In recent months there has been a lot of work (ad campaigns, social action groups, school yard rules and regulations) put into place to stop the supposedly "Growing" threat of bullying, in both the physical, and virtual world. With so many cases being brought into the light, of children commiting suicide due to the way there bullies treated them. (And in some much darker cases the "aftermath" where the bullies continued to torment the family or even continue to make fun of the now dead "victim".
To start with you'll notice I put the word Victim in quotations, now, I am not here to get involved in a discussion about what EXACTLY qualifies as a victim, and what is merely a person going thru the up's and downs of life. But I will supply one thing, the www.Dictionary.com Defintion of Victim.
1.
a person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency: a victim of an automobile accident.
2.
a person who is deceived or cheated, as by his or her own emotions or ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency: a victim of misplaced confidence; the victim of a swindler; a victim of an optical illusion.
3.
a person or animal sacrificed or regarded as sacrificed: war victims.
4.
a living creature sacrificed in religious rites.
Now of course, we can rule out these bullied teens or pre-teens as being involved in religious sacrifices, and even performing actions seen as sacrificial (Such as, like the definition proposes War victims) now we are left with this cheated or swindled of there belongings, and those that fall prey to destructive acts or injurious actions.(To paraphrase of course) now, many people could argue that some of the most recent cases of people are victims of the former, those that have been swindled or led to believe that what is true is in fact false (as in the recent case with the girl who was convinced a guy she was talking to online was a real person, and later her tormentors revealed her folly, and she soon commited suicide). Of course there are also those who are beaten, and injured on a daily basis by there tormentors (even if this is in fact "emotional injury".)
Now only by progressing further can we make progress, the main reason I brought up victims, is that in past years, being bullied was not seen as a heinous crime to your persons. Just as you could not hold nature accountable for destroying your trailer, you can't hold children accountable for calling you a poop face during middle school because you fell in the mud. At least, that used to be the sentiment. Now we are trying to hold immature children, with a strong desire to fit in, and form a clique so they can begin there transition into adulthood. (I.E. the progression into adulthood resulting from learning the harsh lesson of yes, dear they are nice people but you just won't get along with them, so it's best to stay with those you like rather then try and hang out with people you hate just to look "educated" and "classy") For actions they, despite the attempts made by school officials can not truly fathom because, yes they can in fact process torment, and things of that nature, but during the developing hormonal period known as puberty, they revert back to the ME centric thought process of the so called "terrible 2's" but instead of just Me, it becomes WE (We being the immediate clique the child is involved in) this of course is evident in the way most teens treat there parents, I.E. acting like there immediate friends are in fact, now the most knowledgeable people they know because Janie knows how to open a beer bottle on a curb, and Johnny knows how to tie a noose. To sum it up, It's natural for a child to become introverted into there clique, and seek to alienate, and make examples of, of there other classmates.
So why the big deal all of a sudden? Most people point towards the internet, and texting, with such a huge wealth of information available to people in such an easy to retrieve manner, it soon becomes impossible for someone to not know something about you that you would really rather them not. Also, this allows for the bullying to occur outside of school grounds, further decreasing the safe zone the so called "Victims" has. Of course, there are a few details that are left out, and these of course include things like, How did they get your information, Why did you make that public, and Why didn't you just block or report all the users who abused you? Now lets start with the first question, that being how did they get your information, and I can answer that easily. Do you have a facebook? Do you have a first and last name (perhaps middle name) Listed on your face book? Do you have your highschool listed? Did you know there was a search bar where I can plug in all that information, and find you instantly, picking you out of the 200 other Joe Stanley Smiths on face book? To answer the second question, a lot of times, people misjudge the privacy of the internet, or they release information they think will not be a problem which later blows up in there face (all the tales of employees posting negative things about there work, and getting fired comes to mind.) And the third question, is harder to answer, a lot of the time, people don't know about blocking and reporting users, and other times, it just never happens, for what ever reason imaginable they just don't do it, either because they think it's hopeless anyway, or just because they feel it would only make it worse at school. So what can you do to stop this? First consider this, if you posted this on facebook, do you want everyone to read it, even the president of the united states? Secondly, remember there are ignore functions for a reason.
So finally, I do have one thing to say, and that is this. I feel America is not fighting back against bullying they are in fact pushing there way backwards, inhibiting the natural reactions children have, and instead of fixing the problem, we are infact making it worse by making it public, we are coddling those who need to know the world is hard, and it sucks ass, and killing yourself isn't going to solve anything, because in the long run, we all get fucked eventually, might as well get it out of the way early, and no, I am not a bully who feels a need to keep up my actions, thru out my entire Middleschool, Highschool, and even most of elementary school, I got my ass kicked, made fun of, threatened , and even had someone swing a heavy metal pole mere inches above my head.(as well as knives and various other weapons) So why would I be saying this? Because in the long run, we are making people weaker, by suggesting that these people are just messed up, and you will never find anyone in the real world even remotely like this. Seriously, I keep getting mugged/ my shit jacked more times then I can count. Does that sound like a world with out bullies? No, So what can you do? Prepare yourself, learn the signs, and the ways to avoid conflict, and you'll end up a lot happier. Stop being a victim. Stop being a Number. Become a Human again.
