God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

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Godhead

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Apologize non-stop and get your ass off the internet and do your best to make everything right. Don't run to your grandma until shit cools down. Take all of the spare cash you can muster and give it to your parents to try and pay for at least part of the damages. Don't wait for them to talk to this kind of stuff to you, take the initiative and do everything in your power to make things right. Even if it doesn't to much good in the short-run, it'll really help you out later.
 

Sikratua

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Funkiest Monkey said:
brunt32 said:
Pop down to your nan's house for a while give it a couple of days to sink in with your parents then come back and say sorry then it will all be cool.
This is my plan.
Words fail me on the level of stupidity this "plan" shows. From the sounds of everything I've read in this thread, your parents don't need to "come to their sense." You do. "I'm gonna run away, because my parents don't like me destroying their stuff, drinking heavily, and hiding drugs." Yes, that's exactly what you're saying.

Let me make this as close to crystal clear as possible. In your parents' eyes, everything that happened at their house during the time they were away is your fault. And, they aren't wrong. You decided to have people over. You decided to allow heavy drinking. You decided to store illegal drugs in their home. Had you shown even the most basic level of respect for your parents, or basic maturity, for that matter, all of this would have been avoided. This is your fault. Period.

Funkiest Monkey said:
Here's the funny part: I moved a metric fuck-ton of things into my parent's room so they wouldn't get damaged at all. My games consoles, my bass, all the ornaments and pictures... I did not anticipate a fire in the garden.
I would be genuinely willing to bet money that this is the worst part, in the eyes of your parents. Most likely, they inferred one thing from this fact. You knew that your friends were going to break shit beforehand, and had them in their house anyway. I also notice, from the wording, that the most important stuff you moved was your stuff. "Your" consoles. "Your" bass. Your parent's things were an afterthought to you.

Funkiest Monkey said:
Instinct Blues said:
Also probably cut back on the partying for a while
Well, maybe at my own house, yeah. But there's gonna be a hell of a lot of parties to attend this summer.
This tells me one thing. You learned absolutely nothing from this experience. I don't even know you, and I'M ashamed of you.

Frankly, if I were one of your parents, and you ran away from home immediately after destroying part of my house, I'd change the locks. Your parents aren't being unreasonable. You are. If you have an ounce repsect, for your parents or yourself, you will man the fuck up, and deal with what happened. Everyone gets one time in their lives to do something incredibly stupid. That party... That was your's. You don't get a second one, and running away from the lesson to be learned from this is fucking idiotic.
 

Canadamus Prime

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How about instead of running away, you take ownership of your actions and try and rectify the situation?
 

Glebd

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Xanadu84 said it well, im jsut pitching in my 2 cents.

:) Loving this topic. Serious, don't listen to half of these jackasses trying to guilt trip you. Have parties, enjoy your life, get with chicks, game and find yourself friends who will hold you down in a shitty situation and not these f*****g tools that you call friends.

The fact that you used your house as a place to party while your parents were gone is not a terrible move. When you're young that kind of shit is fun for sure. You just need to learn how to supervise the party which is the hardest part - it's all in self control. Don't forget to clean up after and repair or make things look like they were the same as they were before.

I love all these people who bash you for doing something stupid as if they were human incarnations of peace, justice and balance. We all did stupid sh*t when we were younger, it's just important to draw the line where stupid ends and retarded starts. I did tons of stupid things as a youngster and now I reminisce about those days, even though I still have a pretty active lifestyle.

Concerning weed, i did many other drugs and I don't regret it as long as you're smart about it. (hide your shit even if it's not yours). Just don't fall into bad habits and you'll be fine.

Don't run away to your grandmother, that wont solve the issue. It will just leave a bitter taste between you and your mom/stepdad for a while. time heals but you can always stitch the wounds faster. Buy her flowers or something that she likes, write a letter to your stepdad about how you feel and that you didn't want this to get out of hand plus the fact that you understand that you disappointed him and you want him to like you because you see that him and your mom have a good relationship and you're happy for your mom, etc. There are tons of things to say.

If you can, try to save up for a table and give them the money or not even enough for a table. just save up and give them money to show that you understand the value of things and this is the least you can do.
 

silent_noir_67

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Parties=fun!!
Parties at YOUR house=shitty because YOU'RE the one who has to stay sober and run around making sure shit doesn't hit the fan.

I agree with a lot of the other people here. You should pay off all the stuff that got damaged and I think you should probably continue to convince your parents that the weed wasn't yours. This'll eventually be water under the bridge but I'd probably take full responsibility for it and tell them you know you messed up etc. just to at least let them know you know you messed up .

Other than that I think that being extra nice to your parents for a fairly long time wouldn't hurt things either...

but most important...what did you learn? :p
 

Crashage

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You should wait until they're out, and clean that entire house from top to bottom, and give them money for the table. You should have done all of that before they ever came home. Leaving to go to granny's house makes you a coward as well as a dumbfuck. Be responsible and they will get over it
 

DavidTanis

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Sounds like you made the classic mistake of not cleaning up well and not being very clever about hiding things. When I say classic mistake I of course mean stupid mistake. And easily avoidable too. But I also think you should take responsibility for your actions.
 

