Yeah I don't think it mattes whether you meet someone in a bar, on the internet, in a cave, wherever. I reckon if you enter a relationship there's always the same chance it'll work or go tits up, however you met.VanityGirl said:
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He needs to broaden his mind. Right now it's a narrow corridor, at the end of which is said *****. He needs to spear tackle her and continue down the corridor, in the process meeting some of the many women in the world that are fucking awesome and WORTH it; eventually he will come to the end of the corridor, which has considerably widened from his memorable experiences with women and friends and life in general. He will, in one instance, look back to the girl he couldn't get over and still didn't, and despair will overtake him; in another instance, he will reflect upon all of his experiences, bad and good, and smile, not a trace of memory of said ***** in his mind to plague him.
Yes, when you get into a relationship with someone and you have that whole butterflies love feeling it's common to spend more time with your significant other and ditch your friends, partly because you think "this is my girlfriend, she's more important" and partially because you want to please her so much. I speak from experience 
Personally, I don't go back to failed relationships, because really, what's the point? People don't really change, and all the reasons you broke up are probably still there, and if you did it once it's likely it'll happen again, and even if you break up, that means you don't have a perfect relationship. But then again I know tons of people who break up with their significant others and then go back again. This is because they still have some feelings for them and because it's familiar territory. You don't have to put in all the work into creating a new relationship, and it feels comfortable.
As for why he's going with a 2 with 2 kids, there could be various reasons why. It's not based on hotness, it's based on attraction. I've met plenty of girls who I would never date or sleep with but have gotten me hot for one reason or another. It might be that she has similar interests to him (eg; XBL) and he thinks that he'll never find a "good looking" girl who's as geeky as he is, so he's settling.
So basically, he's being lazy. Introduce him to some cute girl gamer and pull him away from that black hole!
Personally, I don't go back to failed relationships, because really, what's the point? People don't really change, and all the reasons you broke up are probably still there, and if you did it once it's likely it'll happen again, and even if you break up, that means you don't have a perfect relationship. But then again I know tons of people who break up with their significant others and then go back again. This is because they still have some feelings for them and because it's familiar territory. You don't have to put in all the work into creating a new relationship, and it feels comfortable.
As for why he's going with a 2 with 2 kids, there could be various reasons why. It's not based on hotness, it's based on attraction. I've met plenty of girls who I would never date or sleep with but have gotten me hot for one reason or another. It might be that she has similar interests to him (eg; XBL) and he thinks that he'll never find a "good looking" girl who's as geeky as he is, so he's settling.
So basically, he's being lazy. Introduce him to some cute girl gamer and pull him away from that black hole!
Depends how strong the sexual attraction is. Do not underestimate the power of sexual attraction.VanityGirl said:
I know a girl who is not very emotionally mature, and we've been together and broken up twice because of her "issues" which has really hurt me, and now I avoid her like the plague, but if she sent me an SMS saying "please take me back" I'd be over at her house undressing her before you could say "I can see that you have made the wrong decision here". Why? Because she's adorable like no-one else on earth (in my eyes anyway) and that counts for a lot. I'd fully go back into the situation expecting it to eventually fail though, I'd be under no "together forever" illusions (although if it DID work, that would be nice). But I'd still do it because life is short and why waste a chance to get with someone incredibly hot who is basically just saying "come and get me". If it messes up I can just go out with someone else later.
(I didn't meet her on XBox Live though, I only ever thought people were rude to each other on that thing. I guess you can meet people anywhere...)
Don't worry, the guy will probably get his heart stomped on again and he will learn the hard way. Often it's the only way to learn in that situation. Or... maybe things will work out this time, you never know. Just keep an eye on it and if you care about him let him know you're there for him if things go bad I guess.
Long story short-
We men are masochists when it comes to hormones/love/females. We can't get enough. If a girl you like starts talking to you, etc. etc. then curb stomps your face, but a couple weeks later wants to get back together, the man will undoubtobly do so. We're just like that. And it sucks.
We men are masochists when it comes to hormones/love/females. We can't get enough. If a girl you like starts talking to you, etc. etc. then curb stomps your face, but a couple weeks later wants to get back together, the man will undoubtobly do so. We're just like that. And it sucks.
While its understandable that romantic pursuits are a personal need for nearly everyone, it's no reason to ignore one's friends, as romance does not in any way replace friendship.
