God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[Jumpingbean3]

Also probably cut back on the partying for a while

Well, maybe at my own house, yeah. But there's gonna be a hell of a lot of parties to attend this summer.

Seriously though I would not recommend that and I highly doubt your parents would approve. However, if you really, REALLY feel the need to go to parties try to moderate how many parties you go to and when you do go try to keep from getting more than a little tipsy and if it gets out of hand, leave immediately. This way you may be able to show that you CAN be responsible. They probably won't believe you at first but in time they should come to trust you again.

On top of that, the next time they leave you home alone (probably some time in the next five years) try to do something constructive around the house like tidy up or... Anyway, my point is try to do something constructive and if at any point you think "maybe it would be easier if I just [insert idea here]" do not follow through with it. Hopefully this should make it easier to forgive you.

Finally, the next time you want a party at your place ASK. Should the planets align and your parents say yes be sure to remain sober (a good host must be in a good state to keep control), invite only the people you're sure you can trust to be responsible, limit your alcohol supply to keep people from getting too drunk and if someone starts causing problems ask them to stop and if they don't, make them leave (be calm and polite and don't use force except as a last resort).

Otherwise I can see a Darwin Award in your future (which in case you don't know is an award given to people who die due to colossal stupidity on their own part. Think of it as the Razzy of life).

Edit: Speaking of colossal stupidity I quoted when I meant to edit. Sorry for the double post, reporting now.

 

[Jinx_Dragon]

You fucked up, that is pretty much all we can say. There is not trick to get out of this one, no special words you can say to make it blow over and no advice we can give that will magically make this one better. You have to take your licks and just accept that you fucked up, learn from this and move on.

Your parents are not going to kick you out or stop 'loving you' over this. Just behave better in the future and they will come to laugh over it all. For sure, don't throw parties for a while and if you find out who burned the patio set... light them on fire while screaming your parents names!

They will love that... right?!

 

[duchaked]

... wow
...LOL

hey well if I had done something so monumentally...um intense, like that then I'd be flat out dead. period
course if my parents hadn't already run me through the garbage disposal, I'd probably flee to the nearest neighboring country (or on second thought, I'd probably be banished there by my parents hahaa)

 

[floobie]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

That about covers it. You decided to throw a party in your parent's house without their permission. Therefore, you're gonna have to suck it up and deal with the consequences, and hopefully learn from the experience.

And, I really have to agree with Necro Jim here: I hate parties. The only way I could possibly enjoy them is if I was completely drunk off my ass and completely turned my brain off. And, I generally dislike getting drunk off my ass... because I don't like turning my brain off. So, I'll personally go with the company of a few good friends over a house full of people I barely know who end up trashing my shit.

 

[RollForInitiative]

How to put this best...

Son, you dun fucked up.

That is all.

 

[FallenMessiah88]

Apologize and ask them in what way you could make up for it. Then at least you would have the moral high ground by at least handling it in a mature way. No offense but shutting you out like that just because you did something wrong (however severe it might be) isn't really my view of good parenting. Simply just try to see if you can work out some sort of understanding.

Cheer up mate. People make mistakes. Learning from those mistakes is what's important. Im not saying that whay you did wasn't wrong. When I was living with my parents I would have NEVER dared to throw a party without their consent. So yeah, you should realize your mistake (which it seems you have, so that's a good start), but your parents should also learn to live and forget.

Hope things work out for you.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

You threw the party, you are the one responsible for it. I'd take full responsibility for it, apologize and be the one to make all repairs and such necessary.

 

[marurder]

This is totally your fault. This is what happens when you let your friends have full reign of your home. You should ALWAYS lock some doors (if possible) to minimize damage (how they get into your parents room - that like the most obvious no no!?)
Running to your grandparents home wont solve the issue. Say your sorry, slow down on the party side of things and let your friends host them at their homes (or elsewhere).

 

[gibboss28]

Btw, I am loving this thread.

