Have you ever "got" the girl/guy?

[Dege84]

I did, and was very surprised it actually happened at the time, I remember beeing affraid of the outcome. Thankfully she shared my feelings and we've been together for 2 years. Alas... we didn't have the chance to see if it would have worked out, the most beautiful years of my life ended in tragedy. I'll just say that she isn't anymore among us... Thank you for helping me remember the best years of my life, not that I ever forget them...

 

[Wyes]

I recently told a girl I liked how I felt about her.
We'd been going to college together for about 3 months now and because of some stuff that happened it had been just me and her for almost 2 of those 3 months (lots of drop outs and a small class to start with). So we became friends, I'd tried to make myself clear that I was smitten with her but she never really picked up on it.
One day before she leaves college I stop her and in some pathetic attempt to be romantic tell her that I love her, think she's beautiful and I want to be with her. I get an "Ok, er... I have to go now" and come in the next day expecting an answer of sorts. She doesn't speak to me the whole day and it's not until I get home that she starts texting me about how she doesn't like me in that way, never will and that I should get over it.
I lost a lot of respect for her that she couldn't say that to my face when I'd made the effort, but I understood that it was awkward for her. What I don't understand is why she is insanely angry at me and won't talk to me even though she was the one who told me to get over it. I also don't understand why I'm still crazy about her even after all that and truth be told, that annoys me the most.

So to answer the question: No, I haven't gotten the girl.

I'm sorry but... this is not romantic!
Why is she angry at you? Because you put her in a very awkward situation.
Movies and books have this horrible tendency to teach people that they need to make grand gestures to win the object of their affection, the truth is that these gestures will most likely just make people label you as a lunatic. You make the grand gestures after you're already in the relationship, and have been for a while.

But back to the awkward situation; it is awkward when someone you're not interested in expresses interest in you, pretty much always. However, the awkwardness can be minimised. This is why people do the dating thing first, and start with stuff like 'Hey, you wanna go out to dinner sometime or something?'. For one thing, it doesn't make them feel trapped, you're not cornering them, they have plenty of ways out of it, and it's a lot more casual. Just blurting out you're madly in love with someone is not romantic, it's creepy. Sure, you might be, but keep that to yourself until you're both comfortable with the idea (pro-tip: it might take a while).


And now OT:
I didn't really have to 'fight' for her as such, she was already interested in me, as well as a couple of other guys, I just happened to be the one who actually asked her out. I did have to deal with one of my other (very much more attractive and older) friends hitting on her constantly when I'd organised stuff to hang out with her with a group of friends, but in the end she turned him down and accepted me. So yeah.

 

[Chris Barber]

There were two women I'd say I pursued for a long period of time. One I met shortly after moving away from home at the age of 17. I turned 18 and met her at a friend's birthday party. I was a very timid person; but was instantly so drawn to her that I forced myself to talk with her and somehow managed to ask her to dinner. We started spending time together. And when it came time to tell her I was interested in her she informed me that she thought I was "Too Young". Mind you she had been out on her own longer than me and I was, well, very bad at it. Frustrating outcome, but we remained close friends.

I end up dating someone else for about two years. After our relationship ends (because my girlfriend stabbed me; which is a fun story in and of itself. Needless to say she had issues). The birthday girl and girl who had rejected me earlier ended up as roomies and so when Birthday Girl invited me to hang out with them in an effort to comfort me over the loss of my relationship we ended up all staying up super late and talking. And drinking. Which isn't something I ever normally do but the loss of a two year relationship was enough to convince me otherwise for once.

After birthday girl went to bed I somehow ended up sleeping with my friend. I really can't recall how it happened. I know we stayed up into the wee hours of the morning playing video games on the PS2 together and then random sex go. The next morning we sort of decided to keep on going with our friendship as though it hadn't happened. And another three or so years passed.

Eventually she ended up severely injuring herself on a ski trip and needed surgery on her knee. Recovering from said surgery was a long process and she needed help getting around the house, getting groceries, running errands and all that fun stuff. And since I was between jobs at the time I offered my assistance and stayed with her, sleeping on the couch and tending to her while she slowly recovered. During this process we obviously had a lot of time together and grew even closer. Eventually while I was helping her into bed one night she said something to the effect of "I should have said yes when you asked me out all those years ago." And I replied that there was still time. And we began our relationship proper with another bout of super random sex. Although I remember I was super worried about further injuring her; it was still a great time for both of us. And clearly neither of us wanted to wait a second longer.

It only took like five years to happen.

 

[Drtfgf5]

Well I messed up like the best majority of a relationship with the opposite sex...
Forever-alone.jpg.
I tend to keep to myself mostly.

 

[Sandernista]

To be honest, my girlfriend fought for me. She had a crush on me through most of our freshman year; me, being the completely oblivious idiot I am, never noticed. She worked hard at for a long time and it eventually got me. And we've been together for a good two years now.

 

[Jedoro]

10th grade, my best girl friend started dating one of our friends while I liked her. They broke up, we hung out alone a few times, and I finally just said it. She felt the same way, we dated for eight months, I broke it off for a reason that hindsight tells me was fucking retarded, and the rest of high school I couldn't get over her. The summer after we graduated, I just moved on. Never been as happy as I was with her, but our time's gone.

I regret nothing.

 

[chaos order]

I was discussing this with my friends the other day.

