Ever Been [b]IN[/b] Love?

[Raven's Nest]

Yes, and it caused more pain than I could possibly imagine...


I got over that and a few yars later moved on...

So I went for a while thinking I was in love...

Then that memory was destroyed and replaced with bitterness...

Then it got to the point when I'd forgotten what it felt like and assumed I didn't know what love was.

Then I met someone who changed my life and made me believe in love again... Then she moved back to the Czech Republic...

"All you need is love" - [sub]All you need is a nice cup of shut the fuck up Lennon![/sub]

 

[Agrael]

Fell in love. I am in love. And so far, well, through fire and ice - but we are still together.

 

[mobsterlobster]

Being an extra bastard about it would have served no-one.

You're a nice person. I would've milked it for all it's worth. I feel ashamed.

 

[Xerosch]

Yes, I definately was and still am. It was a long distance relationship (4 hour train ride)and ended about two years ago.
I couldn't forget about my ex and became emotionally cold on the outside when inside I felt very much alone and became pretty depressed.

Two months ago I met my ex again and we talked for the first time in 24 months. Turned out he was pretty much in the same condition as he almost became an alcoholic. And then we realized how much we missed each other in the two years...

 

[FranzTyphid]

I dont know if its love or just a crush...

 

[ItsAChiaotzu]

I have been in love for 4 or 5 years now. Its still strong. Although it only flairs when i talk to her on the phone. Unfortunately she's about 240 miles away, and on the other side of a mountain. So we haven't seen each other in at least 2 years.

Its sad panda, but i doubt we'll ever let it go.

I'm in an oddly similar kind of situation. Amazing, isn't it, how those feelings can stay solid even when you never see them in person?

They probably stay more solid when you don't see them, they don't have enough time to creep you out.

And no, but I can't stand to be around people and people can't really stand me so I generally couldn't even if I wanted to.

 

[Zildjin81]

Yep. Don't remind me.

 

[orangebandguy]

Yes. I got over it.

You should do the same.

More or less that. Meet someone else.

 

[Yumi_and_Erea]

Twice, and I still love both of those ladies very much.

Neither relationship really flourished, but I'm still great friends with both of them, partly because all three of us live in the same house. As it turned out, those ladies were really lesbians who were just bicurious, and chose me as their guinea-pig. I didn't really mind cause let's face it: where else am I going to find two extremely cute lesbian girls, both of which massive anime-geeks, really nice, willing to live in the same house as me, and both of them higly flirtatious? Man, I love those women.

 

[Sigma1992]

Never. And I seriously doubt about the existence of this feeling.

 

[curty129]

I was in love with a nice, beautiful girl. We were together for over 3 years. I decided to pop the question, having already bought the engagement ring, figured how to do, you know the works.

Just as I was about to do it, she gives the dreaded 'just friends' speech and dumped me on the spot.

I was pretty heartbroken. I figured what the hell, what had changed.

A week later, while I was still recovering, I saw her together with my best friend. Going out, holding hands, kissing.

So, I decided that was it. I returned the engagement ring to the shop, took a copy of both the receipt I had gotten when I bought the ring and when I returned it and mailed to copies to my now-ex-girlfriend. I had underlined the dates and the words 'engagement ring x1'.

I didn't answer her calls. She stopped trying three weeks later. I figured, if she was willing to throw away three years together in an increasingly serious relationship for a try at my best friend, then she wasn't the girl I wanted to marry. And attempting to fix whatever pieces were left felt futile and too much hard work for too little gain. After all, I would never be able to forget that feeling of betrayal, so indeed friends was the absolute best we could have hoped for.

EDIT: Took me about a month after that until I was feeling okay. Then I realized that I had nothing to be really sorry about. Heartbreak is part of life, I was almost 23, single, had my own (albeit small) rental flat, my good health and my mates. Took me about two hours to organize the loudest party the neighborhood had seen in two years. And considering it was an apartment for university students only, thats saying something. Partying is one thing we do well and with gusto, when we rarely have the chance for it.

