Chivalry is dead because it was a stupid idea. Putting a social group on a pedestal just gives them a big ego. And politeness is better than going-out-of-your-way-ness. I'll hold the door for you, but I won't carry you across a mud puddle. Deal with it.
While I don't think women as a whole are out to get me, I do think there are still a lot of gender interaction problems.
I think saying wymen or womyn instead of women is just as stupid as viewing the "men" in "women" as some sort of sexism. We're called that because we are human. That's where "man" comes from. You women always get something extra just because, and in this case it's a syllable!
It's okay not to *need* a man, but it is okay to want one.
The sex industry is not biased against women, but against men. That is why it is so hard for men to get paid equally, or to have their face appear in films. There are also less male strip clubs and male prostitutes for the same reason. Also, women are just as violent in this industry as men, some women make a career out of being a dominatrix, and femdom is a genre, but those things are much harder for men to do without being seen as monsters. And stripping and porn are not the same thing as sex slavery or human trafficking. Women can and do chose the former, the latter are outright crimes regardless of gender on either side. And for those who claim sexual predatory tactics by men, look at Girls Gone Wild. There were a small handful of cases of predatory practices, but by and large younger college-age women like taking their clothes of and behaving in sexually disgusting ways for any number of reasons; pay, fame, or just because. It's okay to be sexual and enjoy your sexuality, but how you do it determines how you will be treated. And this whole Natalie Dylan thing really pisses me off. It's okay to strip for tuition, but this girl is just a golddigging whore who only wants as much money as she can get. No one is worth $1 million dollars, especially people who think they deserve it. As far as rape goes, women are just as bad as men, see all the teacher scandals. Nowadays there are more female teachers sleeping with students than males. And women are the default victim and males are the default offender. How is that fair? Women are allowed to shamelessly indulge in their sexual desires whilst decrying men for the same thing. Enjoying sex is not sexist for either gender, and gender doesn't make the crime.
The violence thing is bullshit, women are just as violent if not more so than men. And why do people say "it's not okay to hit a woman"? Is it okay to hit a man? I guarantee you if a woman took a swing at me I'd knock her ass out! People should say "it's not okay to hit a person" instead. And I agree that women who fear retribution do NOT deserve to be beat. No one deserves violence for any reason other than those who commit it themselves.
It is far better for women socially. The whole concept of alimony is outrageous; if you don't want to live with me anymore, pay for yourself, *****! Women are also given preferential treatment in child custody and adoption, where as men who want to be around children (such as teachers) are seen as pedophiles. While there are still pay issues, jobs are becoming more equalled. The only reason women who stay at home work at home is because it's not fair for one person to go to work while the other person is free of responsibilities. If you want to stay home fine, but I'll still put your ass to work. More and more men are becoming accepting of that. Gender power depictions are becoming mroe skewed towards women; men are increasingly being portrayed as incompetent and women as having to save them. This is particularly true of housekeeping supplies commercials. And why do women complain about child-rearing, more often than not, it's the woman who wants to have them! Women seem to have baby fever, seeing baby stuff just makes them want one so badly! Men do this sometimes too, but not as much as women. Besides, women have the physical capabilities to raise infants, at least until they can function independently a woman should be a part of child raising.
Why is it okay for there to be things for women only, but not men only? We aren't trying to opress women out of having a gym, just trying to keep one for ourselves. Women ***** about having to go to another gym first just to look good enough for the gym they *want* to go to, so maybe we just want the same? We just want some bonding time/activities with our own gender. Having a men's gym is not a bad thing. Yet because of the current favoritism towards women, such gender inequalities are allowed to exist. I'm tired of the "but if I did that for a man you'd sue me!" climate I live in.
The thing I don't like about feminists the most is that they make their gender an issue when it isn't one or at least shouldn't be. There is a difference between equality and superiority, between protest or advocacy and activism, between deserving fairness and demanding entitlement. I think good women who want the better of these things are unfairly labelled feminists when really they are more like equality advocates. While I hear men complaining about female unfairness quite a bit, I don't hear them whining about entitlement quite as much. Women's groups just want to force women into everything even if they aren't qualified or even interested, and this just makes them look worse. Feminists should focus less on forcing their presence and more on improving the quality of their presence (through education and good behavior) to levels that make them desireable independent of their gender.
I was raised to not treat women different *at all* because of their gender, and for the most part I found that other men have been raised the same. There's always going to be some asshat on either side ruining it, but if there isn't, don't make it that way. I bet most younger women haven't experienced half the things women used to, younger women simply don't know what opression really is. If you haven't been opressed, it isn't fair to whine like you have been.
I am tired of women who want to be equal and special. Sorry women, but if you want me to treat you special, you have to earn it. Gender is not what makes people special and different, how they behave and interact with people, and what they bring to other's lives is. You get to be special because you act and genuinely *are* special, not because of some arbitrary trait.
To be fair, women are hardly the only social minority (I know there are more women than men in the world, but socially they have been a minority for most of history) where such double standards exist. It seems with progressing towards tolerance only allows the intolerances of the other side to be more freely allowed. Its just that I have to hear about issues with women more than other groups. Happily, most women I've met have been pretty awesome as far as all this goes, but they've also been able to exist independently of the collective. If women would stop letting their collective consciousness, presence, and ability to complain do their thinking and acting for them, I bet things would be much better.
Sorry for the long post but I had a lot of points to make. I hope it wasnt' confusing but I didn't want to expand too much as my post is long enough alredy.
