BDSM and You!

[Gunner 51]

I think I'd probably like it if I tried. But good luck trying to find a girl I like who'd be my Dom. Especially one who lives in my neck of the woods.

I think it's the leather that primarily gets me going, but it's probably every bit as intimate as vanilla sex - after all, the Sub does place an awful lot of faith in his Dom.

 

[superbatranger]

Hey, if everyone involved agrees to it, then I see nothing wrong with it.

 

[FrostyChick]

I tend to be a bit more reserved around firearms. I enjoy shooting, but guns have to be treated with respect. There's too much that can go wrong with a gun if you're not careful.

And you shouldn't treat them in any other way.

That said, while I might be entirely professional when handling firearms, im far from reserved around them.

Don't know if that actually came across in my post but, the "unhealthy obsession" with chaisn/knives/firearms in my case isn't a strictly "outside of the bedroom" phenomenon. Was it the same with you?

Certain aspects of it are and some aren't. For instance I rather like knives, I would quite like to own some, but have never had the cash. So for those it's a 50/50 split. As for other things like chains, that's bedroom stuff only.

Guns I quite like because as a child I was in the army cadets, I got to do a bit of range shooting at about 12/13. It was pretty cool. But being in a pseudo military environment meant everything was strict and by the book. Hence why I'm more reserved and more inclined to rage at people who disobey even simple safety precautions.

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

I quite like it. Although it has to be kept to the bedroom.

I'm dominant, I absolutely can't stand being submissive.

And I am one of the kinds of people who views chains and knives with an almost unhealthy glee.

i can attest to that ask me how

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

I am in a D/s relationship (Part of BDSM)

Neither me or my Gf enjoy the pain side of things, so we don't go into that side of it.

Just to dispel the common misconceptions about the relationships for people who don't understand them: (I'm aware most here are probably fine with it and don't think it wrong, but I always hope that anyone who does, who reads my post will understand it better.)

1. Being part of BDSM is not a mental problem, it is a lifestyle choice that people enjoy and does NOT mean there is anything wrong with them.

2. A very important point is everything done in BDSM should be safe, sane and consensual. Anyone involved must be aware and agree to what they want to happen and must be safe about how they go about it.

3. It is not only about pain, the letters stand for (Bondage and Discipline) (Domination and Submission) (Sadism) and (Masochism), while some may enjoy pain, this is only part of BDSM and is not done by all, from most I know, those that do enjoy pleasure through pain is actually the minority of the group.

And as others have said, it's not immediately apparent, but the sub really has all the power, they choose who to give up control too, and can choose to take it back.

 

[Blow_Pop]

Personally as a switch(being neither fully dom or sub) I love the lifestyle. People tend to be close minded and dismissive of things that they don't understand and unfortunately with BDSM there do tend to be a lot of abusive arses(both male and female though from my experience more so male than female)that use it as an excuse/reason to beat the shit out of someone else to the point where it stops being pleasurable and becomes pure pain/torture. Luckily, they are very easy to spot and avoid. I have my list of websites for people to read if they want to learn more about it. I personally love being in master/slave relationships. Especially if they are a healthy relationship because you learn and grow from each other and it tends to be a very positive relationship and because of it cannae be in a normal relationship. I have to have that dynamic or it doesnae work and not just in the bedroom.

As long as the BDSM (whatever part of it is being used) scene is used whether just in the bedroom or lived as part of your particular lifestyle and is consensual on both parties then I don't tend to worry about it. I might inquire as to specifics as to what your relationship consists of but that's more the inquisitive side of me that likes to learn things about others and occasionally learns more about herself.

 

[MysticToast]

It's freaking weird.... that's about all I have to say on it

 

[Blow_Pop]

I am in a D/s relationship (Part of BDSM)

Neither me or my Gf enjoy the pain side of things, so we don't go into that side of it.

Just to dispel the common misconceptions about the relationships for people who don't understand them: (I'm aware most here are probably fine with it and don't think it wrong, but I always hope that anyone who does, who reads my post will understand it better.)

