That's it? When I didn't do a chore I was smacked and/or sent to bed without dinner that night.
I hated it, but oddly enough I think it actually helped.
I hated it, but oddly enough I think it actually helped.
Anyone else find this law stupid (Not about marijuana) ?
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you live in their house dont you? you eat their food? they might not give you money but do you contribute to the bills like water, electricity, internet? so your contribution is to do some chores?
seems fair for them to take money off you if you dont do them.
seems fair for them to take money off you if you dont do them.
Talk to your bank, find out if your parents can access your account. If they do; ask to set up an account they don't have access to and have your wages go into the new account.
If the bank teller isn't very helpful just start lying, say that your dad has a gambling problem and you need to protect your earnings from him. Just don't make the lie so elaborate that they call social services on you.
If the bank teller isn't very helpful just start lying, say that your dad has a gambling problem and you need to protect your earnings from him. Just don't make the lie so elaborate that they call social services on you.
No, you are not the only one. However, this is the double-edge sword of being a minor. Until you hit 18, 16 in some states, you are under your parents protection and care and anything and everything you bring into the house is the property of the family. This goes back to the Colonial days when it was the FAMILY that was most important, not the individual members.icame said:
HOWEVER, if your bank account is in your name and your name ONLY then your parents CANNOT withdraw any funds from it. They can put money IN the account but they cannot take money OUT. By law, the bank can only allow the owner(s) of the account make withdrawals. So, if your bank account is in your name only, your parents CANNOT take money out of it. If your bank account is in your name and one of your parent's names, then they can take the money.
Now, that is how things work at the bank at which I am employed (and I have had to deal with many irate parents over that policy), so you might want to ask your bank what it's policy is if you are that worried about it.
BUT, to be fair to your parents, the only reason they are threatening to take the money from you is because you forgot to do your chores. If you do your chores, then they won't take the money. IF you are too exhausted to do your chores because of school + work, then you need to explain this to them and ask for either (a) more time to do said chores or (b) less chores.
Also, you are a teenager. You forget things. Science has studied the teenage brain and found the hormonal changes you are going through DO affect your ability to remember things. This does not give you an out, though, and your parents are NOT going to accept that as an answer. Try writing your chores down on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor. Again, if it is just too much for you, and be honest about that, to do house-chores, school and job, then talk to your parents about it.
As a parent, I most certainly do NOT see my relationship with my kids as 'ownership'. What I do have is Responsibility, possibly the most important responsibility any person can ever accept - the 100% care and livelihood of another human being. It is a caretaker role. My job is to prepare them for the world and hopefully turn out an adult responsible to take on the duty of parenthood himself.Darknacht said:
Not all parents are like this obviously, but I don't see anything but an incentive to teach in the OP's parent's actions.
Think of like any fine eg. speeding. It's a voluntary tax. You choose to pay the fine by willingly breaching the terms.
I'm sorry, how old are you, and do you own a house? cause if not, Statistically, you're costing your parents 400K dollars American to raise you to 18.
Not only htat, they're feeding and clothing you, and giving you shelter. you shouldnt hvave to be paid to do chores.
Not only htat, they're feeding and clothing you, and giving you shelter. you shouldnt hvave to be paid to do chores.
First off, fair enough that they provide for you and all. But pertaining to this situation, taking away money, not a insignificant amount at that, just for forgetting? Hell, i forget to do stuff all the time around here and at most, my mom gets annoyed. Also, being forgetful is not always something that can be "trained" away. Sometimes that's just how it is, but i guess if someone flat out ignores doing chores punishment is not unreasonable. But personally i find this whole idea of chores silly these days. To summarise: It is messed up that you as a minor have no say in this kind of stuf whatsoever, and no, parents shouldn't be able to take stuff you've earned by your own hands. What you owe them you can pay them back when you're an adult and actually can afford that kind of thing.
There seems to be a simple solution for this. Do your chores. Yeah sometimes you will forget and you will have to give them $20, but hell as long as you remember to do them most of the time you will keep your money. Parents do not just do this kind of thing out of nowhere. If they needed the money, you would not have the paycheck, if you had a history of always doing your chores they would not have said anything.
Tragically, incompetent parenting is not illegal. Just put up with it for now - you'll have more independence when you get to college.
This year? Probably about 20-25. So, about 4-5 times a month. That includes anything from Taking out the trash to cutting our yard, my neighbors yard, etc as well as things like forgetting to close the shower curtain when I get out of the shower. Though, as I said, I have a horrible memory so there could more.Fleischer said:
I never asked to be. I was pointing out that I never receive any money from the parents for anything, all I have is what i have earned at a job. What annoys me is that they can take money away fro me, that they have not given me. That is the discussion.emeraldrafael said:
Ah. read that post wrong.icame said:
well, i still think they can, and should. You should be punished for not doing chores, especially for your parents. THink of it this way, you're not compensating labor, so they're taking money equivalent to what you're costing them.
You're a minor. You have no rights. None. You do not have the right to stop your parents from taking your property, even property they did not give you, you do not have the right to sign contracts or enter into agreements, you do not have the right to be outside after the curfew set by your community, you do not have the to choose where you will be when someone else dictates that your presence is required (like school), and you do not have the right to vote to be able to change any of this.icame said:
If you truly believe that this is stupid, then the only way you can do anything about it is for you to remember this when you turn 18 and start voting. Until then, you're stuck with the laws non-minors decided should apply to minors.
if you already pay rent, then yes its pretty fucking stupid. if you dont, then dont complain about $20 here or $20 there.
ahh the good old daysIrridium said:
