Are All Teens Drug/Sex Addicts? ...Really?

[Guitar Gamer]

Sex addict?!?!!
ME!?!?

Sir one must first haven partaken in the vice to be an addict, otherwise your merely obsessed with the idea

 

[zelda2fanboy]

I managed to get out of my teens without sex or drugs. I thought that was weird and then I graduated college without making the sex or drugs or alcohol. I'm a bit of a freak, but people I went to high school with really were into that. I had lunch with a sophomore when I was a senior and was a bit shocked at the stuff he'd say. I'm pretty sure he had had more sex at age 16 than I will ever have in my entire life.

But no, the vast majority of people weren't really into that all that much. Sex and beer, no doubt, but I think kids are scared enough by their parents, pregnant peers, and health class to save most of their fun for senior prom night and college.

 

[TheRocketeer]

Well, I personally never was, but... pretty much, yeah.

 

[AshuraSpeaks]

My mom thinks I'm going to have sex with my girlfriend every chance I get these days. All because she read The Tenth Circle by Jodi Piccoult. It depicts the kids drinking and having a rainbow party.

Well there's your problem. Your mom is reading an author who has such a bad case of Did Not Do The Research that she believes that kids actually have "Rainbow Parties."

Kids may drink because it's taboo, and have sex for fun, but it's not only rarer than your mother thinks, but post-teenage years can become far more prevalent/likely/fun.

You should probably point out to your mom that you're asking for help on a gaming forum, and that you'll be too busy posting about videogames to get sucked into a world of teenaged debauchery.

P.S. I wonder how she'd react toward you if she was reading Twilight.

uh... what is a rainbow party anyway?

In theory (not reality) it's an oral sex party where girls wear different makeup, thus leading to a rainbow on your junk by night's end. This fails on the most basic level, because I can't imagine any group of girls large enough to cover that color range wanting to have that much oral sex with guys. I mean, come on, they get nothing in return if they do!

 

[leviathanmisha]

I'm a teen and I admit that sex is nice...but I'm not crazy addicted...I like my STEADY relationship, the sex is just an added bonus. On the topic of drinking and drugs, I'll admit that I've gotten trashed before, but I was at my best friend's house and her parents don't care as long as I spend the night and don't drive. Drugs have no appeal to me though...so I guess I'm 2 of the 3...

 

[WorldCritic]

Well I do know a lot of adults who have these ideas, but it doesn't seem to be a huge thing.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

Nobody is going to want to read about normally functioning people or teenagers...unless of course something horrible happens to them. I guess teens fill the role well though: It's an awkward time due to puberty and whatnot so sometimes they [and I know I was a part of this group] do or, say something stupid or simply trip over themselves. Also, all of the anti-drug propaganda has an annoying habit of getting teens and young adults as their focal points.

 

[DarkRyter]

I would certainly enjoy some drugs and sex right now, but I'm not gonna put in too much effort in attaining it.

 

[Cinnonym]

Isn't any generalization typically only half-right and usually looked down upon by others? Well, what I'm getting at is that Yes, a lot of teenagers are like that, and No, a lot are not. I was a very good girl in high school and all my friends were equivalently mannered--even with all the press screaming about it, when I hit college I was shocked at how prevalent they both seemed. Actually, what surprised me more was their attitude about it. They were completely casual about the morality of their actions, and completely understanding that not everybody wanted a hit or a screw.

And I thought that was awesome.

They didn't do it because they got a giggle out of doing something naughty, and they didn't not do it because someone told them it was bad. I'm not condoning the behavior by any means, but accepting the consequences for your own actions--actions that you're doing because you want to do them, which is as good a reason as any--adds a completely different layer of understanding to the topic.

Err.

Speaking of "the topic", I think your mother's silly for letting a book, or even the news, be your judge of character rather than your own personality. It's true that it happens, but it doesn't happen to everyone.

 

[Treblaine]

No, unless a film/TV show is able to show all the hundreds of millions (Billions?) of teenagers in the world at once then there is no way they can depict what ALL teenagers are doing.

They can only show what teenagers that happen to end up on screen do so could only possibly show what SOME teenagers MIGHT do.

And it is undeniable that SOME teenagers are sex-crazy drug users... why? because you have to be stupid to do shit like that and teenagers are very... VERY, Stupid. I know, I was one.

It depicts the kids drinking and having a rainbow party.

AHHHH HA HA HA HAAA HA HAA HA!

Oh I would like yo meet your mother, I would point and laugh in her face till my sides hurt.

Rainbow party... holy fuck, I don't know what is stupider, that some people (mostly middle aged women) read that and ACTUALLY believe it for even a second or that somone was retarded enough to even WRITE it!

Rainbow parties?

FUCK sake.

yeah, drinking is a given, that's easy, non-committal, but only a RIDICULOUSLY out of touch shut-in would actually think that teenagers had the GUTS to do sex stuff like have a rainbow party.

