Agreed.dohteM said:
Is the OP by any chance this guy?
http://www.facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=992894
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Is the OP by any chance this guy?
http://www.facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=992894
I didn't look at your pics, but I don't need to as I'm guessing this is really just a personality issue. That's not to say that you shouldn't strive to look physically appealing and it will certainly help in the end but if you're looking for an actual relationship then you need more then just good looks. If you're just looking to get laid though then eh...looks are like 90% of what you need.
Anywho it may sound cliche but you need to be confident in yourself before you can keep a girl. Posting on the escapist of all places doesn't suggest you have that and no offense intended comes off as desperate and sad. I know some people suggest trying a pity angle but I've always called BS on that.
The only other advice I can give is don't try too hard. I used to lean more on the desperate side myself and basically try to pursue any female that crossed my path. A few months after I stopped looking is when I actually got into my first relationship. Just be casual and relaxed at first then ask them out. You just need to be careful that you don't let this go on for too long otherwise you end up in the friendship zone which complicates things. I'd say just like three or four "not dates" before you try pushing it further. Lets you start to get to know them better then just an initial meeting and gives a good idea of whether or not you have chemistry.
Jumping back to the physical aspect for just a moment...clothing attire plays a role too though that's an area that I can't give advice on over the internet as it varies from person to person. If in doubt, just ask a female friend/sister/someone else who can give you some good wardrobe advice.
Anywho it may sound cliche but you need to be confident in yourself before you can keep a girl. Posting on the escapist of all places doesn't suggest you have that and no offense intended comes off as desperate and sad. I know some people suggest trying a pity angle but I've always called BS on that.
The only other advice I can give is don't try too hard. I used to lean more on the desperate side myself and basically try to pursue any female that crossed my path. A few months after I stopped looking is when I actually got into my first relationship. Just be casual and relaxed at first then ask them out. You just need to be careful that you don't let this go on for too long otherwise you end up in the friendship zone which complicates things. I'd say just like three or four "not dates" before you try pushing it further. Lets you start to get to know them better then just an initial meeting and gives a good idea of whether or not you have chemistry.
Jumping back to the physical aspect for just a moment...clothing attire plays a role too though that's an area that I can't give advice on over the internet as it varies from person to person. If in doubt, just ask a female friend/sister/someone else who can give you some good wardrobe advice.
that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...Ultratwinkie said:*hurls at picture*Sacman said:I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...Ultratwinkie said:
jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?
I'm not a girl, but here's a little advice:
1) The only dudes who have a right to carry your kind of weight have white beards and red suits and say "ho" more often than Snoop Dogg.
2) See a dermatologist about those moles unless you want to be repeatedly hit in the face with a mallet by confused carnival-goers.
3) That said (and I'm just bustin' your ass, really), do you have anything to offer women conversation-wise? I have found in my travels that making women laugh or making them think can do wonders for a man's attractiveness no matter what he looks like. If all else fails, add cute animal.
1) The only dudes who have a right to carry your kind of weight have white beards and red suits and say "ho" more often than Snoop Dogg.
2) See a dermatologist about those moles unless you want to be repeatedly hit in the face with a mallet by confused carnival-goers.
3) That said (and I'm just bustin' your ass, really), do you have anything to offer women conversation-wise? I have found in my travels that making women laugh or making them think can do wonders for a man's attractiveness no matter what he looks like. If all else fails, add cute animal.
Well you lok to be a nice guy.
I would suggest finding a more flattering pair of frames.. those ones just seem the wrong shape for you. I would also suggest a differant hair style (perhaps a tad longer?)
Weight wise, i am not a judging person, but it may help your health, if nothing else.
Just be yourself ,and the right one will come along. Don't get hung up on the destination, enjoy the journey. You can be happy without a partner
I would suggest finding a more flattering pair of frames.. those ones just seem the wrong shape for you. I would also suggest a differant hair style (perhaps a tad longer?)
Weight wise, i am not a judging person, but it may help your health, if nothing else.
