God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[EGtodd09]

You trashed your parents' house, if I were them I'd kick you out in 2 seconds flat and wouldn't give you anything that isn't legally yours that you paid for with your job earnings. I'll probably get a warning for this but seriously man, can you not see how much of a dick you are? Show some respect to your parents and their authority after all they've done for you. Don't feel welcome in your home? OK well firstly, it's your parents' home, and secondly, you probably don't feel welcome because you aren't welcome after what you did. At least you realise you fucked up, but you don't seem to understand the appropriate solution which is just don't be a dick.

 

[LaBarnes]

This was bad and you should feel bad!

 

[theguitarhero6]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

Agreed 100% absolutely. I know my quoting this wasn't very helpful, but he took the words right from my mouth.

 

[LoFr3Eq]

My brother and I had a massive party when out parents were away, but we weren't stupid and invited only about 100 people (more came anyway). we kept everything under control and didn't get too wasted ourselves.

I think that it comes down to the fact the New Zealanders are just better drinkers than the rest of the world.

 

[Kinokohatake]

If I were you, sit down, talk to the family, offer to do anything to fix it or make up for it. But running to grandmas and acting like it never happened, bad idea indeed.

 

[The Apothecarry]

This is precisely why I don't go to or host parties without prior permission. I suppose I never experienced parties like this considering I grew up in a rural area where all of my closest friends were 30 minutes in any direction.

Give it time and your parents will be laughing about it. A VERY LONG TIME, but still. It's in the past and can't be fixed, so why worry about it (except for the table you speak of).

 

[Not G. Ivingname]

Snip

This turn of events gives your "drunk Fry" avatar a tinge of tragic irony, doesn't it?

 

[Charli]

Hate to be THAT person but... you'll get over it and so will they.

It's just one of those things, from the sound of it you are young.

We've all done it. Even your parents. Eventually it'll blow over and you have learned never to let your dumbass friends do stupid things in your home. It's a good lesson to learn really.

I had a BBQ one time that almost went sour too.

 

[Jodah]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

Agree with the first point. Not so much the second but hey thats neither here nor therte. Could be my parents were more open about it but I just got done with a shindig at my place. Had fireworks (for Independence Day) alcohol, drinking games, etc. The trick is to remain sober enough to stop the really stupid shit. IE my friend who was totally ham mered was gunna drive home. OI made him get a ridee instead. The minor stuff, (like the only sober one in the bunch setting a bunch of roman candles pointed at us by accident) slides and the majhpr stuff doesnt happen.

 

[Jaime_Wolf]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

On a more serious note:
(1) Tell them the weed is honestly not yours. Hell, if you don't do it and they won't believe you, go grab a $5 drug test from the nearest drugstore and prove it. It's pretty damn easy.
(2) Seriously consider who you should invite to parties in the future. Beer cans and vomit are one thing, destruction of property is another. If you have friends who do stupid shit like light things on fire when they party, especially when it's reasonably clear that the things in question aren't even things you yourself own, they shouldn't be at your parties. Find friends who actually know how to party.
(3) Beer and vomit are easy to clean up and shouldn't leave any marks (don't know how to clean vomit effectively? Google is your friend). Your parents shouldn't even have known about either of those things. It's not just about more effective duplicity, it's about being responsible enough to clean up thoroughly after things like this.
(4) Leaving like that is probably the worst thing you could possibly do to smooth things over.
(5) Have you tried, you know, apologizing?

 

[SpireOfFire]

yeah, you fucked up. but running away from ur parents and hiding at ur grandma's place isnt going to fix anything and its not going to right any wrongs. you have no1 to blame but urself. this is life, its full of mistakes, regrets and sooner or later we all fuck up big and you, like the rest of us, will have to face the consequences of our actions and choices. running and hiding is for cowards. stand ur ground like a man (or woman), own up to ur actions and face the consequences whatever they may be.

who knows, you might get lucky. ur parents might just forgive you, leave it all in the past, and as long as you learn from your mistakes, this will never happen again.

and if you like parties so damn much, party at some1 elses house.

 

[adragonofgold]

Step 1-Apologize alot. Step 2- Pay for what was damaged if you dont have a job or money... sell some of your stuff. Step 3-Don't do it again. Step 4- Don't hold drugs for people. Step 5-Dont run off to grandma's she doesnt need her house trashed either.

 

[2012 Wont Happen]

One, running away isn't going to help.
Two, haha, could've seen that coming a mile away.
Three, as said above, just apologize and work to compensate for damaged things
Four, as for your question, I wouldn't be in this situation in the first place due to being straight edge and also realizing that, even if I weren't, it would be a shit idea to let all my asshole friends over while my parents were gone.

 

[Bleedingskye]

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

I'm not gunna speculate on how old you are, it's not that important, but this is something most kids gotta go through with their parents. You HAVE to disappoint them at some point, and you have to get caught doing stupid shit at some point.
As long as your parents aren't ready to ship you to a boarding school or the military, I wouldn't worry too much, work on gaining back their confidence. It seems that you care enough about it to learn a few lessons. They're your parents(well 1/2 I guess), they'll understand and get over it.
Just be ready for them to give you massive amounts of shit anytime they can bring it up in the future.
Taking some time away ain't too bad an idea, just don't make it seem like your running away from the problem.

Also plan on tooling on your douchebag friends who didn't care enough to keep themselves in check.

 

[captaincabbage]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

Well this should have been an /thread right there.

OT: It is entirely your fault. At a party where you are the caretaker of the home, every person there is your responsibility. Also, why'd you hold the weed for that guy? what the fuck? Why wouldn't you just tell him to take it somewhere else? Grow a bloody backbone.

 

[Konatacalypse]

When has throwing a party while people are away ever turned out okay? Hasn't TV taught us anything?

Ninja'd

Apologize for the shit you fucked up, pay for the shit you fucked, and learn from this experience. It's all you can do after you fuck up like that.

 

[Sacman]

Damn, that was stupid...<.<

There was no way that was gonna end well it's just kind of... you know completely obvious that having a house party with a bunch of drunken idiots is gonna end badly...<.<

 

[Oliver Pink]

What would I do?

I wouldn't have had the party. Alcohol isn't my thing, big parties aren't my thing... I'd have had maybe four friends over, and we'd have been playing Poker or something.

 

[helmutlord]

Wow, thanks everyone for posting the same 3 or 4 bits of advice.

Now if only we could get a few more people to copy/paste the same "it's your fault/apologise/man up/pay for it" post, we might drive the point home.

 

[MapTa]

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

I feel exactly the same way. While it is your fault, things like this happen as you're growing up. Eventually, things will get better, you just have to be patient.