Upon meeting a new girl that I'm starting to date, I'd explain to my friends that I'm going to be taking some days out of our usual hang time to make time for her, and that should be understandable. If it isn't, then they're misunderstanding your interests- the best way to remedy that is to have a clear-up talk. Everyone has the right to distribute their time as they wish, and friends should be able to accommodate. If you give shit to your buddy for seeing a girl, you aren't being a bro. Bros help bros out. That's like the 4th commandment of the Brocode, or something
Friends that ignore you for a flick or a bit of romance are, I think, usually unappreciative of the true value of friendship. Beyond that, you should check if your value of your mutual friendship matches theirs, so that you are both on the same page. Chances are, if this disagreement exists, that you are not. That's just miscommunication- maybe you didn't know what the guy actually wanted from your friendship, or how important he considers you as a friend.
Upon meeting a new girl that I'm starting to date, I'd explain to my friends that I'm going to be taking some days out of our usual hang time to make time for her, and that should be understandable. If it isn't, then they're misunderstanding your interests- the best way to remedy that is to have a clear-up talk. Everyone has the right to distribute their time as they wish, and friends should be able to accommodate. If you give shit to your buddy for seeing a girl, you aren't being a bro. Bros help bros out. That's like the 4th commandment of the Brocode, or something
Friends that ignore you for a flick or a bit of romance are, I think, usually unappreciative of the true value of friendship. Beyond that, you should check if your value of your mutual friendship matches theirs, so that you are both on the same page. Chances are, if this disagreement exists, that you are not. That's just miscommunication- maybe you didn't know what the guy actually wanted from your friendship, or how important he considers you as a friend.
I'm gonna go against the flow and go a little easy on the guy.VanityGirl said:
Very recently I was in a similar situation. Girl (Friend. Not girlfriend.) very close to me plays around with my emotions, uses me,(Quite literally. She even admitted it!) pushes me out of her life and moves to another city. (Though moving away had nothing to do with me. School.) Needless to say I was pissed and pretty hurt.
A few weeks after she moved I got a text message from her saying she misses me. I decided to take the high road and forgive her. Anger and resentment have never served me well. So far, she and I get along like nothing ever happened. We're actually closer than we were before.
What I'm saying is that maybe there's more to this situation than just sex and looks. I have a strong feeling he really cares for her. Probably loves her. Love makes guys do crazy, stupid things like go back to and forgive a girl who screwed you over and used you.
Ignoring your friends is a total douche move and he needs to be know that. How old is this guy anyway? I can understand ignoring your friends because of a girl when you're younger. I've done it myself. But it's something you learn not to do. If you have time to meet people on XBL then you have time for both friends and a girl. If you don't have time for both, why throw away friends for a chance, a chance, at a lasting relationship?VanityGirl said:
I can relate to the guy and I may even know what he's feeling but I grew up and learned how to treat my friends as friends.
When the "girl" would have revealed that she had TWO kids i would have jumped so far away with a shrieking "EEEK".
Really... that says a lot. If she had ONE kid... ok, maybe... but two? Also: she clearly chose another one over the guy. That means he will never be first choice (or close to). The relationship will never be good. I would not begin anything with her.
Really... that says a lot. If she had ONE kid... ok, maybe... but two? Also: she clearly chose another one over the guy. That means he will never be first choice (or close to). The relationship will never be good. I would not begin anything with her.
I've sadly taken back a girl who has wronged me in the past. Guys fall victim to feelings as well.
That really isn't a shocker, guys can do pretty weird stuff when it comes to girls. However, going back to someone that hurt you on an emotional level?. I dunno, personally I wouldn't invest any time on the matter but this GUY in particular may see something that makes him feel like this girl is worth the time and effort.
As for the guy ignoring his friends, well that's quite common when a girl is concerned but then again the "ignoring" depends on if it is a total lack of communication or just spending less time. If it is the latter then that's pretty much the norm, if it is the former then it's probably a sign of mad infatuation.
As for the guy ignoring his friends, well that's quite common when a girl is concerned but then again the "ignoring" depends on if it is a total lack of communication or just spending less time. If it is the latter then that's pretty much the norm, if it is the former then it's probably a sign of mad infatuation.
Realistically?VanityGirl said:
Very very normal I'm afraid. Because "This time she's learned".(sic)
