at my first days I talk to people who are alone- don't approach groups unless you are already in a group. There will be people like you, you just have to find them. Loners make good friends even if they don't look very committed.
How do i get friends?
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Don't worry, I felt like this too. Had about, 2 friends until I went to college, then had 1 the first year I was there, then he went to uni so I spent almost the whole time alone. Sad right?benbenthegamerman said:
All I can recommend is get a hobby. Anything you can tolerate, if you can't find one you like. I've started playing Magic: The Gathering down a local games shop, and it's the first bunch of new friends I've made in years. If there's no clubs at school taking your interest, then look for other passtimes. I used to practice Tae Kwon Do when I was younger. If you can stick it out, martial arts classes are a great way of getting into shape and meeting people, and if done well, can be fun.
And even if nothing like that works out for you, well, just stick it out. It gets better eventually. It can just take a while sometimes.
It can be really difficult to make friends while depressed. Other may sense it and find talking to you uncomfortable. Seek counseling or therapy for you depression first. Even if you only depressed because others aren't talking to you. Maybe someone in you family could help you out too.
The easiest way is to talk about things that interest you... safe subjects though, so don't just jump in there with "I love anime do you?" or something. Music I find is a good subject to start on, then movies. Once you got that far you can kind of gauge what to chat about.
The hard part is the getting past that inital greeting phase without making it seem awkward. My way is personally to introduce yourself by name after asking something odd (a technique my friends have dubbed 'chatting bubbles'). A favored, and still unanswered, question is "Why is cheese? not how was it made, or even discovered... just WHY?"
The confusion does one of two things provides a moment where you have their attention and also where you get them thinking. If that doesn't happen I suggest you leave them be, because they have no imagination. Well thats my theory.
The hard part is the getting past that inital greeting phase without making it seem awkward. My way is personally to introduce yourself by name after asking something odd (a technique my friends have dubbed 'chatting bubbles'). A favored, and still unanswered, question is "Why is cheese? not how was it made, or even discovered... just WHY?"
The confusion does one of two things provides a moment where you have their attention and also where you get them thinking. If that doesn't happen I suggest you leave them be, because they have no imagination. Well thats my theory.
Toss on some skinny jeans, throws your hair into your face, and pretend you don't care about anything. You'll be popular in no time. Oh, and claim to listen to bands that no-one has ever heard of.
Befriending someone is all about finding common ground. If you chime into someones conversation about something you have in common with them, it might turn out good.
If people simply don't talk to you, though, forget them. Who wants friends like that anyway?
Befriending someone is all about finding common ground. If you chime into someones conversation about something you have in common with them, it might turn out good.
If people simply don't talk to you, though, forget them. Who wants friends like that anyway?
Bribe them with candy and/or video games.......im not a motivational speaker so my most professional answer would be...SCIENCE!
1. Are you big? Find an unconfident smaller person and start standing up for him.
2. Are you a girl? Try not to be nerdy.
3. Are you small? Get into some nerdy trading card game and hunt down those like you.
I said those mostly trying to "troll nicely," but whatever. Your best bet is to observe to see if anyone you see has similar interests. If no one does, you're kinda screwed whether they notice you or not. If they do, try to see if any of them are interested in talking about their interests. I'm no expert by any means, but all of my friends were found by trying to find people who like what I like and trying to hang out with them. If they won't let you hang around, they're not worth it. Unless they think you're creepy, which may or may not be your fault.
2. Are you a girl? Try not to be nerdy.
3. Are you small? Get into some nerdy trading card game and hunt down those like you.
I said those mostly trying to "troll nicely," but whatever. Your best bet is to observe to see if anyone you see has similar interests. If no one does, you're kinda screwed whether they notice you or not. If they do, try to see if any of them are interested in talking about their interests. I'm no expert by any means, but all of my friends were found by trying to find people who like what I like and trying to hang out with them. If they won't let you hang around, they're not worth it. Unless they think you're creepy, which may or may not be your fault.
Find a club/group that has the same interests you do. You will find people who have the same interests and have an easier time making friends.
The official guide to becoming a school legend.-Samurai- said:
1. Wear cheap shitty clothes for about 7 years. (This starts in first grade)
2. Be super annoying to everyone, at 4th-5th grade do a lot of reading, get really smart and starting getting depressed.
3. In middle school cease talking to people who don't start it or aren't cool enough for you.
4. Show no fear or feelings for anyone, you're just to cool.
5. The last year of middle school, go out and spend all that cash you saved on some nice clothes.
6. Be nice but still emotionally dead in high school, dress nice, wear suites, be aloof and cool.
7. People will take your distance and acts of kindness (Open doors for people) as some sort of benevolent god ting.
8. The word "Legend" will start to float around
9. Start writing poetry and short stories about life and being a legend.
10. At graduation make a huge epic speech showing the educational system for what it truely is and inspire everyone to break the mold of society
11. Grab that one girl who talked to you and you've hopelessly fallen in love with and ride into the afternoon sun on a horse you rented for the day.
12. Claim your official title as "School Legend"
13. Dissapear for 20 years, coming back when you're in your late thirties
14. Go to the reunion
15. Look slightly old and wizened, appear out of it but at the same time aware of everyone and anything
16. And you need a beard for that, make sure you have a suit too.
17. And that woman will be with you, she has the appearance of a student learning from a great master.
18. People will whisper your name, for they can only see you now as a legend, the coolest of cool.
19. Dissapear for 10 years with your apprentice, and together solve the mystery of life, write a 10,000 page epic and have it published on your birthday, use a pen name "The Legend"
20. Be remembered by the entire school as people die and be immortalized forever as the one and only....Legend..
Edit: Shit was that off topic?