Girl troubles (Is there any other kind?)
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Kill it. Kill it WITH FIRE!!! The relationship, I mean. Cut off all communication. If she comes back begging with her puppy eyes, then *evil grin* time for revenge then.
Dude, I'm sorry to tell you this, but these people are right, you need to cut your losses. I know plenty of women just like this. It is a safe bet she knows she has you in the palm of her hand. She can twist you and mess with you any way she wants because she is sure that you will always come back. This is especially the case when she can't seem to make up her mind. I would recommend that you tell here you can't just wait for her to make up her mind.
In life, we all wear masks and place them on others. You think you're in love with being used? You're in love with someone who doesn't love you back? No disrespect, but no. You're in love with the image of her; the mask you've put on her. The problem is the mask doesn't fit. She's not who you want her to be.
You've said you're a hopeless romantic, then look at it this way. The person you love is out there somewhere. It's not her. The face that makes your heart flutter, the smile that makes you giddy, the image you've attached to this girl belongs to someone else. The more time you spend on the impostor, the less you are being true to yourself. You won't be going back on loving her, you'll be freeing that love to find its true place.
Drop her. The mask doesn't fit. She is NOT who she seems to be. Those feelings belong to some else, and you'll never find them while fixated on her.
You've said you're a hopeless romantic, then look at it this way. The person you love is out there somewhere. It's not her. The face that makes your heart flutter, the smile that makes you giddy, the image you've attached to this girl belongs to someone else. The more time you spend on the impostor, the less you are being true to yourself. You won't be going back on loving her, you'll be freeing that love to find its true place.
Drop her. The mask doesn't fit. She is NOT who she seems to be. Those feelings belong to some else, and you'll never find them while fixated on her.
Okay... I'm going to give you some advice from the other side of the fence here (Did I hear a metaphor there? Gotta keep it running!).
Mkay, so she says she likes your friend, but hangs out with you a lot. Several possibilities, perhaps all occurring at the same time.
1) She likes you as a friend. There is nothing wrong with this. She enjoys your company, but she may not be as romantically inclined.
2) She's completely and utterly confused. No doubt many of us are when it comes to trials of the heart. She likes your friend, but she knows its unrequited. She also may like you a bit, but not as much as she likes him. It's perfectly normal to be interested in more than one person at a time, because different people have different endearing qualities.
3) Once again, she's confused, but she's not sure how she feels towards you.
I personally don't think she's intentionally 'fucking' with you, however I have a somewhat optimistic view of people in general. Liking someone, especially during high school can be a completely and utterly confusing trial.
I don't think you should cut off all communication with her, nor attempt the advice that would hurt her. You obviously care for her, and although the feelings aren't mutual, it's obvious she values you as a friend if she wants to spend time with you. I would say put a halt on any romantic endeavors, but if she makes a move and you feel comfortable with it, well... go with your gut instincts. I pay no promises here, but feelings can change over time, and there is a slim chance that after getting over your friend, she'll develop interests in you. You also will probably stop feeling 'romantically' (for want of a better word) towards her if it never ends up being reciprocal. And you might come away best friends for it. You may also drift away, but that's a possibility with all your friends.
Don't go out of your way to plan when you'll find love. It's unpredictable and you'll probably find it when you least expect it. However, I will agree that by placing her on a 'pedestal' probably won't gain you attraction points, because you need to put yourself on an equal footing. Trust me, it's entertaining for a little while when a guy things the world revolves around you, but after a while its like a puppy... cute, but you feel you cant seriously communicate with them because they're in a constant state of awe.
Anywho, I hope I helped a bit. Goodluck!
Mkay, so she says she likes your friend, but hangs out with you a lot. Several possibilities, perhaps all occurring at the same time.
1) She likes you as a friend. There is nothing wrong with this. She enjoys your company, but she may not be as romantically inclined.
2) She's completely and utterly confused. No doubt many of us are when it comes to trials of the heart. She likes your friend, but she knows its unrequited. She also may like you a bit, but not as much as she likes him. It's perfectly normal to be interested in more than one person at a time, because different people have different endearing qualities.
3) Once again, she's confused, but she's not sure how she feels towards you.
I personally don't think she's intentionally 'fucking' with you, however I have a somewhat optimistic view of people in general. Liking someone, especially during high school can be a completely and utterly confusing trial.
