Rachel317 said:
I'm guilty of judging people without getting to know them, but am trying SO hard to change that now. It's unfair, and could be completely inaccurate. A woman in the street, dressed up with loads of make-up..."slut" and trying to get male attention, or she just enjoys dressing like that? My first reaction will, from now on, be the latter, until proven otherwise.
Good for you.
A tip that might help: embrace the fact that it isn't really necesary to always form an opinion or idea about everything around you, and it is especially not necessary when it is about things that you don't know much about or have no real inclination to learn anything about.
Consider the humans of the stone-age when they first heard thunder and saw lightning in the sky. They didn't know too much about the sky back then (other than it was up there), nor that lightning occurs due to the interaction between protons and electrons generating static electricity due to hot air rising rapidly to meet cold air etc. etc.
But the events were pretty impressive and noticeable. But since they couldn't really know what caused it, their imagination had to invent images of angry godlike beings slamming the sky with great big hammers, which of course lead to centuries of misconceptions and misunderstandings about the nature of... well, nature.
And if you think about it, did they NEED to know what caused lightning back then? Would the abscence of knowledge about the exact cause of it really interfere with their hunter/gatherer way of life? Probably not too much... you know, unless they got zapped by lightning because they stood alone out in a field somewhere and thus making them the highest point for the lightning to discharge through. But that's statistically unfeasible.
And it's the same thing about judging other people. It's not really that important to actually form an opinion about whether a total stranger is a promiscuous slut or if she just happens to like dressing in slutty-looking outfits, or if she just have an extremely onorthodox sense of taste.
It's not very likely to affect your daily life if you know the real reason or not. And since that fact probably won't serve to actually make you try and FIND the real reason for her outfit, then it's pretty redundant to form an opinion on the matter at all.
I gotta warn you though. There is an inherent risk that people will find you to be terribly phlegmatic and disconnected from your surroundings if you take this philosophy to extreme levels. Then again, it occasionally present some fine opportunities to yank their chains about it, haha. XD
Rachel317 said:
Of course, not everyone will get on with everyone else. I find this kind of double standard rubbish highly annoying. It would be more productive, in my opinion, to, yes, mediate the situation, but tell them to be CIVIL as opposed to friends.
Making a child think they should be friends with everyone is going to set them up for damage and obstacles in the future.
Exactly. You might not like a person for a wide variety of reasons, some of them more justifiable than others. But you respect the fucking law when it comes to interacting with said individuals.
That doesn't mean that I think you have to be polite to others or refraining from stating your opinions about them. But when it comes to bullying and harassment we're not talking about calling eachother "dicktits" occasionally or something like that, but more about actual physical violence, purposeful sabotage and destruction of property, disruption of schoolwork, entrapment and stuff like that. That's unacceptable behaviour, and it should be fought and stigmatized by each and every figure of authority.
Rachel317 said:
But, really, the only way to make a big impact would be for the media (in all of its forms) to stop preaching their rubbish. In the magazines, how often have you seen a picture of a celebrity looking not-so-good, and the writer has torn them to pieces over it? We get it often in the newspapers especially, "Rating" celebrity bodies. How is that fair? And, surely, this is giving the impression to all men and women that someone is ALWAYS judging you, so you MUST match the media's view of what "perfection" or "attractiveness" is?
Well, what I do is treating the media as the sensationalist bullshit that it is. What's bad is that even journalist of previously respectable newspapers have turned them into tabloid trash. So I don't really make much distinction between so called "respectable journalist" and scumsucking tabloid papparazzi douchebags.
I don't need their opinions about anything (especially not about something so extremely unimportant and ridiculous as the looks of celebrities bodies, since celebrities are for the most part total nobodies to me as is pretty much everyone else), and if I happen to crash into people who treat it as the most important thing on earth they usually get a taste of my vitriol.
And now some people might think that im a complete asshole for doing that. But you can't deny that by taking interest in crap media that doesn't serve to further anything besides giving more profits to the scumsucking assholes who keep that kind of shit going, then you DO deserve to get criticized for it. You are, after all, giving attention, support and silent consent to one of the most redundant and shitslinging industries in the world by doing so while letting your intelligence rot in the process.
Rachel317 said:
Was there not much trouble with inequality BEFORE the feminist ideals really took hold?
It's extremely unfair that women should be given an easier ride, both career and academic-wise. Surely this only sends the message that women can only out-achieve men by being given help? I'm sure that's NOT what feminism is all about.
Well, during the period when feminist ideals started to pop up, Sweden was becoming pretty influenced by socialist ideals quite a lot. The thing about socialism is that it dislikes keeping traditional social classes around, equality being the big thing and all that. So it's not really a very far leap in logic to conclude that gender equality is the most socialist way to go.