Just be yourself ,and the right one will come along. Don't get hung up on the destination, enjoy the journey. You can be happy without a partner
Yeah I don't talk to many people either, excluding close friends, but I guess that explains why I'm dating my cousin... but it's not like I haven't had a GF before...Ultratwinkie said:yea but my problem isn't because of me. i don't talk to many people. the way things are right now doesn't allow it.Sacman said:that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...Ultratwinkie said:*hurls at picture*Sacman said:I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...Ultratwinkie said:
jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?
actually I do play guitar but the last band I was in was a Nirvana tribute band so I was playing stuff like this...AjimboB said:You totally look like a guy who would be vegan and think that every animal is sacred.Sacman said:I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...Ultratwinkie said:
Myspace angle FTW!!!
I'm not saying that's what you are, but that's totally what you look like to me.
Do you play an acoustic guitar by any chance, because that would totally seal the image.
though I do play some classical mostly stuff I think sounds nice and so I can get away with waring a suit while I play...
seriously it's that big of a deal? were like 5th cousins but I just refer to her as such cause I think it's kind of hot like a forbidden love type of thing...AjimboB said:You're dating your cousin? That's sad and disturbing. You've done a bad thing and you should feel bad, and you have no right to criticize anyone else about anything in their life.Sacman said:Yeah I don't talk to many people either, excluding close friends, but I guess that explains why I'm dating my cousin... but it's not like I haven't had a GF before...Ultratwinkie said:yea but my problem isn't because of me. i don't talk to many people. the way things are right now doesn't allow it.Sacman said:that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...Ultratwinkie said:*hurls at picture*Sacman said:I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...Ultratwinkie said:
jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?
yes, yes you placed your disapproval on my last 2 threads about the subject...Ultratwinkie said:yea but my problem isn't because of me. i don't talk to many people. the way things are right now doesn't allow it.Sacman said:that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...Ultratwinkie said:*hurls at picture*Sacman said:I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...Ultratwinkie said:
jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?
who said it was legal?AjimboB said:Just because it's legal doesn't make it right.Sacman said:seriously it's that big of a deal? were like 5th cousins but I just refer to her as such cause I think it's kind of hot like a forbidden love type of thing...AjimboB said:You're dating your cousin? That's sad and disturbing. You've done a bad thing and you should feel bad, and you have no right to criticize anyone else about anything in their life.Sacman said:Yeah I don't talk to many people either, excluding close friends, but I guess that explains why I'm dating my cousin... but it's not like I haven't had a GF before...Ultratwinkie said:yea but my problem isn't because of me. i don't talk to many people. the way things are right now doesn't allow it.Sacman said:that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...Ultratwinkie said:*hurls at picture*Sacman said:I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...Ultratwinkie said:
jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?
*waves*Ultratwinkie said:
Eat small portions. It's not always about excersice, or even what you eat. Smaller portions, everyday, coupled with some thirty minute walks pondering the meaning of life, and in a few months you'll be right as rain (try for thrity minutes everyday - perhaps join a gym if you haven't already?) =)darktau21 said:
besides how is that sad and disturbing? we are 2 people who genuinely care about each other that should be all there is to it...AjimboB said:You're dating your cousin? That's sad and disturbing. You've done a bad thing and you should feel bad, and you have no right to criticize anyone else about anything in their life.Sacman said:Yeah I don't talk to many people either, excluding close friends, but I guess that explains why I'm dating my cousin... but it's not like I haven't had a GF before...Ultratwinkie said:yea but my problem isn't because of me. i don't talk to many people. the way things are right now doesn't allow it.Sacman said:that's an old picture my hair is longer now... and I remember you posting somewhere else that you haven't had a GF... if I remember correctly...Ultratwinkie said:*hurls at picture*Sacman said:I have long hair, I don't care about the environment, and I have a girlfriend...Personally I think really short hair makes you look creepy...Ultratwinkie said:
jesus christ, and you think i look creepy?