God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.
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Just take responsibility. As many people here have said, yeah, you screwed up. It's your fault. Honestly, this is the plot of at least one episode of every teen/college comedy show in existence; it should have been painfully obvious that this would happen. No offense, but yeah, you screwed up bad. So admit it. Take responsibility by apologizing for everything; not just "I'm sorry," but specifically apologizing for each thing you did wrong; messing up the house, having the party without telling them, breaking their trust, everything. Fessing up entirely and showing a sense of both remorse and determination to not do it again is the best way to deal with this.
And in the future, just have a LAN party. They're more fun, less destructive, and Mt. Dew is cheaper than alcohol.
And in the future, just have a LAN party. They're more fun, less destructive, and Mt. Dew is cheaper than alcohol.
own up, and get over it. Sucks but you know, drunk people can pretty much be trusted to do stupid ass things. Gotta just tell your parents your sorry as hell and that you wont do it again...
Don't listen to people telling you you're a bad person or you need to grow up, op. What they've failed to notice from way up on their high horses is that shit like this is a part of growing up. You made a bad decision; the weed, you let a situation get out of control; the party and you didn't plan ahead; the lack of cleanup. Of all the big mistakes you will make in your life these are probably the most trivial. Your parents will forgive you for fucking up but it's how you respond to this situation that will most dictate what they think of you. Bailing and making a dash for Granny's place... well it doesn't look good.
I was always a good daughter. Not that snooty-suck-up kind, either. I loved my Mother more than life itself, and always wanted to do right by her. Not so much my Father, but there you go. Therefore, my opinion of you is obviously going to be low.
I'd never do what you did. You fucked up, disrespected your family and your home, and now you should man up and deal. No sugar coating it, either. This shit is the stuff that will help you be a better fucking person. Don't run away from it just because you feel uncomfortable. You should go home, do chores religiously, mind your p's and q's, and be a damn adult. And apologize to your parents again, if you didn't already.
And don't pull that shit again! Wait until you have your own place, and then you can fuck that up.
I'd never do what you did. You fucked up, disrespected your family and your home, and now you should man up and deal. No sugar coating it, either. This shit is the stuff that will help you be a better fucking person. Don't run away from it just because you feel uncomfortable. You should go home, do chores religiously, mind your p's and q's, and be a damn adult. And apologize to your parents again, if you didn't already.
And don't pull that shit again! Wait until you have your own place, and then you can fuck that up.
this.AndyFromMonday said:
at any point in time you could've manned up and had the situation under your control, first off, only dumbasses who have shit like this happen have huge parties,( its basically a 90% chance if you have a big party, especially in high school, your ass will be fucked in some way or another by the situation in the near future) at most you should've had some well trusted friends over for some laughs, and thats about it, leave parties for college and when you become a responsible adult, and if shit like that happened your friends are fucking dickwads to not man up themselves for having that shit happen, granted you allowed it all to happen but i know if i did that and it was to one of my friends i'd feel like a piece of shit and do everything i could to repair or replace it.
if i were your parents i would facepalm too, they gave you some obviously misplaced trust and you, without giving a care or second thought in the world, smashed it back in there face pretty hard.
Well, I think that your parents were more concerned/scared by the weed than the table or the party itself. As mad as they might be right now, time heals most wounds, just give them some time to forgive you and obviously, you must apologize to them and behave for quite some time.
People makes huge mistakes and although it was pretty much your fault, the problem is not so big to justify your parents being mad at you for more than a couple of days.
People makes huge mistakes and although it was pretty much your fault, the problem is not so big to justify your parents being mad at you for more than a couple of days.
/thread.AndyFromMonday said:
Seriously, this about sums it up. Also, unless you have about the most jive grandma on the planet, I can't help but thing she's gonna give you an earfull as well.
Wait, wait, wait. The whole "throw a party while parents are out of town, random things happen, and parents find out" stuff? That's grade-A sitcom scenario.
Honestly, I'm surprised you didn't burst out into laughter when you realized what you got yourself into. I would if I found myself in such a stereotypical conundrum.
I don't think your parents are as angry as you think they are, or else I should wish them good luck with raising a teenager, because shit like this is predictable.
Things a thousand times worse has happened to teenagers like you. Also, you should never EVER regret something you can't change. It's a motto I've lived by and it's something that's worked out for me.
Honestly, I'm surprised you didn't burst out into laughter when you realized what you got yourself into. I would if I found myself in such a stereotypical conundrum.
I don't think your parents are as angry as you think they are, or else I should wish them good luck with raising a teenager, because shit like this is predictable.