After all, you can't really keep up a regime where "brothers are supposed to be equal" and all that crap while at the same time keeping all women down and reducing them to baby-producers and homemakers.
It's an interesting development actually. Tax-paying women recieved restricted rights to vote in Sweden as early as during the 1700's (however, this regarded primarily unmarried women part of certain guilds), so it wasn't a case of "free-for-all" voting, and Sweden was also still a monarchy at the time so you can't really call it true democracy. Then in 1771 the women suffrage was abolished through a new constitution. (but once again, we're not exactly talking about a true democratic government back then, so one can't really claim that men overall had more electorial power than women did on a national level)
It wasn't until the late 1800's that the propositions for women to vote in national elections came up, and it was rejected by parliament twice during to different occasions. But by 1919 it came through (probably much due to the rise of socialist ideals as well as the suffrage movement that formed in Sweden by 1902)
But ever since then, womens right to vote hasn't ever really been threatened in any way. And womens rights overall as just been steadily been rising without any particular opposition to the unbalanced level that it is now.
Rachel317 said:
As someone else in the thread said, the genders CAN'T be equal, because we have different make-up, genetics, strengths and weaknesses. Equality will come when EVERYONE realises that there are some things that men just CAN do better than women, and vice versa.
Exactly.
And if you think about it, if we'd actually do what the feminists demand i.e try to eliminate perfectly NATURAL differences or give women handicap-priviliges at the expense of quality, then women should have to do something in return don't you think?
I mean, if women are supposed to be permitted to work in areas despite the fact that their natural genetic make-up make them provenly inferior at their tasks statistically, then why should it be excluded to compensate men who suffer from injustice in society becayse they are somehow genetically inferior?
Take the sex-drive for instance. When your bloodstream is pumped full of testosterone at high levels like the male genetic make-up gives rise to overall, it tends to make you pretty goddamned horny.
Yet if you look at the western dating scene, far from all men get to have sex with the women they want to have sex with. For the most part, the exchange of sex is really a "sellers market", and a significant majority of the men are exclusively buyers, not sellers.
So if this can be traced back to genetic factors (like how your genetic make-up affects the way you look, smell, sound like etc.), you know, in exactly the same way most women tend to be inferior when it comes to certain jobs (like being fire-fighters), and it's no secret that it is a significant problem since it is a leading cause in male depression to be rejected sexually (again due to their genetic make-up) and suffering from involuntary celibacy, then shouldn't women collectively have an obligation to simply "put out more"?
You can't have rights without responsibilities after all.
But you can imagine the typical femi-nazi response to such a proposition. "What? Are you crazy!? Are women supposed to be FORCED to have sex with men they aren't attracted to jsut because said men don't get enougn sex? You pig!!"
Now, im not really serious about proposing to force women to have sex with men they don't really want to have sex with. But I think it serves to illustrate a pretty good example of rights and responsibilities, as well as the hypocrisy surrounding many of the "problems" of society and the feminist view of it.
You and I probably both agree that the elimination of irrational and unfair treatment of women and men doesn't have a place ina society calling itself pro-gender equality. But when it comes to aspects that can be directly traced back to genetic factors, everyone simply have to accept the fact that nature is nature. And unless we're willing to start dabbling in fields of genetic manipulation (something which im actually for rather than against since I think that science shouldn't be constrained by irrational arguments, but that's beside the point since most of society seem to be against such fields of science), then we're just going to have to settle with the fact that men tend to naturally make better fire-fighters, police officers, soldiers, construction workers and other physically demanding jobs and that there is no real sign of gender inequality just because these fields are largely male dominated.
But good luck trying to convince your average Swedish feminist of that.
Rachel317 said:
And the Muslim thing...I must say, I think that's a problem in every country. In the UK, there's already talk about allowing Shariah Law alongside our own judicial system. Certain areas of society are "untouchable", so no negative comments can be made about them, even if said comment is wholly justified.
Oh it's starting to pop up propositions of Sharia law over here too. I mean really, we have weak willed politicians ruling the western world and they are too damned politically correct to ever show any real outrage to the very notion that some ethnic groups are supposed to let themselves be treated a little differently in legal matters.
Whatever happened to the law is blind and that we are all equal under it? Now you want to let immigrants make up their own little enclaves and get to decide everything according to their own laws?
Im not afraid to be called a racist bigot, so I'll gladly say that if these people want their fucking Sharia Laws then they can go back to the countries they came from. And I also question WHY they even want Sharia Laws, since the countries they came from were largely ruled by them, and if those countries were so terribly bad that they decided to move to a democratic western country, then WHY ON EARTH would they want to institutionalize the same bullshit over here?