Raddra

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Running away will only make it worse.

Apologize to them again and offer to work for them, chores and errands etc. Showing you're willing to work will show them you really mean it.
 

Caligulove

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If you're gonna host parties, you just need to be prepared for this stuff to happen, or learn from it, or plan better if you want to do more parties. Right now, all that happened really is all on you and your choices. Take your punishment and keep moving on, don't weasel out or try to skew things away from you. Fuck up sometimes. It happens.
 

NezumiiroKitsune

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So little sympathy for you it's difficult to express. From some of the more sincere responses I actually thought you'd done something terrible, and from the thread title I thought "oh shit, this guy needs help". How wrong I was.

Don't have secret parties where you invite a bunch of arseholes over and get wasted underage. Instead spend the time growing the fuck up. Don't offer to hold onto weed for someone unless it's your house, even then, think about who it is and why they're even asking. I can't even eloquently express how stupid all this is. (Ideally, don't hold onto weed.)

I can understand the banal irrationality of parents / step-parents, sometimes, but their response here seems fairly reasonable for how premature the news is, and how they discovered it. If you'd just fucking told them. The crass idiocy here is astounding. Hiding beer cans down the side of your bed. I DONT EVEN HAVE WORDS.

Here's what you should have done post-party. Told your parents, and refused to hold onto the weed (or thrown it out and payed him back, if you were too drunk to refuse), inform your "friends" they're all reprehensible twats and should have put some effort into helping you clean up rather than crawling home to feign sobriety. The guy who threw up should have cleaned up his own mess; you should have enforced that.

However having said that, you should have had the fucking forethought to not have the party in the first place.

Stay where you are, attempt to mend bridges, work on paying your mum and step-dad back (whatever this means), get better friends, work on that aforementioned growing up. If you think I'm preaching abstinence, utter sensibility and conservatism to you; I'm not.

Now why I'm so pissed off: because this problem is trivial. So you let your mum and step dad down? Everyone lets their loved ones down at some point. You feel bad, they get disappointed, but if this is seriously the worst thing you've ever done, and you generally get along, you'll get past it.
 

joemegson94

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Necromancer Jim said:
I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.
I hear that.

Personally, I use Team Fortress 2 to distract me from family problems. I'm not even kidding.
 

LT Cannibal 68

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how about selling all of your consoles, games and your bass that you stashed in their room so you can re buy that table? that will show them how sorry you are otherwise just suck it up and take the shame YOU fucked up big time and have to face the consequences of your actions.
 

Aesir23

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To be honest, it is your own fault. You could have just as easily not held the party or at the very least not have allowed alcohol. (OR drugs!) But you made the poor decision to do so and now you have to deal with the consequences. So swallow whatever pride you have, man up, apologize profusely to your parents and do what it takes to earn their trust back. Which will also VERY likely mean no parties for awhile. Running is likely only going to make things worse.

I mean, they trusted you enough to leave you alone for a week and expected you to be responsible. Then you went and pulled this stunt. A party with underage drinking where guests are also in possession of drugs? Of course they're going to be angry and disappointed.

That's just my two cents.

Funkiest Monkey said:
Instinct Blues said:
Also probably cut back on the partying for a while
Well, maybe at my own house, yeah. But there's gonna be a hell of a lot of parties to attend this summer.
...This will go NOWHERE to helping you get their trust back. Fuck, that's a step backwards!
 

Nalesnik

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What you fail to realize, OP, is that what you have experienced is the natural order of our human essence. As it was before in our fathers, and grandfathers time, so it shall be, in our children's and children's children's time. Educational institutes, religions, governments, higher authorities all have tried AND FAILED! to pervert this cycle. Yet... they continue their vain persistence, all in the meanwhile, KNOWING in their core that they are rebelling against their very nature. Sad individuals they are. And that's all they are; individuals. Not groups, or societies or any kind of organized movement; when their precious words and titles are stripped away, all they are left with is their own being. And they know, OH! they know, that that is all they are, but they still refuse to acknowledge its inherent value.

So I tell you OP; don't run away from the point where time-space intersects life, where the beautiful nature of our existence blooms forth spilling wherever it goes. Instead EMBRACE IT. Embrace it for what it is.
Now, OP, come dance with me! Dance the dance of life until our souls burn out within endless eternity!!
 

lacktheknack

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Funkiest Monkey said:
EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.
"Kinda disappointed"

You threw a DRUNKEN PARTY in THEIR HOUSE without THEIR PERMISSION.

What you NEED right now is a good slap, but since I doubt your parents will give you one, give it to yourself. YES, you fucked up, but good.

IMAGINE if your kid pulled this kind of crap. I'm sure you'd sit down and have a nice, heartwarming chat with him describing how there's no hard feelings... and your kid would IMMEDIATELY do it again.

You'd BETTER not hightail it, running away from the issue doesn't solve it, it just makes it worse. Man up and face the music. You brought this on yourself.

(I only reserve ALLCAPS for my most reserved of rants... be thankful the anti-jerk rules are in place.)