Guys are jerks. But girls...?

[HerbertTheHamster]

men insult one another, but they don't really mean it

women compliment one another, but they don't really mean it either

 

[MetaKnight670]

Yes, girls can most certainly be "jerks".
Just got another dose with my most recent ex.
Everyone can be jerks though.

 

[similar.squirrel]

Equality, people. The capacity to do not-so-nice things has got nothing to do with your chromosomes. Men and women go about it differently, but it all boils down to the same thing.

 

[artanis_neravar]

I'm starting this because I'm honestly curious...In my own experience, the asshole trait is found in both guys and girls. Guys are more upfront about it, girls are more subtle. So here's my question for you guys, have you ever had a GIRL mistreat you? We all know those stereotypical stories of guys mistreating women, so I want to know if I'm not the only one that's been mistreated by women.

Just to clarify, I was encouraged to do this through this image:

Spoiler

My ex dumped me for reasons that still have me a little fucked up more then a year latter, and i know she still bitches about me because I stopped talking to her.

Also: "People are bastard coated bastards with bastard filling"

 

[Xeraxis]

This is what you see. Both sides are equal dicks, but thanks to double standards, it's always portrayed as guys more often. Girls who say that guys are dicks probably say so because the one "hawt" guy shes been chasing denied her or something similar in that situation, yet ignores what the friend has done for her for so long, albeit in a creepy way. I honestly don't have a complete answer for this type of thing, but all in all...

At the end of the day, people are dicks.

Pretty much this.

 

[Liudeius]

I agree fully.

My last girlfriend was a misandrist, she once even said "I think women are better than men PERIOD. And men will soon be reduced to the position formerly occupied by women."
I took it to be an exaggeration, but looking back, she was a complete "dick," and it would not be hard to believe that the way she acted was because she thought of men as complete inferiors who's only use was physical enjoyment.

 

[ObsidianJones_v1legacy]

Sure, assholes can be either gender but eh... that girl in the FaceBook comment doesn't sound like that much of a jerk, sounds more like "Toby" is a creepy stalker. If you ask someone out and they aren't interested, then you back off and look else-where, following them around and showering gifts onto them isn't going to suddenly make them like you.

Actually I have an opposite spin. Toby doesn't come out smelling like Roses, but taking advantage of people willingly and often is a classic dick move. There's a limit to determination, this guy should have called it quits a while ago. But if you validate someone by taking things from them even if you don't care, you really don't have a leg to stand on.

 

[ChaoticKraus]

No doubt in the fact that both guys and girls can be assholes. I've never had a girl fuck with me though. But i have seen many people i know screwed over by manipulative women.

I actually don't think anyones been a jerk to me openly since i was 14 or something. Sure some people have subtly insulted me but i generally don't care about that.

Also, that guy on facebook is creepy as hell. Take a hint dude.

 

[stefanbertramlee]

I prefer when girls are dicks, less chance of being punched in the face that way.

I don't know...
Girl jerks tend to like backstabbing. And last time I checked, a punch to the face is a bit less fatal than knives in the back. Plus, at least I can see the punches coming and know who's throwing it.

OT: Not really mistreated, but I after a breakup with this girl she would call me up out the blue to tell me shes dating someone new. Then called me a few weeks later to tell me she broke up with them. So I moved 3 states and 200 miles away HAHA.

This happened to me once.
I've never understood why she thinks that I would want to know. The two possible results are that I would be hurt or that I wouldn't give a fuck, neither of which are particularly desirable.

But yeah, people are terrible. Though I have to say that I prefer male jerks more than female ones, because female ones are more subtle and sneaky.
It's like choosing between a pirate nemesis or ninja nemesis. They're both badass and can easily ruin me, but at least I can see the pirate coming.

It's harder to talk your way out of something when you have a broken jaw .

 

[SilentCom]

I think the better description is "human beings can be dicks."

 

[JasonKaotic]

Yeah. There's a girl that pretty much ruined me. Not a girlfriend, just a complete waste of life. But I don't ever have to see her now that I've finished school, so hey!

 

[Zaik]

Pretty common.

The only problem I ever had with it is women are often encouraged to be jerks by society and defended afterward, while guys are not.

I don't even need to make any examples, responses in this thread are plenty enough.

Sounds to me like a girl taking mild advantage of an extremely obsessed stalker type. But then again, I've met stalkers who can't take a hint from being beaten up and left in an alley by the person they stalk.

"IN YEAR 10 I BROKE INTO YOUR ROOM AND STOLE SOME HAIR FROM YOUR BRUSH SO I COULD PUT IT IN MY SHRINE AND YOU CALLED THE POLICE OMG WHY U SUCH A *****"

Anyway.. to be honest, not really. There are always assholes, of course, but on the whole I've run into far more obnoxious/dickish men.

Although in that picture that guy comes across as a bit of a stalker, so I don't blame that girl for trying to avoid him

There's plenty of evidence right there. It wasn't creepy stalkerish nonsense, he was being strung along the entire time. Naive? Yes. Stalker? Hardly.

