Can you guys give me some advice?

[Chris^^]

do what feels right by you.. I can understand the pros and cons of you leaving and staying.. she is entirely in the wrong, but it should also depend on her, whether she regrets it or not.. her telling you suggests she feels awful about it so maybe give her a second chance.

 

[AngryMongoose]

Wait, why wasn't she allowed to get drunk? That not really your decision.

 

[ThreeWords]

Granted, this topic seems very typical for these forums, but I need to ask this somewhere anonymous.

My girlfriend (who I was very close to) cheated on me last night. She got drunk at a party and slept with some guy she barely knew. Today, she told me about it, and then said "but I understand if you never want to talk to me again."

If I didn't care about her, I would have left her, but I care too much. At the same time, I was at the party until about midnight, when I had to leave for curfew. I gave her the option of leaving with me, and I told her I didn't want her to get drunk if I left her, but she did anyways.

So I'm very confused. Should I give her another try? Or should I leave her?

She did something stupid and shameful, then told you straight and honest. If this is a first time thing, I'd say it merits forgiveness. She messed up once and is sorry, so give her a chance

Also, ignore the bitter, world hating people here who will likely counsel you to 'punch the ***** in the face and ditch her', cos I find that rarely helps any situation

That said, if this happens again, you may need to take steps to sort it out.

 

[Keepitclean]

OP, if you feel any different toward her now dump her ass. If you still love her keep her.

I can't give any real advice because I don't know you or her.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

as the captain of the "HMCS FAILED RELATIONSHIP" I must commend you on finding someone who'll even confess to it... but still it wreaks of a woman who thinks she can control you by using a confession to play on your "understanding nature" so she can have an easy relationship where she can sleep with other guys without your suspicion... seein as she would think you'd not expect it again...

but hey i live in a town where if you ain't in the navy, don't own a BMW, or don't make at least $30,000 anually you have no hope with any woman period...

 

[MattRooney06]

no offense but the internet probably wasnt the right pace to come for this

ask yourself if you want5 to give her another chance

if so tell her how you feel about her doing what she did and try and forgive her

if not leave her

 

[PayneTrayne]

To paraphrase Graham Stark: Being drunk is not an excuse, it only gets rid of inhibitions! You would not do something when you're drunk that you are not capable of doing when you're sober. That's a bullshit excuse.

But as to the telling her not to get drunk, you shouldn't have any control over her choices like that unless she is incredibly easily drunk because, well, free will and all.

 

[Les Awesome]

Should I give her another try? Or should I leave her?

Depends, if she is your first girlfriend dump her
if not give her a second chance

 

[Jackalb]

Sleep with her sister and/or mother.

 

[hyperhammy]

Stay togehter but use it against her if you ever mess up. A fuck-up-free card.

Because arguing who is worst in the relationship and comparing each other is good for a healthy relationship?

No, because a relationship grows with it's problems.

 

[lee1287]

Fuck her one more time, and do all the perverted things you want. Than slap her around,(optional) and dump her whore ass, Then get yourself checked.

 

[TheHermit]

If she did it once and got away with it with no consequences... she's probably going to do it again. Don't let people walk all over you.

 

[hyperhammy]

Stay togehter but use it against her if you ever mess up. A fuck-up-free card.

Because arguing who is worst in the relationship and comparing each other is good for a healthy relationship?

No, because a relationship grows with it's problems.

Im trying to point out, that blatantly acusing of each others wrongs doesnt make it better, it makes it worse, because reminding each other of the bad things that happened gets people more pissed.

Forgive and forget is sometimes better for a relationship, stuff like this though is hard to forgive, but if you do forgive, then acctually forgive without reminding.

EDIT: just to make it clear, im not advocating forgiveness for cheating.

You are not getting my point. I'm not saying he should hold a grudge. Everybody makes mistakes so IF he ever does, it wont be so bad.

 

[hyperhammy]

Stay togehter but use it against her if you ever mess up. A fuck-up-free card.

Because arguing who is worst in the relationship and comparing each other is good for a healthy relationship?

No, because a relationship grows with it's problems.

Im trying to point out, that blatantly acusing of each others wrongs doesnt make it better, it makes it worse, because reminding each other of the bad things that happened gets people more pissed.

Forgive and forget is sometimes better for a relationship, stuff like this though is hard to forgive, but if you do forgive, then acctually forgive without reminding.

EDIT: just to make it clear, im not advocating forgiveness for cheating.

You are not getting my point. I'm not saying he should hold a grudge. Everybody makes mistakes so IF he ever does, it wont be so bad.

well the point im making is i dont think its right "Oh you did, ill do it too"

That kind of attitude sucks.

I'm just going to go ahead and quote myself here: "Everybody makes mistakes so IF he ever does, it wont be so bad." Pay special attention to the "IF".

 

[AdmiralWolverineLightningbolt]

Granted, this topic seems very typical for these forums, but I need to ask this somewhere anonymous.

My girlfriend (who I was very close to) cheated on me last night. She got drunk at a party and slept with some guy she barely knew. Today, she told me about it, and then said "but I understand if you never want to talk to me again."

If I didn't care about her, I would have left her, but I care too much. At the same time, I was at the party until about midnight, when I had to leave for curfew. I gave her the option of leaving with me, and I told her I didn't want her to get drunk if I left her, but she did anyways.

So I'm very confused. Should I give her another try? Or should I leave her?

i only read the first page but everyone was telling you to break up and i just wanted to offer counter advice
she had the decency to tell you straight away and clearly shows regret and obviously cares about you otherwise she would have just lied about it

and you've already stated that you care for her
she made a stupid drunken mistake

but before you were going out, she probably slept with other people so dont see this as any different. let it be. let her know you have slight trust issues now but that you want to work through them

after about a month, if it still bothers you, then tell her you slept with another girl and see how she reacts and take it as a cue as to how you should react.

that is if you havent already dumped her

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Granted, this topic seems very typical for these forums, but I need to ask this somewhere anonymous.

My girlfriend (who I was very close to) cheated on me last night. She got drunk at a party and slept with some guy she barely knew. Today, she told me about it, and then said "but I understand if you never want to talk to me again."

If I didn't care about her, I would have left her, but I care too much. At the same time, I was at the party until about midnight, when I had to leave for curfew. I gave her the option of leaving with me, and I told her I didn't want her to get drunk if I left her, but she did anyways.

So I'm very confused. Should I give her another try? Or should I leave her?

It all depends on how much you love her. Is your pride worth sacrificing? Do you think she will do it again?