Things a thousand times worse has happened to teenagers like you. Also, you should never EVER regret something you can't change. It's a motto I've lived by and it's something that's worked out for me.
Reminds me of a song.Necromancer Jim said:
Yeah, this is why I don't do big parties.
Sorry to say, guy, but it does sound like your fault.
Of course they're angry. However, if they love you, they'll forgive you and you can make it up to them. First: help get a new table. If you have money or if you have a job, help them buy a replacement table that the party destroyed.
And don't run - that would just make them madder. If you are sorry about what happened, then you need to talk to them about it.
If you like parties that much, consider throwing them in a place that DOESN'T contain things that they can easily damage. If they are willing to burn a table you own, I can't see how you could possibly consider them your friends. No friend of mine would ever randomly set fire to something - that's the actions of a lunatic. So yeah - consider getting new friends as well, or at the very least, don't invite them to your house. If they "dick around with lighters" you're pretty lucky it was only a TABLE that was burned, as opposed to, say, your HOUSE.
And don't run - that would just make them madder. If you are sorry about what happened, then you need to talk to them about it.
If you like parties that much, consider throwing them in a place that DOESN'T contain things that they can easily damage. If they are willing to burn a table you own, I can't see how you could possibly consider them your friends. No friend of mine would ever randomly set fire to something - that's the actions of a lunatic. So yeah - consider getting new friends as well, or at the very least, don't invite them to your house. If they "dick around with lighters" you're pretty lucky it was only a TABLE that was burned, as opposed to, say, your HOUSE.
Um...if you know its your fault. And you know that you should apologize and take responsibility...so why are you saying all this? No offence this is pretty bad and shitty but if you know all that you need to know why ask us?
Like everyone else here, it's your own fault for throwing a party when you know the consequences and what to expect afterwards.
I'm not a big party guy myself and I've been to a couple of my friend's parties and they can be pretty wild. The last one I been in was so loud, we had to be kicked out by both the hotel manager and the cops.
I hope after this, you'll never host another party again.
I'm not a big party guy myself and I've been to a couple of my friend's parties and they can be pretty wild. The last one I been in was so loud, we had to be kicked out by both the hotel manager and the cops.
I hope after this, you'll never host another party again.
Funniest comment of this thread.SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
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All the smart answers in this thread were taken...
You sir are the most sane person i have ever seen and i salute you in your antisocial ways.Necromancer Jim said:
Your parents are your parents, they'll get over it sooner or later and realize they did the same exact shit when they were your age. You've tried apologizing, so it's up to them to get over it.
I don't know how your family operates, but if this happened to me, and my parents were that stubborn, I'd stay out of their way. Your grandma's house sounds like a solid idea. If they ask you what the hell you're doing, let them know they've made it clear to you they need some time away from you.
Also, I'm not preaching to you here, unlike some people in this thread who are riding their high horses proclaiming you a failure. Do what you think you should do, I'm just offering you some advice.
I don't know how your family operates, but if this happened to me, and my parents were that stubborn, I'd stay out of their way. Your grandma's house sounds like a solid idea. If they ask you what the hell you're doing, let them know they've made it clear to you they need some time away from you.
Also, I'm not preaching to you here, unlike some people in this thread who are riding their high horses proclaiming you a failure. Do what you think you should do, I'm just offering you some advice.
Okay, here's the best way to fix this.
First of all, don't go moving out until it blows over. Stay there, give your parents some space, but don't try to run away from your problems. For the next few months, don't even think of talking back to them. Do as much work around the house as possible. Triple your job hunting efforts (apply everywhere, even if you don't want to work at, say, McDonalds) and pay for the damages. Do not go to another party for the rest of the summer...right now, you need to show them that you can be responsible, and continuing to party would give the opposite impression. This is not going to be a fun Summer, but rebuilding your parents' trust is far more important than taking another opportunity to get drunk.
And never, ever, hold onto drugs for someone >_>
First of all, don't go moving out until it blows over. Stay there, give your parents some space, but don't try to run away from your problems. For the next few months, don't even think of talking back to them. Do as much work around the house as possible. Triple your job hunting efforts (apply everywhere, even if you don't want to work at, say, McDonalds) and pay for the damages. Do not go to another party for the rest of the summer...right now, you need to show them that you can be responsible, and continuing to party would give the opposite impression. This is not going to be a fun Summer, but rebuilding your parents' trust is far more important than taking another opportunity to get drunk.
And never, ever, hold onto drugs for someone >_>