Girl Magnets

[poleboy]

It's all about social contact. You can't always expect people to share your interests, try talking to some people about their interests, maybe you'll find that you happen to like other things than anime and games. Not that there's anything wrong with liking those things.

It's very easy to isolate yourself if you feel different, and you can keep repeating this pattern until if feels like everyone is better off than you. But it's really often just a matter of how you look at yourself.

 

[Iron Mal]

Speaking of which, the girls are usually bigger anime fans; I've never heard of a high school that didn't have a contingent of squealing anime fan girls, most of whom read gay porn (in the form of Yaoi) openly in school, in a way that would get any guy expelled. A nerd could do a lot worse than one of those girls.

That said, though, it gets better in college. Highschool can be very rough for nerds, but as people grow up, nerds start to be the more successful individuals.

I'd argue a nerdy guy couldn't find a better girl than that (well, okay, maybe the gay yaoi porn would be a bit creepy but otherwise my point still stands).

My lovely girlfriend loves to read books, watch anime, play games and watch movies and even though we don't have exactly the same interests in those fields (she likes Sailor Moon, the Sims and Saw, I like Berserk, Warhammer 40k and Aliens) it stills gives us a lot in common that we can share with each other and enjoy (I personally find it very interesting when she talks to me about the books she does and dosn't like, I enjoy listening to her...and plus she can kick my arse at Goldeneye on the N64, I'm not very proud of that fact).

If she didn't have any of those interests then it's quite likely that me liking them would probably just be alienating to her and would give us much, much less to talk about to each other or do together.

It would definately make things hardera and put a lot of strain on us.

 

[Aprilgold]

Odds are the the "girl magnets" are over confident people that cheat on or abuse women, have money, and do dangerous/extreme/counter-culture activities. If you don't have at least two of the three, women will ignore you. There's this myth that being very attractive will get you laid, but I've seen some womanizing men, and they are 'woah' ugly.

Confidence
Money
Drugs//

Pick two.

Highschool and college
Mid-life <executives/managers/engineers have 1 and 2> <drug dealers have all three, but mostly 2 and 3>
Military has 1 and 2, and possibly 3 (women know that if they get preg. with a military guy, they have guaranteed income for at least 4-8 years or longer: government pays them directly and auto deducts from dude's paycheck = no skipping child support).

Example:

I longboard (think skateboarding only down hills and stuff). So I've got three down. However, as a student after being unemployed for two years, I lack two. Also, while I have confidence in my ability to ride a board, I'm still timid around women. So I'm sitting at 1 out of 3, and women ignore me and blow me off at every opportunity. That said, at the beginning of each semester when financial aid checks roll out, oddly enough, I find myself in slightly better company if you know what I mean.

Women want confidence, then money, then something unique/dangerous/self damaging.

Basically this, woman at that time have been taught by the media that the ONLY acceptable person to date is a guy with devilish handsome looks, money, and above ALL us, a dick attitude about self. If you don't fill this, their reaction, thanks to shows like I carly is that being in a abusive realationship with a dude thats a hostile dick weed is alright.

As long as it don't get physical, then they won't care, but if they aren't treated like god damned princesses, then they will just leave them. Do what I do on those days, BLAME THE MEDIA! Seriously, they sell FUCKING SHORT SKIRTS, like SUPER short skirts and shorts to 5-13 year olds. What do you think they want them to think?

 

[neonsword13-ops]

TAKE SOME INITIATIVE, BUDDY!

Not to be rude, but sometimes you have to find the people you enjoy being around. (Or even love.) Also, get a bad-ass leather jacket. That always seems to work.

 

[The Rogue Wolf]

I'm going to highlight the problem right here.

When everything seems to just exist to remind me what a sad lonely loser I am.

I used to think this way about myself. Then I got over it. I learned to understand myself better- that I'm not a bad person, and that while I have flaws, I also have good qualities. One of my corny taglines is "you're never alone if you're friends with yourself". And as dopey as that sounds, it's true.

People tend to reflect their self-opinion outwardly, oftentimes in ways they're not conscious of. If you're down on yourself, thinking you're a "sad lonely loser", well then that's the image you're going to project. Especially in school, people twig onto this very clearly, and they don't want to relate themselves to that (unless they feel the same way badly enough to not care about amplifying it). The guy that everyone was hanging around projected, for lack of a better term, good vibes. People want to be around that.

A lot of the repies in this thread are telling you about self-confidence. It's good advice, but it's just a little off. What you need to aim for is self-acceptance. If you can get yourself in the mindset that you're not a bad person, and you may have issues but they're not all THAT bad and you can work around them, then you'll begin to feel differently- and it'll show. I'm not a gushing extrovert by any means, but I don't have people avoid sitting near me either.

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

Examine what he had/does that you don't

This. All 8 words of this.