1. Being part of BDSM is not a mental problem, it is a lifestyle choice that people enjoy and does NOT mean there is anything wrong with them.

2. A very important point is everything done in BDSM should be safe and consensual. Anyone involved must be aware and agree to what they want to happen and must be safe about how they go about it.

3. It is not only about pain, the letters stand for (Bondage and Discipline) (Domination and Submission) (Sadism) and (Masochism), while some may enjoy pain, this is only part of BDSM and is not done by all, from most I know, those that do enjoy pleasure through pain is actually the minority of the group.

And as others have said, it's not immediately apparent, but the sub really has all the power, they choose who to give up control too, and can choose to take it back.

You forgot one thing in your second point. SSC. Safe, Sane, and Consensual....

I quite like it. Although it has to be kept to the bedroom.

I'm dominant, I absolutely can't stand being submissive.

And I am one of the kinds of people who views chains and knives with an almost unhealthy glee.

i can attest to that ask me how

How?

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

I am in a D/s relationship (Part of BDSM)

Neither me or my Gf enjoy the pain side of things, so we don't go into that side of it.

Just to dispel the common misconceptions about the relationships for people who don't understand them: (I'm aware most here are probably fine with it and don't think it wrong, but I always hope that anyone who does, who reads my post will understand it better.)

1. Being part of BDSM is not a mental problem, it is a lifestyle choice that people enjoy and does NOT mean there is anything wrong with them.

2. A very important point is everything done in BDSM should be safe and consensual. Anyone involved must be aware and agree to what they want to happen and must be safe about how they go about it.

3. It is not only about pain, the letters stand for (Bondage and Discipline) (Domination and Submission) (Sadism) and (Masochism), while some may enjoy pain, this is only part of BDSM and is not done by all, from most I know, those that do enjoy pleasure through pain is actually the minority of the group.

And as others have said, it's not immediately apparent, but the sub really has all the power, they choose who to give up control too, and can choose to take it back.

You forgot one thing in your second point. SSC. Safe, Sane, and Consensual....

Damn, lol.
Was just copying those point from a previous post of mine, never read them again to make sure, ah well, I'll edit it XD.

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

You forgot one thing in your second point. SSC. Safe, Sane, and Consensual....

I quite like it. Although it has to be kept to the bedroom.

I'm dominant, I absolutely can't stand being submissive.

And I am one of the kinds of people who views chains and knives with an almost unhealthy glee.

i can attest to that ask me how

How?

Shes been my mistress, i MAY have her name carved into my back

 

[Wintermoot]

as long as you keep me out of it and are happy with it.

 

[Catie Caraco]

Eeh, some light bondage can be hot, but the rest is just scary.

This. And, well, does spanking count as sado-masochistic? Just curious.

 

[Blow_Pop]

You forgot one thing in your second point. SSC. Safe, Sane, and Consensual....

I quite like it. Although it has to be kept to the bedroom.

I'm dominant, I absolutely can't stand being submissive.

And I am one of the kinds of people who views chains and knives with an almost unhealthy glee.

i can attest to that ask me how

How?

Shes been my mistress

oooh nice.....

I am in a D/s relationship (Part of BDSM)

Neither me or my Gf enjoy the pain side of things, so we don't go into that side of it.

Just to dispel the common misconceptions about the relationships for people who don't understand them: (I'm aware most here are probably fine with it and don't think it wrong, but I always hope that anyone who does, who reads my post will understand it better.)

1. Being part of BDSM is not a mental problem, it is a lifestyle choice that people enjoy and does NOT mean there is anything wrong with them.

2. A very important point is everything done in BDSM should be safe and consensual. Anyone involved must be aware and agree to what they want to happen and must be safe about how they go about it.

3. It is not only about pain, the letters stand for (Bondage and Discipline) (Domination and Submission) (Sadism) and (Masochism), while some may enjoy pain, this is only part of BDSM and is not done by all, from most I know, those that do enjoy pleasure through pain is actually the minority of the group.

And as others have said, it's not immediately apparent, but the sub really has all the power, they choose who to give up control too, and can choose to take it back.

