RafaelNegrus said:
There's a word the Nostalgia Chick used which I think I'm going to borrow here. The word is linets.
Love interest, non-essential to story.
Okay, so in the typical male-targeted narrative the hero saves the world and gets the girl, but in many cases other than maybe needing her to take a few plot-advancing actions which aren't driven by anything unique about her character and could be performed by any minor character with roughly the same effect, the girl doesn't really need to be there most of the time. She is often literally just there to get some boobies and a perfunctory kiss on screen.
And even if the character isn't a linets, it's often just because she's there to provide secondary motivation. "Oh no, the villain has kidnapped my girl! I mean I was going to fight him anyway because he's a dick and he's building a giant death ray to destroy the moon, but this just gives me even more motivation because
now it's personal!" It's like having a support character die, it's a cheap way of ratcheting up the tension by showing that shit just got real.
Now, romantic stories designed for women often present men as crude stereotypes. "Oh, he's the douche with the hidden sensitive side", "oh, he's the nerdy guy who is actually really deep and romantic", "oh, he's the reliable but boring husband who isn't very exciting but will always be there for you", "oh, he's the guy who seems charming and into you but is actually a dick". It's often a bit crude and insulting, but only very, very rarely are these characters non-essential to the plot. In fact, they often
are the plot. They're often the main thing the heroine interacts with to produce dramatic tension.
A few years ago I listened to a radio programme about romantic novels. See, this guy had written a story (about a guy) which some people were calling a romantic novel, and they got a bunch of real (a.k.a female) romantic authors in to talk about it. Anyway, several of these women took a really odd line, that actually it was
impossible for men to write romance stories because this romantic search for the "perfect man" is
the defining female experience. Now, even at the time I was fucking pissed off at that, but that's not because it's not kind of true but because they honestly saw it as a point of pride.
What am I getting at. Well, I think you're right in many ways. I certainly think you're right about men being damaged by the kinds of images they're expected to live up to (oh, so right), but it's a different thing.
ObsidianJones said:
Actually, that's a very interesting point which I totally hadn't considered.