional weed with friends. I say, you can only ever tell how you feel. So do what makes you feel best.

Drink, smoke, have wild sexual affairs, do drugs... That is, right up to the point where the anxiety about your health, and the morals and social rules burned into your mind, will allow you without outweighing the good feelings from it all.

In my case, I'll do weed and mild hallucinogens, but the thought of anything harder makes me uncomfortable, so I avoid them.

When people come across as stuck up when they talk about "not needing drugs to enjoy themselves", that attitude is just their method of boosting self-esteem and cementing the strength of their beliefs. They have that attitude to help them feel the best they can (whether they realise it or not). Therefore, don't concern yourself with it, and continue to live your life how you want. [/rant]

TL;DR:
Concerning yourself with others enjoyment is pointless, enjoy your own life.
 

Levitas1234

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qazmatoz said:
I honestly wouldn't mind giving drinking and stuff like weed a shot if it weren't for my fucked up brother who's sabotaged his life because of both of those. I definitely could use something to loosen up around people.

All things considered though, I'd say I'm pretty happy, but my life is definitely boring, like you say. Maybe once I move out of this town, away from my parents and my brother's shadow, I can indulge and enjoy life more. Until then I'd just feel guilty and afraid I'd end up like him.
take your brothers mistakes and learn from them, do what he did better. plus the only way to say if one has fucked their life is to ask if it's out of the social norm, then you must ask yourself, what is the social norm.
 

Yoshemo

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I refuse to drink, smoke, do drugs, and I don't screw anyone I'm not dating. I'm much happier than mostly everyone I know ^^
 

Mrrrgggrlllrrrg

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I'm perfectly happy with master crafted cigars and my collection of fine whiskeys but an activity I truly and unfathomably enjoy is pegging burn outs and other idiots with a beanbag and watching 'em trip on their own feet. It's so great when a young punk goads me into a confrontation and goes home to mommy crying. So yeah my life is pretty damn good.
 

Assassin Xaero

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I won't really say happy, but I wouldn't say unhappy (mostly due to where I live). I would like to get a girlfriend, but I wouldn't date someone who drinks, smokes, does other drugs, or has kids. Pretty much everyone around my age that has a kid was either a whore/slut or made a bad choice at some point. And I wouldn't date someone that I knew there was no chance for a future with, and someone that smokes, drinks, or does drugs is not someone I want to have a future with... I could care less if my friends drink or smoke or whatever. With pretty much everyone, it is their life, not mine, but I wouldn't want to share my life with someone that does that shit.

Spinozaad said:
But some times they're even more fun with drugs or alcohol!
Take some acid then go play FEAR or Penumbra and then see if it is still the same...