God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[BoTTeNBReKeR]

Sorry OP. But you fucked up bad and thus, I lol'd very hard at this thread.

Also, you have the worst friends ever? Nobody helped you clean up, one of your friends puked all over your bed and another one told you to hold on a bag of weed? Jeez man... Get some new friends, cause these guys sound like your average teenage punks who think they're cool while they're more of a nuissance than anything else.

 

[GodofDisaster]

Seriously by the sounds of some of these posts, a lot of the people here sound like a bigger idiot than the op was. He was asking for advice not to insult him, he already feels like shit, I mean lay of the poor guy.

Now I'm not saying I condone his actions, he did fuck up but what I do admire is the fact that he's showing remorse for what he did.

I mean at least he isn't this dickhead.


Also here's what I believe you should do.

1. Say sorry to your parents untill throat is so sore, you can barely speak.

2. Offer to pay for all the damages.

3. Don't run away from home that will only make things worse.

4. Find more trust worthy friends and if you do decide to throw another one only bring a handful of people and make sure your parents allow it. (Although you'll have to gain their trust back first.)

 

[NickCooley]

why are people giving this idiot atta-boy's?

what is wrong with our culture when it's more socially accepted to be an irresponsible twat, than it is to be a responsible adult?

Because being an irrespnsible twat beats being a condescending, stuck up, puritanical arsehole like the ones that are flocking to the thread in droves. The kid goofed and he's panicking like any one else would it doesn't mean you're (that goes for everyone) allowed to look down your nose at him like a judgmental prick. I know some Escapists do the smug holier-than-thou thing but holy shit I didn't know it had infected so many.

OT: You got found out, that's pretty shitty. Next time keep the word more private, don't invite so many people and make sure you only invite friends you know won't act like ass hats, if people you didn't invite turn up throw them out and finally GUT the place afterwards, I mean seriously every nook and cranny.

As for your parents, don't run away. Stay and apologise, if they don't want to hear it wait until they will, pick up some extra chores and keep your nose clean. It'll all blow over eventually.

 

[BoTTeNBReKeR]

Seriously by the sounds of some of these posts, a lot of the people here sound like a bigger idiot than the op was. He was asking for advice not to insult him, he already feels like shit, I mean lay of the poor guy.

Now I'm not saying I condone his actions, he did fuck up but what I do admire is the fact that he's showing remorse for what he did.

What advice is there to give? There's simply nothing you can do. It's the same as asking for advice on what to do after carjacking someone and getting arrested... There's no advice, there's nothing you can do. You just have to accept the consequences of your actions. I know it sounds harsh, but that's life.

edit: fixed typo.

 

[Thumper17]

Thats the reason I dont host parties with people I'm not extremely close with. My parties as a result are usually 5-8 people though and theirs barely any alcohol. Lame? Maybe, but nothing ends up broken and we still have a good time.

I remember when my younger brother had a party, he had like 30 people over and decided to pass out on the couch leaving me to keep things under control. Sure enough, fight broke out. Drinking glasses got broken, police arrived. Dont want that happening again. I did end up making a new friend though, so theirs that.

 

[LuckyClover95]

When has throwing a party while people are away ever turned out okay? Hasn't TV taught us anything?

I've thrown a few parties while people were away that went alright. Have you experienced parties in real life or just seen them on tv?

 

[Alphakirby]

I think at this point,the only thing you can do is to 1.Find a way to get your parents to forgive you and 2.Find a way to replace that table that was set on fire.
But yeah,holy shit it looks like everything went wrong pretty quickly.

 

[Alrocsmash]

Im 26. During my teenage years I threw many parties and got outed once or twice. They will eventually let that pass. The weed thing is different

NEVER, EVER hold anything your country / state considers illegal in your house for a friend. This is far more damaging to your relationship with your parents.

 

[Emilyx382]

When has throwing a party while people are away ever turned out okay? Hasn't TV taught us anything?

I've thrown a few parties while people were away that went alright. Have you experienced parties in real life or just seen them on tv?

I think what kind of parties you have depends on what kind of friends you have. If you trust your friends and are really careful about protecting things from getting broken then you'll be fine.

Personally I wouldn't trust any of my friends in my parents house drinking. But I guess that doesn't really matter anymore as I don't live with my parents.

 

[Tripple W]

This may not be the answer your looking for but grow a pair and enjoy parents will always be disappointed in you for one reason or another (especially a step parent) so relax it will blow over your 17 have fun

 

[Jonesy911]

My advice is to not hold parties at your house. Just go to other people's, then you can be as irresponsible as you like.

I never, ever, ever, ever hold parties at my house. Firstly I'm too much of an irresponsible drunk to look after anything and my friends tend to be just as bad. Also it's nice to know there aren't people having sex all over my house.

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Last time I threw a party while my parents were away my buddy's girlfriend almost got alcohol poisoning and covered my bathroom floor with vomit. I had to help my friend strip her, bathe her, and stood by as he inserted a tampon into her.

She's not invited next time.

 

[Crazycat690]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

This is pretty much what I'd say aswell.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

Welcome to life. You made an experience everybody has to make once when they are home-alone, well at least everybody with enough friends to wreck a home. Mood will be chilly for a few weeks. Try to clean and repair as much as possible on your own, suggest to pay for the expensive table month by month, and sooner or later everything will be forgotten.
The only way to calm down the parents wrath is showing responsibility for your actions. (and when your friends deserve the title they will help)

 

[klaynexas3]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

have you tried selling the movie rights? if you make a lot of money, they might not be so mad at you.

OT: well fuck, you appear to be knee deep in a good amount of shit. what you should do, is what everyone else is saying, apologize. they probably won't trust you ever again, and i think with good reason. but it could be worse. my parents found out that i've smoke weed before, and they say if i ever get caught smoking again, they'll call the cops. i feel the same would probably be true with alcohol, so count your lucky stars your parents didn't do that. and going to your grandmother's house is somewhat cowardly, but your parents might need the time away from you to think through how they feel about what's going on. if i was caught in this situation, i'd probably run like hell too though, only i'd have no place to go. anyway, all in all, simply try making amends with them. they'll probably still be pissed off, but they're your parents, they'll still love you.

 

[Headsprouter]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

Can I just say I totally agree with this guy on his words towards you, parties, people and persons. We are of the same mindset, in this case.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Just say you were keeping the weed for a friend, pay for a new table and clean up the house so it doesn't look like someone TRIED to hide the fact a party was there. Just face the issue head on and I've got a feeling your parents will respect you more for it.

 

[Orange Monkey]

Running away won't do anything but re-confirm their misgivings about you. You need to earn back their trust, work to fix the broken things and apologise for breaking their trust. Running away is the worst thing you can do.

 

[spartan231490]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

What would I do? I would have cleaned up the house(the sick stain, the beer cans) and I wouldn't have held the guys weed. I don't do drugs, and I don't keep them around for other people either. And I have no idea what I would do about the table, I'm assuming you can't afford to replace/fix it. I would say to my parents: "Yeah, I had a party. but the house is just as clean as you left and I will either replace/fix the table, or if I can't afford it, I will work until I can."