LOL YOU FUCKED UP BAD, BEHOLD, ONE OF THE RARE MOMENTS IN WHICH I CAN LAUGH AT SOMEONE BECAUSE HE DID SUMTHING DUMM LMOA HURR DURR I IS OF SUPERIOR INTELLIGENCE

Good, I wasn't the only one who picked up on that

 

[K_Dub]

Probably not a bad idea to get out of the house for a while. That way, your folks have a chance to calm down, and you have time to look for a job.

But it's more than just the money. You need to work on gaining your parents' trust again. It's up to you how you go about doing that though.

And next time you wanna throw a party, ask your folks if you can. They'll appreciate your honesty in asking them and the fact that you respected them enough to ask in the first place. If they say sure, then get down with your bad self. If they say no though, then your out a party for one weekend. Not the worst thing that can happen to you.

 

[Philip Petrunak]

Everyone makes mistakes, you can either run away from them or eat your crow and grow from them. I'd suggest the latter, and if you haven't done this yet, sit your parents down and apologize. Explain yourself, but don't try and excuse yourself. Be earnest, and take responsibility.

Now then, I don't own a credit card. You know why? Because I know myself, if I got one, I'd probably get fucked and in debt somewhere down the road. I know my limits, and I don't try to live outside them.

You, are an idiot. Your a teenager I'm betting, that's expected. You're still a kid. That is part of your limits, learn them, and live within them. You'll be happier for it, and live a better life.

 

[natster43]

Well you sure did messed up boy, but what can you do?
Nothing, for it is the past.
Just deal with it, life is full of fucking up and dealing with the consequences.
It will all pass, your parents will probably forgive you someday, and you will get to tell your children someday about this when they fuck up in some similar matter or just as an interesting story for them to hear.

 

[ZeZZZZevy]

Well take this as a lesson.

Your parents will eventually forgive you, but I'd be pretty pissed too if I came home and my house was destroyed

let them cool off, and try to be nicer for a while and make it up to them

 

[w1ndscar]

Be a man and own up to your mistakes. Don't run off to your grandmothers house. I don't mean to sound like an ass, but your ignorance in how you treated your parents trust is shameful, and all your doing is making the stereotypical teenager look worse than it already is.

1) You need to apologize to your parents and let them know that your willing to fix whats left.
2) You need to find better friends that aren't so mindless as to not only over drink, but also wreck your crap with out any care.
3) You need to get a job and replace the stuff your "friends" broke.
4) Stop holding onto peoples weed. Whether you do it or not it still gives you an appearance you don't want.
5) Your 17 you shouldn't even be drinking to begin with...

Overall you need to man up, mature up, and get better friends. This is the exact reason why you have to be 21 to legally drink and buy beer in most states.

/rant

 

[Ris]

Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

With respect, there is no "reasoning" with them; you fucked up, and you don't have a single excuse to back yourself up. They have every right to be as angry and disappointed in you as you say they are and you need to face up to that. It's the best thing that you can do.

Ask them if they would like you to stay with your Grandma. If you just leave then you're running away from your own mess, and that's going to make the situation worse - they could see it as you shirking responsibility. Try and see if from their point of view: you "needing to get out of here" is a tad self-centred seeing as it's your parents that are suffering and feeling let down, not you.

Just calmly tell them that you understand that they're angry, and that you wondered if you should leave to give them some space for a while. With any luck you might redeem yourself a little bit for showing some sensitivity to their feelings.

 

[[Esoteric Reference]]

I was all set to blast you and call you a fucking idiot and all that, but then I remembered the time I wrecked my dad's car... twice.

Shit happens, your parents get over it, life goes on. But if your parents are anything like my Dad, they'll keep referencing the incident for many years to come; long after they've forgiven you and long after it's stopped being funny. But cheer up, we all (the fun ones anyway) pull stuff like this and if you've got any shred of integrity you're probably more ashamed of yourself than they are of you.