I mean how the fuck does the author think that happens? How (or even WHY?) would teenage boys compare the lipstick on their penises with other teenage boys? I find it laughable that teenage boys could be fellate MULTIPLE times without ejaculating and then runnign away after losing their nerve.

Most teenagers struggle to hold their wad for 5 seconds of seeing ACTUAL BOOOBS(!) and the idea that teenagers would resort to such contrived and ridiculous sex games makes me think the author must have made it up and put it in the book as a bet. Teenagers do have sex, quite often, but it is awkward, uncoordinated and unsatisfying for both parties, to spite everyone putting on a brave face there is the undeniable fact:

Virgins don't know how to fuck.

And a few times after first time doesn't change that, people are only ever going to get good at fucking having a long term relationship with a partner that they totally trust and have excellent communication and ease with each other.

Please, the most that most teenagers get up to - if they are lucky - is heavy snogging and uncomfortable fingering/hand-job.

And why would multiple teenage girls suck the same guys dick? Does the author have NO IDEA how teenagers interact? It is all power plays and teenage girls may like to do it with guys but they want a RELATIONSHIP, a guy to call their own, they don't want to be branded sluts... even the ones who kinda are.

 

[Demongeneral109]

If your on escapist, you too busy being addicted to games and Mountain Dew to worry about those things! /jk

but seriously... no

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

90% of my school is like that.
Maybe it's just my school but it doesn't seem that off to me.

 

[Klarinette]

I'm not a sex addict, but in a relationship, I'd definitely take it every chance I get. I've also tried a few kinds of drugs, but never been addicted to anything. I think those kinds of novels focus on worst-case scenario, but people take it as "this is how things are".

Or something. I don't know. Paranoid, over-protective, sheltering parents are part of the problem, anyway.

 

[Berserker119]

It scares me. It really does. I mean, I know someone who has to have sex with their dealers to get their coke, and she's only thirteen. THIRTEEN. THAT'S NOT A GOOD THING. The worst part is, though, you have to, to be "cool". Good thing I'm not.

 

[The3rdEye]

Spoiler

Alright, I'm noticing a trend lately. "Adult" Literature (No, not pornographic) seems to be depicting teens, anywhere from 14-19, as either sex-crazed or buying drugs.

Now, I'm not normally one to complain, but I can see where this is going to lead. Parents who read these books are going to become paranoid. They will try to match any sort of pattern in the book with their child's life, and then condemn them for it. Now I'm not saying there aren't teens that do this, but think about it. How many times do you see a teen in the news for something other than this kind of behavior? This is going to lead to the same kind of paranoia that will cause parents to suffocate their kids, instead of letting them experience life for themselves.

Why am I complaining about this? My mom thinks I'm going to have sex with my girlfriend every chance I get these days. All because she read The Tenth Circle by Jodi Piccoult. It depicts the kids drinking and having a rainbow party.

Feel free to shoot me down now.

Thank,

JGreg

Well, if people wrote about teens doing normal things it would be boring, lame, and not sell well. So books and the news find stories like that and turn little things into huge problems/"news" stories.

To elaborate on what Irridium has already said:

1) How many times do you see a character on tv or in film go to the washroom solely to "answer the call of nature"? Mundane is just that, we don't care and it doesn't sell.

2) Teens are typically depicted as the demographic experimenting with drugs and sex because before you're a teen you typically don't care about sex. In your teens you're curious about it and seek it out, and typically have a sense of personal invulnerability as to the risks involved. As you get older your life is consumed by other issues, you start to change your priorities and for many your sexual drive lowers. The issues regarding drugs are similar.

3) If works of fiction or a few isolated incidents depicting teen promiscuity or drug experimentation are getting people's dander up and worked into a lather, it's either that they're overreacting or they're being manipulated by shock media. If they are offered clarification in these matters from the genuine concern of others and they decline or refute that clarification, then that speaks very poorly of their character indeed. (No offense to your mum, I'm referring to people in general)

 

[The Iconnorclast]

No not all teens are drug/sex addicts, but the media loves to portray teens as such as it is easy to do and is more intersting than normal teens. This combined with the fact that teens who are drug/sex addicts seem to brag about their activities as if they are somehow impressive accomplishmens (which angers and confuses me greatly), means that while they may be the minority of teens, they are louder and more recodnizable than the majority of them, and as such people see them as more common than normal teens.

 

[mike1921]

I'm 14, I don't do any drugs except ones my doctor prescribed that I can't get high off of, and regardless of me being the creepiest and most perverted kid you'll ever meet and I honestly don't care about sex more than any normal adult does, much less so infact. I'm just lonely and want to meet a girl I actually care about though, I want to have SOMEONE I care about more than myself.

 

[robert022614]

well i think humans in general are sex addicts as far as drugs are concerned i wouldn't say most kids are addicted so much as in my middle/high schools case was an experimental stage where yes a lot of people were smoking pot and drinking, but weren't necessarily addicts looking to score a fix so much as they were social smokers and drinkers. can it be a problem? Yes. is it the end of the world? nah.