We have all had crushes but we either:
a) Mess it up or
b) Never do anything about it (mainly me because I?m a wimp when it comes to girls)

We have all met our ex-/girlfriends when we're in a nightclub and 90% of the time we're also drunk. Never has there been a girl in my life that I properly had to "fight" for.

SO have you ever had a happy ending and worked your ass off to get the girl or guy you had a crush on?

I wanna read some happy stories here people! =D

i have never had a girlfriend or have been on a date for that matter. solely because of reason #2

 

[mercifulwrath]

No.

 

[BonsaiK]

We have all met our ex-/girlfriends when we're in a nightclub and 90% of the time we're also drunk. Never has there been a girl in my life that I properly had to "fight" for.

SO have you ever had a happy ending and worked your ass off to get the girl or guy you had a crush on?

Yes.

Once I saw a girl in a pub tat I liked, she was talking to somebody, I pointed her out to a friend of mine and said "See that girl there? She's mine, soon". Friend was like "whatever". It took a few weeks, but eventually I made it happen. Later she dumped me, so I devised a plan to get her back - and I did. Then she dumped me a second time. Oh well, fun while it lasted.

My current girlfriend I didn't even have to fight for. I saw her, decided she was hot, and she was obviously thinking the same thing about me because we were kissing within less than a minute of meeting each other for the first time. Still together over a year later.

So there's some good news for you. Cheer up - good things happen.

 

[SangRahl]

Professed my crush to my at-the-time engaged, best non-male-friend after high school. She admitted to the same.
Within a month after that, said engagement was off, and we were seeing each other. Now, it's 17 years later, we've been married for 10 years of that, and we have two wonderful children that constantly remind us how lucky we are... that we can hold our tempers so well. Heheheh.

So, yes, I think I could put my name (and I suppose hers, as well) on to the list.

 

[Vangaurd227]

.....well....almost......no i'v never gotten the girl/guy

 

[Woeps]

Sometimes I do get the girl and sometimes not. But when things don't work out then don't forget that you at least tried and then after a move along

 

[Blow_Pop]

unfortunately no. As pretty as everyone tells me I am apparently I drive away the guys I'm attracted to. Though for a good 6 months I did get to date a very attractive red head with DDs....mmm she was yummy ;] still friends with her too

 

[jumb]

Yep.

This was the only time I've ever met a girl and thought "She has to be mine." I chased her pretty hard and ended up getting her in the end.

We've since broken up (>2yrs together) but a few months later got in contact. Lately, we've been hanging out as well as "hanging out".

 

[Leole]

Yep, my first crush and girlfriend actually.

I spent a year totally crushed over her, then I finally come up to her and tell her, and she's like "Wha- you serious? Well, I don't feel the same way, sorry".

I get real depressed for a week or so, then I convince myself "Fuck her, she doesn't know what she's missing, move on", and so I did.

But little did I know, a month later, SHE had a crush on ME. I waited a few weeks just to be sure, then I came up to her, again, and this time she was like "Yeah ".

And [small]then we broke up [sub]one month later.

What? You were expecting a happy ending?[/sub][/small]

 

[Dark Knifer]

Eventually yes, after I decided to be direct, she agreed to go out. It was a bit difficult at first because she had to sought out her feelings for me but she got passed that eventually and now it's one of the best relationships I've every seen with lot's a love and compassion etc. My advice to those in a situation where they have a crush. Ask them out, see what they say. If yes then be cautious and don't try to be too overwhelming. Give it time.

That's just in my experience but that sure as hell worked for me so it could be useful but depends on the individuals. Hope that helps.

EDIT: Also my first crush and Girlfriend and hers to. Seems highly improbable yes but that's how it happened.

 

[Ratlover]

Happened to get emo and goth chicks more than anything else. Everytime I see a women in thigh high boots, pink hair, stupid looking tight T-shirt with a bleeding heart on it, I know I am in like flin.

 

[Fraeir]

Nope. Three crushes so far, none went anywhere. Granted, each of these girls I know from online, though I've met all of them in person. No crush on anyone from my own country yet.


It's considerably easier for me to communicate with girls online (read; communicate with them online before actually meeting them) as I can't meet a girl and really hit it off from the get-go in person.

I get very internal panic-attacks and want to flee the scene ASAP, and tend to stay away from getting into such situations. I also loathe your usual partying, clubbing and the like; I'd rather be stuck in a dark tunnel full of mutants.


However, if I know a girl from online, and have a somewhat clear 'map' of their personality, likes and dislikes and whatnot, I have a much, much easier time talking with them.

As for looks, I guess I'm in the middle of the spectrum? I don't have any abnormalities or really grotesque features, though I'm somewhat on the skinny or lanky side. My last crush even once said I was "pretty hot", which at least reinforce my theory she only declined me due to distance, as we click pretty well.


Sigh, why do I have to live in Norway, girls here are either total drunks, twats or incredibly boring (I consider geeky girls not boring, those are yesplx). If I do hear about a nice, geeky, cute girl here, I just know she'll live about as far away as it gets. Just to tie together with my usual luck.

 

[scully745]

Yeah, mine only went for a few months but anyway, my friend was attempting to get with a girl he met through another friend of mine, I hadn't met her myself until I went with him and a few others to movies. Didn't think it went that well until after when she rang me after (I'd guess through a friend) and asked me if I wanted to go see another movie (Paranormal Activity 2) the next weekend. As I said, it only lasted about 6 months, seems she's the type who goes through boyfriends like tissue paper. Still think it was worth all the while though.