You forgot one thing in your second point. SSC. Safe, Sane, and Consensual....

Damn, lol.
Was just copying those point from a previous post of mine, never read them again to make sure, ah well, I'll edit it XD.

tis ok lovey. *hugs* you are excused. Most people forget sane because its kind of common sense however they also forget that common sense has mostly died in society and is now something people forget.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

Not for me, personally.

I don't really care about what goes on in other peoples bedrooms and I don't tend to ask, because it's really none of my business.

 

[thebobmaster_v1legacy]

If it make you and your spouse happy, then go for it. Forget what others think. As long as you are both agreeable to it.

Personally, I find the distaste for BDSM a bit humorous. Why? Finish this sentence. A man who does everything his wife wants without complaint is pussy ______. What word did you use?

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Certain aspects of it are and some aren't. For instance I rather like knives, I would quite like to own some, but have never had the cash. So for those it's a 50/50 split. As for other things like chains, that's bedroom stuff only.

Erm... far from all knives are particularly expensive. You could even get your hands on some used by certain armed forces for a pretty low price.

It's mostly decorative and custom knives where prices tend to run away into the realms of ridiculousness.

They do make for spectacular sextoys in a BDSM-setting. However a submissive partner letting you pull out a knife in the middle of it all and use it as an instrument of control (instead of tying your partner up in chains) has to REALLY trust you and that trust has to go both ways. Otherwise it's bound to result in an accident.

But done right with the right partner, I find it intensly erotic. It provides that arousing element of danger to it all that I like.

Guns I quite like because as a child I was in the army cadets, I got to do a bit of range shooting at about 12/13. It was pretty cool. But being in a pseudo military environment meant everything was strict and by the book. Hence why I'm more reserved and more inclined to rage at people who disobey even simple safety precautions.

If you ask me, I think stuff like that should be mandatory in schools. You know, to teach children how to properly and safely handle a firearm and perhaps put an end to the mindless paranoia concerning firearms spreading through the world.

Sadly I live in a part of the world where that paranoia is pretty extreme, so it's very hard for a private person to get any kind of permit to own a firearm. You can only get a permit for hunting or competetive marksmanship, and in BOTH instances it usually takes years becuse the government basically treat you with an absurd amount of suspicion for suggesting that you'd like to own a firearm. And it's all based on paranoia and prejudice, and it hasn't really made society any safer.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

And here I am bitching about that 10 day waiting period, which is stupid. I already own 2 handguns and a rifle, if I wanted to shoot someone I'd use one of the guns I already have!

Yeah, a 10 day waiting period is nothing compared to the shit going on here.

That said, im not against background-checks and seeing if an applicant for the permit has a criminal record or not. And if it takes 10 days then I'd suspect it's a matter of red tape more than anything else (bureauocracy moves slowly as we all know).

Also, even if you already own 2 handguns and a rifle doesn't really matter. I mean even if YOU aren't going to shoot someone, they can't really know if you're buying weapons legally and then sell them through less than legal means to someone with far more law-breaking intentions with that gun.

So im in agreement in keeping a record of how owns firearms as well as doing background checks and such. It's reasonable.

What isn't reasonable however is basically being treated like a criminal just because you happen to want to own a gun (like they do over here). And what's worse is that gun-enthusiast and people who'd like to see a bit more liberal legislations concerning firearms are in an EXTREME minority. The rest of the population are just as scared and paranoid and many would even prefer EVEN MORE strict laws or even that it should be impossible for a private person to own any kind of firearm for ANY purpose.

Somedays it makes me want to STAB those people to death. If only to show them that a lunatic doesn't need a gun to kill someone if they really want that person dead. But that wouldn't be the most civil way to prove a point.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

D/s is a pretty romantic concept when you think about it. The amazing amount trust you'd place in the person, that they're so right for you that you'd do that.

Precisely!

And here the people with prejudice all go all frightened and sometimes call me a "psycho" or "wannabe rapist" and other inaccurate accusations.

The truth of the matter is that im just a helpless romantic. Although it still cracks me up to actually think of myself in terms of a romantic. XD