Flirting

[Seldon2639]

It depends on your goal, all things considered. If your goal is simply to be affable and convivial, there's nothing really to "flirting". Be polite, considerate, listen to what she's saying, try to respond thoughtfully.

If you're trying to find a woman to sleep with on short notice, and with little commitment, I'm not sure what you should do. I've never tried it, but there's always the "shotgun approach" to it. Talk to a girl for a bit, ask for her number/to go somewhere private/to go to a movie, if she says no, immediately move on. Eventually, you'll ask out enough girls to actually find one interested.

If you're trying for a relationship, you have two choices:

1. Focus on being as impressive, intelligent, charming, witty, and everything we think makes us awesome, as possible. Assume that she'll eventually figure out you're awesome, and if she doesn't it's her loss.
2. Focus on being a friend. If she's interested in you, it'll happen. If she isn't interested in you, you get a new friend. Be comfortable, accept that she either likes you or doesn't, and that aside from acting like a gigantic douchebag, you can't actually alter her opinion.

Only one of these methods has worked for me.

As a girl I post a stamp of approval on this method; however, don't try to be the "friend" (note: the fake guy-friend hoping she'll eventually change her mind) if you really are not interested in friendship... Some guys get this mixed up, and it's to the detriment of both people.

Oh, yes. I'm remiss to not have included that. So, addendum to method 2 above:

2(a). If you cannot handle being her friend if she either expresses a lack of interest in you, never expresses interest in you, or expressed interest in another guy, don't try to be her friend. The only way a friendship becomes a relationship is when both parties are comfortable as friends (and only friends), before trying to branch out. If you begin with trying to "use" being a friend in order to get into her pants, you're nothing but a jackass.

 

[Kimjira19]

Just chill and talk. Don't over think it. Good luck.

 

[Marik2]

Flirting is extreamly useful when atempting to start a relashonship.
My problem is that i'm pretty shit at it.
So i was wondering if you guys had and techniques for it at all.
I've heard occasional touching of the arm is good but i dont know.

Never touch a girl you just met only do it if they touch you. And say something that makes them feel pretty like "you have beautiful eyes".

 

[little bear]

"chicks dig confidence"

-The clitoris, south park

 

[twostripe]

just talk to a girl like you talk to anyone else, try toget her alone (that ma b just me but i work better 1 on 1) and letting her know you wanna be alone with her kinda gives her a hint
just dont hide that your interested let her know

 

[szs0061]

don't try touching when first approaching them, it could work, but the girls that like that sort of thing, are not really the ones you want.

just talk to them, and pretend like you are a caring person, it works wonders.
EDIT: and of course playing bass helps
[small]sorry forgot it, fix'd it now[/small]

the secret to success in any endeavor is sincerity, once you can fake that, you've got it made

 

[ReincarnatedFTP]

There's one girl who doesn't flirt with me at all. But she sent one of her friends into the shop where I work to see me a couple of times. I never got to see this friend though, so all I have to go on is what I've been told by my colleges.

Apparently she just asks where I am, then when someone tells her I'm up stairs, she blushes and leaves.

It's weird as hell, but intrigueing nonetheless.

I don't know if this is a very subtle troll and if I say anything you'll argue, or some form of joke.

Nevertheless, I'll risk stepping into a trap to state this:This girl probably doesn't exist and it's some people messing with you.

 

[Rawker]

I asked a girl to dance once. When i was inevitably shot down my response was "That's okay, I was on my way to take a dump when I saw you."

Every great flirt has to have a great unflirt when it goes south. It evens things out. You don't want them to get an inflated ego, because then they'll start shooting down everyone after you.[sub] I like to think of myself as helper.[/sub]

 

[Assassin Xaero]

and pretend like you are a caring person [...] and of course playing bass helps [...]

Wait... I am actually a caring person and have a bass but suck at it (like with playing guitar), does that mean I'm fucked?

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

I never notice it, because most of it relies on subtleties that make no sense.
For instance, when women are flirting, they expose their wrists and/or necks, and try to make themselves appear smaller.
Seriously, that is pretty fucking bizarre right there.

 

[SimuLord]

The key to a good flirt is knowing what you bring to the table. I take with me a disarming wit, a damn cute dimple on my right cheek that girls just love (they've told me as much), and a sincere (and it has to be sincere) compliment for their best feature, and yes, that has in the past included boobs and butts!

As for my most effective pickup line? "Hi. I'm Fox. Pleasure to meet you, what say we get to know each other?"

 

[Joe Matsuda]

I can't flirt

I just use my goods looks and naturally charming personality to win over womens hearts...

...and lots of lies...can't forget the lies!

 

[SsilverR]

I just act silly and over egotistical.

Simple.

LOL win

first thing you have to know about life .. girls bang the jerks before they bang the nice guys

 

[MR T3D]

okay, here's what to do.
early on insist in the night you keep arm around her to keep her warm, be semi-gentleman, sing a little (if your voice isn't horrid..) and be a bigdamhero when she feels lost.
take her home, have sex, become man.
easy

 

[Carbonel]

Wow your love life must be really horrible because you are talking about on a forum. Have fun being a lonely sad ass.

One question. Was that necessary?

 

[MFunction]

Probably not but hey! the guy needs to wake up!

 

[Blow_Pop]

I more go for the guys who I can have an actual conversation with that doesn't talk to my chest......Its one thing to be that short but to be my height and look at my chest instead of my face.....

Subtle flirting
Mix in a touch of "i like you" in with something you have in common.....

 

[JazzCP]

Build a long friendship with the girl, during the course of which (two years plus), you slowly start to let on to the fact that you might like her as more than a friend. Make sure you are always there when her other relationships go bad, comfort her, talk to her, learn everything about her and respond whenever she calls.

Eventually, in a moment of weakness, she will think 'maybe this is the guy who's for me?' And she'll be yours. All you have to do then is convince her that true love doesn't exist, and you must find happiness with whoever you're with, rather than endlessly chasing a dream, while you live in constant fear that she'll one day realise she never loved you, ony needed to feel loved.

Or, you know, just come out and say it.

(The above story has in no way been influenced by real events, no names or dates have been changed.)

Get. Out. Of. My. Head!

Yeah. I suck at relationships (they never like me back), so I am bookmarking this thread.

 

[little bear]

and pretend like you are a caring person [...] and of course playing bass helps [...]

Wait... I am actually a caring person and have a bass but suck at it (like with playing guitar), does that mean I'm fucked?

CONFIDENCE!!!!

seriously guys, women aren't aliens. you should be able to pass one or two sentences without fainting. sides, sometimes the one your looking for might ask you out anyways.

 

[Desert Tiger]

Girls find me attractive when I criticise and joke about them. Go them, I guess.