Asking a girl out

[bmf185]

The best thing to do is ignore women completely and actually be happy as yourself. This will probably make you confident and self-assured, which will get you a lady if you so choose.

 

[Thunderhorse31]

It's been said already, but you pretty much just have to suck it up and be direct - it doesn't have to be too complicated: "Hey, do you want to grab a bite later?" "I was about to grab some fresh air, care to join me?" and so on - just get her to hang out with you for any amount of time.

After a while, you can try the line that worked for me (on the woman who I eventually married): "Hey, my friends seem to think that you're my girlfriend... what should I tell them?"

 

[GHMonkey]

Listen I'm a chick and I no it's hard for you guys. But all you have to do is just slide your way into one conversation, agree with her,and smile. It works all the time. I went out with two guys cause they did that.

I agree

wanna go out?

.....mines cooler......

yeah, I'll give credit where its due. takes balls though, and danger of social suicide. I fail to see the spontenaety of walking around all day with a message tattooed to your torso in case you run into her

exactly, its like running through a minefield barefoot. stupid, ballsy, but if you pull it off your a pretty big hit.

 

[Lithiel]

well, speaking from the point of a sophomore girl... i dare say, just ask her. Be casual, but polite so she doesn't not take you seriously. Don't do something boring like a movie. Find out what she likes to do. If all else fails go out to eat at a middle-class restaurant (not fast-food but not to fancy). Try to think up something original. If she likes the outdoors, go for a hike. But don't sit around and do NOTHING! If she says no you have one of two options.

1. Just be a friends. Always be there for her and the next time you ask, she may say yes.

2. Accept it and move on. I guarentee you she's not the only girl out there ^.^

Hope this helps.

 

[lizards]

try this:

have one of your friends bump into her and say "watch it *****" then when she gets pissed come over and tell him to fuck off and call him a dick and then instantly your into her world

you will owe your friend a favor (in my experience you doing the same thing to the girl he wants)but you got her

its a plan i came up with for a guy who wanted this one girl so bad but thought he could never get her so i did that to help him out usally it seems that if you are not good with women then this will help get you with her is what some people have told me after they tried it but ive never tried it personally (i dont really have problems with women)

good luck

you know what? fuck that

if you think she is out of your league try and become friends and be as cool as possible hang out a lot and stuff become really good friends

9/10 she will start to like you

the 3 good friends that were chicks ive had over the past 15 years ended because we started likeing eachother more than friends and one was even my first so if you think that being direct wont work try that

 

[Dottie]

Dude,I'm sorry,you make it sound totally hopeless. I don't know you so don't let that discourage you. If she talks to you a lot and laughs at your jokes and everything you should make a small advance but you should still be yourself...What I did to my GF when we started dating (And I don't recommend this for you unless you KNOW you can pull it off) I put two fingers under her chin so we would be looking into each others eyes and I told her she was amazing and that I am hers. Women love that cleche sensitive stuff but you GOTTA remember BE YOURSELF! it's the absolute most important thing. And don't get too mushy. Good luck and godspeed.

 

[Mcface]

umm a letter will probably be awkward (if you do the letter she'll know you're scared to ask in person) but facebook or somthing would probably work. This is coming from a guy whos been on a whole date (sorta) once last year.So I'm an expert

Letters work if you hint at your interest in person but don't outright say it. Only if you use an alias/penname, though. There's something about mysterious letters that rides on the fine line of mysterious lover and stalker, and if it's particularly well-written with a set of clues that are helpful but not easy, it tends to lean to the former, which girls go gaga over. I think it's a subliminal thing from all the romance novels they read.

It's hard to pull off well, though, so I wouldn't recommend it.

Do anything BUT this and you will be good to go friend.

 

[dantheman931]

dinner and a movie is so boring and cliche.

You are only 15... can you drive?

My 1st date of choice (albiet only 1 in my 21 years of life, so take my advice with a grain of salt) is either bowling or mini-golf. something to get you two talking and having fun.

With a movie you sit next to someone for 2 hours and don't talk, then say "that was a good movie, good night." almost no bonding/fun.

Not necessarily. If the theater's at a mall or a shopping center and it's not about to close, a few laps around the place will work nicely to get some talk going.

OP: It's been said a million times, but I'ma say it again: Just ask. No pageantry, no tricks, just ask. If she says no, don't sweat it; she won't be the only girl you ever meet.