 

[samaugsch]

How about apologizing and attempting to make up for the damage by getting a job and paying for all the expensive shit you broke? Part of being an adult is being able to deal with your mistakes and learn from them. Avoiding them isn't something I would recommend because in the end what happened was entirely your fault. Avoiding your mistake would also be a "betrayal" of sorts as instead of attempting to remedy the situation you're letting your parents deal with it while you basically run away.

I'm 17 and I haven't yet found a job (currently looking!), I could no way afford to replace that table. I've tried apologizing and owning up to my actions, but they don't want to hear it. My step-dad doesn't even wanna talk to me.

I think the best thing to do would to get out of their hair for a while.

No. Doing so would only show them you've learned absolutely nothing from the experience. Whether or not you can replace the table is irrelevant, the act of attempting to repay is just enough to show your parents you're not a complete fucktard. Man up and deal with the consequences.

Did you even read what he wrote? He said his parents don't want to hear it. He's right to leave them alone for awhile. Of course, he should clean everything up the best he can before doing so.

 

[helmutlord]

Hey Funkiest Monkey, I hope you don't mind if I don't suggest any actions. I would encourage you to remember a few things though.

Remember what you did wrong.
This way you may avoid such situations in the future, and become a better person. Life will be full of mistakes, that's just a fact, and learning from them is the second best way to have as few as possible. (The best way is listening to older people)
- Remember you don't have to look after weed, just because someone asks you. This goes for anything your friends ask you - would you believe me if I told you that most people will respect you more for doing what you think is best?
- Remember how a good friend will act, so that you can choose good friends and be a good friend. Who you hang around is who you will become. When I was in early high school, I hung around bullies and saw myself becoming the worst sort of person. Choosing to change schools and find new friends was both one of the hardest, and one of the best choices I ever made.
- Remember that there's a reason that alcohol isn't given to young people, and that drunkeness is usually much more of a negative than a positive no matter the age. People don't like hearing that, but you've experienced that personally.
- Remember that it was your fault - I know it's not a pleasant thought, and sure your friends are to blame as well, but too often people make all kinds of excuses as to why they're innocent just so they feel better. And you know what happens? They do the same thing again and again, and get angry at everyone except themselves.

Remember your parents still love you.
Just because a parent is disappointed, doesn't mean they don't love you. In some way it proves that they think you're better than that, and I agree with them. You don't sound like a silly guy, but you did make a silly mistake.
Think about it this way: It's not the fact that there was weed in the house that made them disappointed and ashamed, it's the fact that YOU had weed in the house. Prove to them that this was just a mistake, and that you will be that trustworthy person again. They don't want to hear excuses and you trying to explain why what you did was right... they WANT to see you become a trustworthy, and honest adult - and you are on the right track my friend!
Now, they are human, and they will be upset about the mess for a time - but if even a stranger would sacrifice a table to save your life, how much more do your parents care about you than a little mess!

Remember how important a good relationship with your parents is.
If that means giving up all your wages for a few years to win back their trust, then do it! If that means never holding a party at their house again, then do it!
You probably won't have to do that, but these are small prices to pay. Think to yourself, how far would I go to repair this relationship?

Remember that more often than not, your parents know what they're talking about.
If your friends say one thing, and your parents say another thing - unfortunately your parents will most likely be right. Older people usually are, and it's difficult to believe when you're young, but it will get truer and truer as you get older. Luckily I learned that when I was young, and it has NEVER led me astray. Don't be afraid to ask for and listen to their advice!

Remember it will get better.
In a way, it's very good that you feel bad. If you didn't, then you would be on your way too being a terrible person.
And it may feel like the world is ending, but in a year or two you will probably have a good laugh at the whole situation with your parents. My parents and I laugh at all the stuff I did when I was younger, because they know I've grown as a person and no longer act like that.

I hope that helps Funkiest Monkey.
I can't give you advice about moving to your Grandma's: maybe it is the right choice, maybe you are just running away from your problems. There is no way I could know.
I will pray for you though, if you don't mind.