He wasn't really being strung along, the girl binned his valentine cards and basicaly gave him a massive fuck you. Yeh she's being a dick, but I think he could have got the hint, that this girl isn't all that into him.

Obviously I don't know that entire situation, but from how that guy put it, it just makes him seem like he has some sort of scary obsession with her.

Also I think it was a bit harsh to blame your problems with women on 'jerks' and then call me and 2 other people 'jerks'

"My problems with women"? I never mentioned any problems I had with women specifically, I have an issue with it being viewed as acceptable or even ideal for women to behave that way.

You're such a knee jerking white knight that you are jumping at shadows. Why do that?

 

[JoJo]

Sure, assholes can be either gender but eh... that girl in the FaceBook comment doesn't sound like that much of a jerk, sounds more like "Toby" is a creepy stalker. If you ask someone out and they aren't interested, then you back off and look else-where, following them around and showering gifts onto them isn't going to suddenly make them like you.

Actually I have an opposite spin. Toby doesn't come out smelling like Roses, but taking advantage of people willingly and often is a classic dick move. There's a limit to determination, this guy should have called it quits a while ago. But if you validate someone by taking things from them even if you don't care, you really don't have a leg to stand on.

She took advantage of him once only (with the tickets), in Year 10 which means she was either 14 or 15, after he had been bugging her since Year 7. No-one's perfect and certainly not when they're a early teen. Sure, she shouldn't have accepted the tickets but all of us have made mistakes in the past and I personally would be annoyed with someone if they hadn't got the message after coming onto me for three years. I'm not going to judge her to be a jerk by one mistake at that age.

 

[targren]

Yeah. Guys can be dicks.

Women, on the other hand, are just fucking evil.

 

[The Great JT]

Everyone is a bastard to everyone. There.

To quote the wise Foamy, "everybody sucks! All the time!"

 

[The Gnome King]

Although in that picture that guy comes across as a bit of a stalker, so I don't blame that girl for trying to avoid him

She was trying to avoid him while accepting his gifts?

Wow. Must be a girl thing. When I'm trying to avoid somebody, I don't accept gifts from them. I tell them to stay away from me.

 

[Slash Dementia]

Louis CK had an opinion on the matter.

?Here?s the difference, to me, between boys and girls: Boys fuck things up; Girls are fucked up. That?s the difference. Boys just do damage to your house that you can measure in dollars, like a hurricane. Girls, like, leave scars in your psyche that you find later, like a genocide or an atrocity? That?s the difference between boys and girls. And it becomes the difference between men and women, really. A man will, like, steal your car or burn your house down or beat the shit out of you, but a woman will ruin your fuckin? life. Do you see the difference? Like, a man will cut your arm off and throw it in a river, but he?ll leave you as a human being intact. He won?t fuck with who you are. Women are nonviolent, but they will shit inside of your heart.?

That was amazing when I watched it. And I find truth in that.

I get really annoyed when I see messages like the one in the first post. It's just generalizing, and even people with boyfriends agree with them. No one offers any advice other than "yeah" or something stupid. There's the occasional guy who tries to reason, but I've only seen that person get ganged up on for not "sympathizing" or knowing the whole story.

Both guys and girls can be unreasonable and immature, and well "dicks" as you say. Everyone can be.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Sure, assholes can be either gender but eh... that girl in the FaceBook comment doesn't sound like that much of a jerk, sounds more like "Toby" is a creepy stalker. If you ask someone out and they aren't interested, then you back off and look else-where, following them around and showering gifts onto them isn't going to suddenly make them like you.

Actually I have an opposite spin. Toby doesn't come out smelling like Roses, but taking advantage of people willingly and often is a classic dick move. There's a limit to determination, this guy should have called it quits a while ago. But if you validate someone by taking things from them even if you don't care, you really don't have a leg to stand on.

She took advantage of him once only (with the tickets), in Year 10 which means she was either 14 or 15, after he had been bugging her since Year 7. No-one's perfect and certainly not when they're a early teen. Sure, she shouldn't have accepted the tickets but all of us have made mistakes in the past and I personally would be annoyed with someone if they hadn't got the message after coming onto me for three years. I'm not going to judge her to be a jerk by one mistake at that age.

He is probably cutting out what would really make her a jerk, the parts where she actually led him on. Chances are when she took the tickets she made some comment about how much she appreciates everything he does (blah blah blah). Just saying we don't have the full picture, probably because this guy cut out the real manipulations from the girl that kept him coming back and doing/giving things for/to her.

In my freshmen year of College (America) I told a girl that I liked her, the first girl I had every told that to, after months of flirting on both our sides and she told me she needed to think about it. A little more then a month latter, after still flirting with me the entire time, she told me she wasn't interested. The next day I log onto Facebook to find that she was in a relationship, and the notification was published the day she told me she wasn't interested. She didn't even have the courtesy to tell me to my face that she was dating someone else. Turns out she had met the guy the day I told her I liked her and was keeping me as some kind of backup. I basically told her to fuck off and cut her out of my life. Not sure how this relates to what I was saying earlier, I kind of forgot how I was going to connect the two.