I don't think you should cut off all communication with her, nor attempt the advice that would hurt her. You obviously care for her, and although the feelings aren't mutual, it's obvious she values you as a friend if she wants to spend time with you. I would say put a halt on any romantic endeavors, but if she makes a move and you feel comfortable with it, well... go with your gut instincts. I pay no promises here, but feelings can change over time, and there is a slim chance that after getting over your friend, she'll develop interests in you. You also will probably stop feeling 'romantically' (for want of a better word) towards her if it never ends up being reciprocal. And you might come away best friends for it. You may also drift away, but that's a possibility with all your friends.
Don't go out of your way to plan when you'll find love. It's unpredictable and you'll probably find it when you least expect it. However, I will agree that by placing her on a 'pedestal' probably won't gain you attraction points, because you need to put yourself on an equal footing. Trust me, it's entertaining for a little while when a guy things the world revolves around you, but after a while its like a puppy... cute, but you feel you cant seriously communicate with them because they're in a constant state of awe.
Anywho, I hope I helped a bit. Goodluck!
So many women and so little time dude so try not to get too bent out of shape over this one. I am sure its painful but even if you were together its highly unlikely it would be the holy grail of relationships for you anyway.
Women aren't all that great to be honest (thats not a dig by the way ladies), so start finding other women you like and trust me, there will be loads out there.
Women aren't all that great to be honest (thats not a dig by the way ladies), so start finding other women you like and trust me, there will be loads out there.
While usualy I would agree with Jaythulhu or simply say "walk away" Try setting them up, see how your freind feels about her.
Use this information to decide your course of action.
Use this information to decide your course of action.
Honestly guys, I see less head fucking and more typical teenage romance. Ever been in love before, dude? Not all roses and picnics all the time unfortunately.
Sorry if any of this has been posted before, I could nae read through each and every post.
You've probably made up your mind as to what's going to happen / what you're going to do. And, from the way you narrate the tale I can tell you want to stay together and for everything to work out without any awkwardness or hurt feelings from anyone, I'll bet you're hoping for someone to tell you the magic formula for that. Not going to happen, it never does.
Two years from now there's going to be a different girl, probably more than one in between. And I would say just move on to accelerate the process.
How do you move on? Not easily, but you do. I'm sure you love this young lady and I am sure she has strong feelings for you. But it's not going to last, whatever the reason it's so complicated, it is, and that's the fatal flaw.
Whatever your choice is though, know that it isn't the wrong one, that you will learn and grow from it (whether you struggle to keep it all together or suck it up and take the biting and painful step away).
Sorry if any of this has been posted before, I could nae read through each and every post.
You've probably made up your mind as to what's going to happen / what you're going to do. And, from the way you narrate the tale I can tell you want to stay together and for everything to work out without any awkwardness or hurt feelings from anyone, I'll bet you're hoping for someone to tell you the magic formula for that. Not going to happen, it never does.
Two years from now there's going to be a different girl, probably more than one in between. And I would say just move on to accelerate the process.
How do you move on? Not easily, but you do. I'm sure you love this young lady and I am sure she has strong feelings for you. But it's not going to last, whatever the reason it's so complicated, it is, and that's the fatal flaw.
Whatever your choice is though, know that it isn't the wrong one, that you will learn and grow from it (whether you struggle to keep it all together or suck it up and take the biting and painful step away).
Best thing to do is to just don't talk to her at all, just forget about her.
I have done some bad things, my best friend went out with a girl and I ended up making out with her, he still doesn't know and I dont think I would tell him, he is a good guy and he didn't deserve it.
I have done some bad things, my best friend went out with a girl and I ended up making out with her, he still doesn't know and I dont think I would tell him, he is a good guy and he didn't deserve it.
give up on love in my opinion. leads to pain and heart ache. week before christmas my (now ex) girlfriend spilt up with me and then i see her a few days later in my town, with her ex before me, walking and holding hands and kissing. if i see him again he will feel pain and i wont hold back until he is very battered and bloody
Already tried that. Got her to tell him, but he's kind of an uncaring monster about it, and was reading a batman comic while having that conversation, and brought out a metaphor he was reading.. (It was from The Killing Joke: Bowl of Cherries=Life, these are the pits. Like...what?) So now Im..forbidden to ask anything regarding the two of them interacting. =/hazuka3377 said:
Her happy >/= me happy.
She is using you mate. never nice to hear but hey. Go to college and party your heart out. And the guy who said that you'll spot the signs of this earlier next time is spot on. My main girl problem is that i always pick the nutters. One stabbed me when i was in the shower once. With a corkscrew of all bloody things.