HELP! Is this 2 early?

[Kurokami]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Moving in together is great, but I would avoid getting married simply because the arguments will come, and my personal experience of 'love' is that it tends to fade. Regardless of my personal views on marriage and love, its not unacceptable to ask him to slow things down. If you guys can handle atleast 6 months living together then maybe change your mind.

 

[Insanum]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Ok, So im asuming you've been going out for like...4-6 months.

YES. Far too soon. The only thing to do is, if you are serious, Is have a long engagement, really[/I] get to know each other. Best of luck.

 

[zombflux]

well, you're asking the internet to give you advice, so your answer is no.

 

[Chrissyluky]

move in together see how that feels. let him down slowly tell him your not ready for marriage but you want to move in together to see how it feels to live together(that should take the sting out of it). after awhile of that you will probably have a good idea of whether or not you wish to marry him.(the main reason you should always move in together before marrying is people are different at home than in public)

 

[seious]

wow i cant belive hom many people have realationships on a website like this "kidding" to answer your question it may be to early you may love each other very much but its far too soon but really the question is are you ready?

 

[seious]

If it's true love then go for it!

my freind "true love" is the rarest trasure you will ever find they say there is someone out there for everyone the only problem is finding that person so my freind its very unlikly this person has found true love

 

[RanD00M]

There's nothing wrong with being an un-married couple living together.

My parents are prime examples of that.They have been living together for 23 years.Still not married.

 

[Pegghead]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

How old are you exactly?

 

[Fire Daemon]

Wait, so you're asking a forum community that you joined up with yesterday if you should marry someone who we don't know. Gah? Logic people, logic. The 2 in the title should have given me a clue.

I have an odd feeling that this OP is lying though. Nobody goes 'I'll tell you yes or no right after I check what the Escapist thinks'. And who would be stupid enough to ask for marital advice on a gaming forum from people that you don't know and that don't know you or your boyfriend? Nobody, that's who.

If you are serious about this than I advise dumping him. You've been going out for a couple of months and suddenly he wants to marry you? Most teenagers don't want to get married. I suspect ulterior motives behind this move. Maybe he wants to get you in a relationship which you will find more difficult to leave or maybe he's a s thick as rocks and twice as stupid so thinks marriage is a good idea. Either way, fuck him.

Nobody ever takes my advice though, and for good reason, as most of it is 'dump em'. It just sounds like he got caught up in a moment. Say that you don't want to get married (if that's how you feel, I'm not in your mind) but want to stay together (if you want to, that is).

 

[Slayer_2]

Judging by your grammar/spelling skills, yes.

But in all seriousness, it would take me years to be ready for marriage, and while everyone is different, this seems a little early.

 

[leeloodallasmultipass]

I met my boyfriend during the end of the summer holidays. It was at an open day at Northumberland College. We got chatting and eventually he asked me out. We been getting closer and closer, never argued and love eachother very much.

Last night he proposed to me over dinner. We are currently setting up a home together in Blyth also. Im just worried that doing all this is to early... that maybe we should wait a little while... Please tell me coz im really confused now about whether i am doing the right thing. I told my dad and step-mum, they just told me it was my choice.

Being Engaged doesnt really change anything, it just shows that you have pledged yourselfs to each other.

In my opinion just see how it goes, it shouldnt change anything between you as its just a technical thing "oh im engaged"...
also it doesnt mean you have to get married in X amount of days/years otherwise its over etc.

So go with it and make it clear to your partner that you wish to settle into the idea of being together forever etc. Dont set any dates for the wedding or plan stuff untill you are comfortable and ready.

 

[SultanP]

It's too soon. I have never ever heard of anyone getting that serious that early ending up happy ever after. Most people I know who do that so soon end up being sad types of people that nobody really want to be around.

Edit: One example is a really good friend I had, who turned out to be kinda emotionally inept. When he gets a girlfriend he clings to her and puts himself entirely in her hands. They married as soon as he turned 18, and she wants a kid even though none of them have an education, nor the brains to complete one. I'm not saying everybody who engages and marries early are like this, but almost all of the ones I know or hear of are, and their children will have horrible conditions growing up with parents who have trouble making a living and maybe only one parent who can think for herself/himself.

 

[vamp rocks]

try living with him for a year or two and if you still feel the same.... go for it...

 

[Kenni-chan]

If it's true love then go for it!

my freind "true love" is the rarest trasure you will ever find they say there is someone out there for everyone the only problem is finding that person so my freind its very unlikly this person has found true love

too bad then. I'm already engaged and only 16

 

[Galletea]

It is rather soon, but it's not like there's a time limit on these things. It takes a long time to get to know someone truly, and maybe you'll work out, maybe not. But then people get engaged at the drop of a hat these days anyway.

 

[Macgyvercas]

My parents dated for three years (and suffered two breakups) before they got married. Mom and Dad told me to be going out for at least a year before marriage is even a thought. They also recommended being engaged for at least six months before tying the knot.

 

[DemonicVixen]

You're 17

You should wait about 10 years

I feel i should correct... she is 18, going on 19...

 

[Comma-Kazie]

If you have to ask whether it's too early, then it's too early.