It might be radical, but I think that the government should consider the people who push for such drastic changes in our legal systems to be considered enemies of the state. Then again, im the kind of person who consider religious freedom to be highly overrated and a direct cause of more problems than what you get back from it.
If religious freedom cause people to want to fuck around with law, then it is a choice between religion and law. And in my opinion, religion is the one that has to go.
Sharia Law is what gets women in Iran stoned to death for defending themselves against abusive husbands or committing adultery. The idea of institutionalizing it here should never even be entertained, regardless of pressure from some muslim groups in exactly the same manner that people in general aren't supposed to be forced to abide by Christian laws or Jewish laws.
Rachel317 said:
...what? You ARE kidding, right? Of COURSE prostitution is free-will! Even if you find yourself in the poorest of situations, there is help out there. Prostitution isn't even a last resort, you literally DO NOT have to do it.
I could understand if, perhaps, the woman had fallen in with a bad crowd and was FORCED to become a prostitute, but...this doesn't mean that ALL men are bad, and that ALL men are to blame!
Well, let's put it this way, according to Swedish law it is illegal for anyone to BUY sexual favours. But it isn't illegal to sell them.
Meaning that if you're caught with a prostitute that you've paid, you get punished. But the prostitute hasn't done anything wrong.
And since the large majority of active prostitutes are made up of women and not men statistically speaking, I think you can figure it out yourself exactly what kind of view of prostitution that is prevalent in the forums that matter and govern this fucking country.
Also on a side-note: isn't it interesting that shooting pornography is perfectly legal in a lot of western countries while prostitution isn't, despite the fact that both actors and actresses get paid for... you know, having sex?
I'd say obvious hypocrisy is obvious to that. But that's just me. XD
Rachel317 said:
Why SHOULDN'T women take on the assassin roles, though? We have Sam Fisher...why not a female equivalent? It's sexist to NOT include a female assassin (because, as they are created, they CAN have the exact same strength etc as their male counterparts), yet also sexist to assume that women can ONLY be assassin characters! It's such a fine, totally-obscured line.
Yes of course. My point is that female assassins are somewhat of a stereotypical cliché in most games and movies. I mean if we're talking mean characters who kill people or monsters for a living, then think about it; how many female characters are usually the gruff heavy weapons specialist lugging around some barking machine-gun? (Vasquez from James Cameron's "Aliens", being a brilliant exception to the rule) How many female characters do you see run around with a sniper rifle saying "boom! headhshot!" as they pick off enemies from afar? How many female characters do you se act as your average footslooging trooper with just an assault rifle, a lit cigarette butt in their mouth and an overall mean outlook on life? Competent military leaders and officers?
It's not too common. But when it comes to revealing leotard or catsuit clad assassins with a preference for ninja-esque swords, throwing knives and karate-gimmicks, the market shows signs of a proliferation of them, wouldn't you agree?
Rachel317 said:
Good. Women don't NEED to be stereotypically feminine to show that they're feminine. Obviously, Luger and Bayonetta are EXACT opposites, but they present the two sides of the same coin.
Just the same, men don't need to be barrel-chested with rippling, muscular bodies to show that they are masculine. It's just easier to present this kind of cliche character in a game than go into all sorts of metaphors and symbolism. Hell, I don't doubt that the creators of Bayonetta probably didn't intend for her to necessarily be anything more than "eye candy", but more CAN be seen of her if you wish to look for it.
Well, in Luger's case I'd say it's the voice. If you just look at the visuals she could just as well be a scrawny or somewhat effeminate man. But the voice actress does this throaty and womanly voice with a british accent so there's not really a question about gender.
Found a clip so you can listen and see for yourself if you like:
Rachel317 said:
So...we basically have a female character who isn't an Ice Queen and isn't a Damsel in Distress...oh my, she's actually a middle ground character?! Incredible. I haven't played it, but it sounds like the developers did a good job with her character; yes, she has abilities not TYPICALLY associated with women ("You throw like a girl", etc etc), yet...she also DOES have feminine qualities. Sounds like the kind of character we're striving for!
Well a bit on the Ice Queen side perhaps. Then again I don't find her any more "icy" than any other person would be who does military black ops. I mean if you're trained for and have killed several people with a knife up close and watched them bleed to death gasping through a sliced up windpipe then that probably affects your personality to become more of the pragmatic, to the point and disconnected kind.
But I don't think it's too icy, or too much "icy for the sake of being icy" over-the-topness either.