Tl;dr Bullying, Get over it you pussies.
To start with you'll notice I put the word Victim in quotations, now, I am not here to get involved in a discussion about what EXACTLY qualifies as a victim, and what is merely a person going thru the up's and downs of life. But I will supply one thing, the www.Dictionary.com Defintion of Victim.
1.
a person who suffers from a destructive or injurious action or agency: a victim of an automobile accident.
2.
a person who is deceived or cheated, as by his or her own emotions or ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency: a victim of misplaced confidence; the victim of a swindler; a victim of an optical illusion.
3.
a person or animal sacrificed or regarded as sacrificed: war victims.
4.
a living creature sacrificed in religious rites.
Now of course, we can rule out these bullied teens or pre-teens as being involved in religious sacrifices, and even performing actions seen as sacrificial (Such as, like the definition proposes War victims) now we are left with this cheated or swindled of there belongings, and those that fall prey to destructive acts or injurious actions.(To paraphrase of course) now, many people could argue that some of the most recent cases of people are victims of the former, those that have been swindled or led to believe that what is true is in fact false (as in the recent case with the girl who was convinced a guy she was talking to online was a real person, and later her tormentors revealed her folly, and she soon commited suicide). Of course there are also those who are beaten, and injured on a daily basis by there tormentors (even if this is in fact "emotional injury".)
Now only by progressing further can we make progress, the main reason I brought up victims, is that in past years, being bullied was not seen as a heinous crime to your persons. Just as you could not hold nature accountable for destroying your trailer, you can't hold children accountable for calling you a poop face during middle school because you fell in the mud. At least, that used to be the sentiment. Now we are trying to hold immature children, with a strong desire to fit in, and form a clique so they can begin there transition into adulthood. (I.E. the progression into adulthood resulting from learning the harsh lesson of yes, dear they are nice people but you just won't get along with them, so it's best to stay with those you like rather then try and hang out with people you hate just to look "educated" and "classy") For actions they, despite the attempts made by school officials can not truly fathom because, yes they can in fact process torment, and things of that nature, but during the developing hormonal period known as puberty, they revert back to the ME centric thought process of the so called "terrible 2's" but instead of just Me, it becomes WE (We being the immediate clique the child is involved in) this of course is evident in the way most teens treat there parents, I.E. acting like there immediate friends are in fact, now the most knowledgeable people they know because Janie knows how to open a beer bottle on a curb, and Johnny knows how to tie a noose. To sum it up, It's natural for a child to become introverted into there clique, and seek to alienate, and make examples of, of there other classmates.
So why the big deal all of a sudden? Most people point towards the internet, and texting, with such a huge wealth of information available to people in such an easy to retrieve manner, it soon becomes impossible for someone to not know something about you that you would really rather them not. Also, this allows for the bullying to occur outside of school grounds, further decreasing the safe zone the so called "Victims" has. Of course, there are a few details that are left out, and these of course include things like, How did they get your information, Why did you make that public, and Why didn't you just block or report all the users who abused you? Now lets start with the first question, that being how did they get your information, and I can answer that easily. Do you have a facebook? Do you have a first and last name (perhaps middle name) Listed on your face book? Do you have your highschool listed? Did you know there was a search bar where I can plug in all that information, and find you instantly, picking you out of the 200 other Joe Stanley Smiths on face book? To answer the second question, a lot of times, people misjudge the privacy of the internet, or they release information they think will not be a problem which later blows up in there face (all the tales of employees posting negative things about there work, and getting fired comes to mind.) And the third question, is harder to answer, a lot of the time, people don't know about blocking and reporting users, and other times, it just never happens, for what ever reason imaginable they just don't do it, either because they think it's hopeless anyway, or just because they feel it would only make it worse at school. So what can you do to stop this? First consider this, if you posted this on facebook, do you want everyone to read it, even the president of the united states? Secondly, remember there are ignore functions for a reason.
So finally, I do have one thing to say, and that is this. I feel America is not fighting back against bullying they are in fact pushing there way backwards, inhibiting the natural reactions children have, and instead of fixing the problem, we are infact making it worse by making it public, we are coddling those who need to know the world is hard, and it sucks ass, and killing yourself isn't going to solve anything, because in the long run, we all get fucked eventually, might as well get it out of the way early, and no, I am not a bully who feels a need to keep up my actions, thru out my entire Middleschool, Highschool, and even most of elementary school, I got my ass kicked, made fun of, threatened , and even had someone swing a heavy metal pole mere inches above my head.(as well as knives and various other weapons) So why would I be saying this? Because in the long run, we are making people weaker, by suggesting that these people are just messed up, and you will never find anyone in the real world even remotely like this. Seriously, I keep getting mugged/ my shit jacked more times then I can count. Does that sound like a world with out bullies? No, So what can you do? Prepare yourself, learn the signs, and the ways to avoid conflict, and you'll end up a lot happier. Stop being a victim. Stop being a Number. Become a Human again.
Tl;dr Bullying, Get over it you pussies.