For the OP: get over her. It's way past time for that. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, go out and do something you have never done before (for example, bungee jumping, sea cruise), enjoy the experience and once done, shout out 'Life is Good!' from the bottom of your lungs. Then force a smile for the rest of the day if it doesn't come naturally. I swear, by the next morning you'll be feeling a whole lot better.

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I hope you ***** slapped her ass. Well.. Face. But yeah :l Sounds like a pretty bad best friend (Though there may have been reasons, I understand) and a complete selfish ***** of a girlfriend. Slightly unfair how she gets to do the bad and then collect the happiness.

OT: I believe so, but i wouldn't know since I've only experienced it once. I think it was a cross between infatuation, a little love and just the plain need for emotional attachement with someone. It was both ways though ^^ Ended badly, however. She actually hates what I am, as I've been told by her.. though she doesn't hate Me. They're one and the same, I thought?

tl;dr - I are unhappy. For the silly reasons. I thinks.0

 

[barryween]

Ok, now I know I'm going to be mauled by rabid internet jerks, so bear with me.
Yes, she's my first and only girlfriend.
We broke up, then realized we couldn't live without eachother, so we got back together.
Now, before you get all crazy on me, I am young, BUT, Love is what you want it to be.
She makes me extremley happy whenever I'm around her and when I'm not I'm sad.
This, to me, is what love is, someone who you NEED.
And as such I will boldly say that I love her.

Edit: I also love my best friend, who is a girl. She's been my friend for about 8 months and we've had a few bumps, but she's quickly become one of the few special people in my life.
But, it's a different kind of love, she's just a super close friend.
I love her like a friend, but it's a tad different kind of love when it's a best friend of the opposite gender, so, yeah...
I know that that's not the kind of love you are talking about OP, but I figured I'd just include it.
Funny story, said best friend is best friends with my girlfriend and I actually got to know my girlfriend thanks to my best friend.
X)

 

[Kaisikudo]

Been going out with the same girl on and off for the past 4 years. It never lasts more than a few months before she changes her mind.

She's been out with two of my "best friends" also.

It's starting to get ridiculous, I really do feel VERY strongly about her but ... I don't know if I'd go so far as to say I was in love. I just really wish she would make up her mind. If she just wants to be friends, then why won't she just come out and say it?

 

[revjay]

The only woman I was ever in love with 'got bored' (her words) and left me.. in intensive care for 10 days. But I STILL find the crazy ones sexy. :/

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Vanguard_Ex]

I have been in love for 4 or 5 years now. Its still strong. Although it only flairs when i talk to her on the phone. Unfortunately she's about 240 miles away, and on the other side of a mountain. So we haven't seen each other in at least 2 years.

Its sad panda, but i doubt we'll ever let it go.

I'm in an oddly similar kind of situation. Amazing, isn't it, how those feelings can stay solid even when you never see them in person?

They probably stay more solid when you don't see them, they don't have enough time to creep you out.

And no, but I can't stand to be around people and people can't really stand me so I generally couldn't even if I wanted to.

Damn, you're pretty cynical man...I like it. And there's an odd element of truth to what you said.

It is pretty crazy. I'm lucky she's going to be moving over here soonish.

Ah nice one man, if only I had the luck

 

[Nanaki316]

<22, can't be in love due to people still finding out who they are. Just more fondness and insecurities mixed into one at a younger age.

I don't necessarily agree here. Whilst I believe this can be the case there are some cases in which it isn't. I mean people "find themselves" at all different sorts of ages due to personal experiences.
Personally I had to grow up quite fast because of a lot of shit and I look at people who're like 15/16 now and think I can't ever remember being as immature as some kids these days who're that age. That's not me being full of myself, we all have our childish moments still

OP: I've been in love with the same guy for like 6 years now, although only got together 3 and a half years ago. I'm only 21, we live together and have a baby on the way : )
It doesn't mean I haven't had my pain love wise, he was with someone else for years till we got together and I had a couple of boyfriends between who are now sadly no longer alive.

If anyone hasn't asked already, what's your story and why didn't it work out?

 

[Turing]

I still am. She thinks of me as a friend and is going out with another guy who is a friend of mine. But im happy so long as shes happy.

No you're not.