Am I Really the Minority When it Comes to Sex?

[elvor0]

I'm with you on this one. My friend's first time was with this absolute whore and I feel like I picked the smart choice. Nothing wrong with being chaste untill you find the right person.

... I'm going to be intensely lame for a moment.

You grind out experience on the easy ones so you can progress faster.

It's true y'know. That way you can be a sex machine when you get with someone you actually like.

 

[Ickorus]

You aren't alone man, i feel the same way.

I also had a similar experience to you but without the sex bit, dated a girl for a few months and really liked her but then literally the night i decided to take things to the next level i found out she'd cheated on me.

In fact in the months after i left her i found she'd cheated on me multiple times with multiple people. Glad i didn't go for it that night, might have caught something.

By the way, im 20.

 

[DaveTheHamster]

it is called hormones, I have read a few studies that not only are teens hitting puberty earlier but the hormone levels are higher and more hormones=fucking everything that moves, I know this from experience you are lucky my friend.

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

A question I've been dwelling over for some time now. I'm sure we all have noticed the growing promiscuity of teenagers and I'm just wondering, why? Why is sex something that is sought out so much after by any means? It seems like average teen just wants to have sex as soon as possible and doesn't matter who it's with.

Now I'm not saying everyone is like this, just it seems that a lot of people (at least where I live) are.

I've never really been one for the whole sex thing. It's not that I'm gay, don't care or asexual even, I just want to wait for someone I love before I have sex. After reading a few studies and surveys showing that the average person loses their virginity between 15 -17, I can't help wonder if I'm really the only one who wants to wait or if I'm just missing out on it by being so uptight.

Now I will admit that I had sex once in my life. It ended horribly and I deeply regret because I was in love with the girl and it turned out, she didn't even remotely feel the same about me and I'm wondering if I'm the only one who feels it would be best to wait.

Please note that my feelings towards sex has absolutely nothing to do with any religious beliefs. I'm also not saying there should be a certain age or you should wait till marriage. Just until you're actually in love. Not the bullshit that teenagers feel when they like someone, but actual love.

So, Escapist, what are your thoughts on this? Am I just being uptight when it comes to the subject or am I in the right for thinking this?

Growing promiscuity? I'm not convinced. I mean...how can you know? There are alot of people who lie about the amount of sex they have, young men can often drastically exaggerate it to impress peers(I expected a few that I knew were lying, one was proved to be lying...it was both funny and sad), and it wouldn't surprise me if people downplayed their past as they get older and become less insecure about the whole thing.

I would just ignore everybody elses opinions(including mine)and do what suits you.

 

[Lambi]

I haven't had sex once in my life and I'm 21. I'd like to think that, like you, I'm waiting for that one woman I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. There are very few times where I don't like the fact that I'm a virgin, but most of the time it doesn't really matter for me. And it shouldn't matter if you're a virgin or not, it's your decision to have sex or not.

 

[Marter]

You are most certainly not the only one. I'm waiting for the right person as well. I've had chances, but I passed them up because I want to actually care about the person I lose my virginity to.

 

[Flying Dagger]

Welcome to the golden age of contraception.

 

[Totenkopf]

You are not alone. I want to wait for the right girl, too. For me, it's about the love.

 

[MercenaryCanary]

People want to have sex because it's cheap, fun, and pleasurable.
Notice how these appeal to all of our happy senses.

 

[Sir_Tor]

I am, excuse the bluntness, amazingly and constantly horney. Don't get me wrong, from a girlfriend I expect intimacy, comfort and somewhat a sense of purpose but being single I just want to f*** almost all the time.

I feel your pain brother!
OT: Same as the guy I quoted! But I forget about it and just try to make alot of friends

 

[The Last Nomad]

Am I Really the Minority When it Comes to Sex?

Yeah... I'd say so...

But I'm there too... And I'll bring the only girl I need, Mary Jane!

Spoiler: and maybe I'll bring some funk

 

[Kungfu_Teddybear]

I 'm not like that. My girlfriend is the one and only person i have had sex with, but i love her more than anything, i waited for the right girl and i waited until she was ready also. But it's the same where i live, loads of guys only care about sex...come to think of it loads of the girls do to.

There was a girl like that in my High School she was a slut and i really didn't like her she tried flirting with me once and i bluntly told her to fuck off. I dislike people that only care about being with someone for sex. the guy that lives next to me is also like that a few years ago he started going out with this really nice girl and because within the first week of going out she didn't have sex with him he broke up with her, so i said he was a fucking arsehole and i havn't spoke to him since.

Another thing i hate is people that cheat on their partners...i can't fucking stand those cunts!

 

[Sprong]

Im gonna agree with you. I mix the two, I think. I wanted to have sex as soon as I could, but i didnt want it to be some one-night stand or with some random girl. I waited for somebody I really liked, and gave it time inbetween, because then at leats I knew the relationship isnt based off of sex. And at least that way I can look back and say I dontt regret it at all, even if the relationship didnt work out.

But yeah, Id say we're a minority.

This is essentially what I did too. I waited until I was ready, and I definitely don't regret that.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

I'm not really interested in sex, either, it just seems, meh.

Maybe I'm weird, and maybe there's a condition, but my sex drive is non-existent.

 

[Cucumber]

I'm 18 and I still haven't even had my first kiss. xD

I guess you could say I'm waiting. You could also say I don't really have a sex drive so it's the least of my priorities right now. :/

I doubt I'll ever have it at this rate. \o/ I'm going for the 40 year old virgin route.

This, this is just me. And I don't worry about being odd or anything, Instead, I prefer to look at everyone else and go "peh, savage beasts..." xD

 

[Low Key]

Because it's fun and it feels good? That's why I have sex anyways. I'd imagine a lot of people think this way.

 

[Nevaehfo]

I've seen the negative results personally, from other people's experiences, and I really just don't think it's worth it. And, I know it sounds incredibly cliche, but, "For every person you have been with, you leave a piece of your heart with every one."

You may have a different opinion, and I respect that. This is just from my experience.

 

[SpiderHam666]

I was a virgin until i was 24 but i wouldn't say it was because i was trying to retain it i just couldn't find a willing partner