 

[BonsaiK]

Yeah yeah another one of those threads.....
Ok so I'm a freshmen, almost 15 and have never asked out a girl unlike most people I know.
So there is a very attractive girl in many of my classes who I would like to ask out. I however am unsure how to do so, where to ask out to etcetera, being a total (excuse the term) noob in the area.
The girl is someone I've known for a while, has been talking to me more recently.
So my question to you, escapists, is what should I do? (Besides the cliche just talk to her)
EDIT: Just btw, I'm well known as a huge nerd...I can tell the difference between an Asuran and an Alteran (Stargate nerd) and the ins and outs of every bit of world of warcraft and she is a really smart, decently popular person.
EDIT 2: Oh and BTW she is a twin and someone I know dates her twin

Step 1: read this thread, all ten pages, don't skip any - http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=1 - your question with slight variations has been answered in this thread many, many times over.

Step 2: feel silly because you started a new thread (it's okay, I forgive you)

Step 3: post in the above linked thread if you have any further questions for me or if you think there's something that I haven't covered which applies in your specific case.

 

[Gummy]

.....mines cooler......

yeah, I'll give credit where its due. takes balls though, and danger of social suicide. I fail to see the spontenaety of walking around all day with a message tattooed to your torso in case you run into her

exactly, its like running through a minefield barefoot. stupid, ballsy, but if you pull it off your a pretty big hit.

and if she just happend to have "Yes" written on her chest and rips her top off then you need to marry her. now. hell, even if she has "no" and does that you're pretty well made for each other.


by the way "Be Yourself" is all very well. unless 'yourself' is shy, introverted and awkward, like a lot of us geeks. we're all class A people, exactly what chicks are after, but they don't notice because we're too scared to talk to em. this is why cocky assholes get all the chicks.
so be confident, relaxed and talkative, but convey your own personality in that. talk about things you genuinely are interested in, bring her into your life and do things you like. that's what be-yourself is about.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

As being 15 and having one girlfriend all I can say is... Nothing. I have no advice. I got her by accidentally blurting out how I felt for her.
I guess be good friends with her, see if she's interested in you, and then you'll know whether or not to ask her out.

 

[IcedPain]

I would say be your self but dont go over board with the nerdiness. As shegets to know you more if she likes that stuff great but if shes not a big nerd herself save the major nerd time with your friends

 

[VashtaNerada]

"Do you wanna go to the movies?"

Has that ever worked? Always failed me. Had much more success phrasing it like this "We should get together sometime and catch a movie(or grab a bite to eat). After you ask, try to read her body language, if she seems like she doesn't want to(diverts eye contact, turns her head, seems hesitant) then its probably best to just leave it at that. You'll definitely now if shes interested though.

heh rejection only makes you stronger!

 

[dantheman931]

I would say be your self but dont go over board with the nerdiness. As shegets to know you more if she likes that stuff great but if shes not a big nerd herself save the major nerd time with your friends

Arguably, the best time to fly the nerd-flag is when you're trying to attract her. If she were to accept an invitation based on a false impression, either she'd end up resenting you for not being her type or you'd resent her for not allowing you to be yourself. My last girlfriend was a huge game freak, and I have to admit, that was one of the big things that attracted me to her in the first place.

 

[Senrab]

"Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

 

[The Ultimate 2]

If you have a friend who is dating her sister, tell your friend to tell your girlfriends sister to put in a good word for you.

 

[NAKEDsnake2010]

Talk to her. find a common interest then take har to see zombieland

 

[Kierkes]

Bro. Let me tell you something.

Thank you David DeAngelo.

"Your desire to be unique is unoriginal."
Do what comes to mind; don't color your responses, because your desire to be unique is unoriginal.

I talk to girls by being completely upfront about it. Only way to go. And by doing so, you'll get yourself in a great mindset. You're not going to be stuck on people not worth it. Not implying this girl isn't, but there's only one way to see...

 

[WhiteTiger225]

Take a fish, wrap it in news paper, stuff its mouth with heart shaped candies that say "I love you" and give it to her! The valentine fish always works!

 

[BiscuitsJoe]

dude, this is a tested method, have a few good humored conversations, the one day write go out with me on your chest, then when you see her rip your shirt open and show her the message. i got 2 girlfriends this way

Really? are you serious?.....

No yeah this is a real thing. I do it all the time. It's how I lost my virginity at the tender age of 64. And I'm not even 64. It's that good.