Look at him analytically to determine what it is about him that makes him attractive. Observe body language, eye movements, the way he talks, sentence structure; absolutely anything. Everything he does is picked up and noted down and contributes to attraction.

Also be aware that a lot of college attraction is about social circles and stereotypes.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

Carry around a cute animal, like a dog or a cat. It works, trust me.

 

[spartan231490]

Examine what he had/does that you don't

Money/and acts like a d-bag?
jk, sorta.

Yeah dude, I don't know. Just don't fuck with it.

 

[triggrhappy94]

Its all about conversation starters.
I've started a dialogue with a chick, who I sat next to in Trig (who I had nothing else to really say) just by showing her a picture I drew using the "draw/pen" function on my calculator. Later that same class period she invited me to join the club she was the president of. I'll have to get back to you on how it ends.

But seriously, think of all your best qualities. Think of everything you could use to start a conversation. Think of your best jokes and stories. After that, just relax and be yourself. Those are the only real "chick magnets" you'll need.

 

[Inkidu]

I guess you could listen to the Rod Stewart song until you got over it. See a dermatologist, hit the gym, boost some of that confidence.

Seriously, just because you like anime and video games doesn't mean you couldn't eventually become the Adonis of [catchy video game title].

 

[Zergadooful]

From my experience, girls like someone with self confidence.
What I typically do to hit on a girl is slam her against a wall and choke her out, then drag her unconscious body out into a secluded area. You have to be pretty fast, they usually wake up within 2-3 minutes. When they do regain consciousness, they almost always say how much self confidence it takes to assault someone in public and proceed to make out with you. PROVEN BY SCIENCE!

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

Truthfully? Just accept who you are. Do you like Anime? Ok, great. Do you like video games? Fantastic! I'm sure you can find a group of people who will accept you for who you are. I myself have a group of friends, half of which are female, who don't give 2 shits about video games and are actually all purely their own individuals, for that is just what college is.

From the sounds of it though you are still in Highschool. I don't care how you put it, but from how you are stating it you are still there in Mind and Spirit. If you set your Mind into being Confident, and your Spirit into being an individual (and find a group of friends who accept you) than you should be fine.

I will give one more piece of advice though. You will never get friends by sitting alone *hint*, because Pity wins you nothing. It turns people off, ESPECIALLY WOMEN. If they see a man who feels bad about himself and doubts his own abilities they are not about to go wipe their nose and be their mother. I'm not telling you to grow a pair, but to just be more confident about your abilities. Welcome to LIFE, and it's time to roll the dice.

Also too make this advice validated. I lived through what you are living through now.

EDIT: Also... I am sickened by the fact that some people have stated that you should 'fake' being someone else... For the record this is the worst thing to do and will do nothing but make you more miserable. I am not joking.

 

[fulano]

Just get a sense of humor and talk about current stuff like politics with passion that does not come across as zeal. The confidence to get this done? Fake it.

Remember these fifteen wise and powerful words: Girls are like spiders. They are more scared of you than you are of them.

Good hunting, good sir.

 

[Da Orky Man]

Fucking magnets, how do they work?

Magnets are metal, metal is mined from the earth, sometimes there's still some gravity from the earth in the metal and that's how a magnet works

I honestly hope you are either joking or being sarcastic there.

 

[Meemaimoh]

You're after the wrong kind of woman if you're interested in the sort that hates nerdy pursuits. Seriously, nerdy women are becoming more and more common. You'll be fine.

Have you tried actually going up to a girl? Maybe one of the ones that seem too shy to go up to a guy? I can just about guarantee they'll be better relationship material.

 

[Xman490]

I've heard that admitting that you have a problem is the first step to the process of solving it.
*ahem... RAGE MODE ENGAGED* SELF-CONFIDENCE IS KEY, I FUCKING GET IT (AND DON'T GET FUCKING, IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN) AND SO DOES OP. BUT HOW THE HELL DO YOU DEVELOP THAT IF SUCCESS IS JUST A CLOUD IN THE SKY? *rage mode deactivated* Seriously, I tried psychologists and all I learned was how to meditate and that I have moderate anxiety, which apparently flattens my self-confidence.

TL;DR: Fuck, I need to get laid, and by an actual girlfriend of mine. BAW

 

[nothingspringstomind]

You humans and your worrying about relationships... Makes me smile.

OT; Don't worry, all the hot girls you meet later in life once they've gotten over the badboy/idiot/abusive boyfriend stage.

Speaking as a niceguy(tm) you'll be swimming in tattybojangles in a few years.

I was, and i'm fat!

 

[Blue Hero]

I didn't read all that stuff there, but I'm gonna guess that this topic is all about attractive women with things. Material possessions, physical attributes, personality things, all that. I bought a girl I know that likes Japanese stuff an expensive pachinko machine for her birthday. She still hasn't attempted to jump my bones. Oh how I wish I knew what Earthly possessions I should buy her to make her jump.

Maybe I need more confidence or somethin' that I can't buy with money.