how do you feel about being judged on your looks?
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I wear almost exclusively black shirts with random art and video game related art. My arms are tatt'd up in multiple places, I wear a thick ass leather strap on my arm and I wear big ass boots.
Cowboy/videogame swag. I could care less what people think of my looks
Cowboy/videogame swag. I could care less what people think of my looks
No pig tails are 2 pony tails on either side. I don't really see how you decide to wear you hair determines your maturity or mental well being? I see girls all the time with pig tails I mean no so much that it is popular but it isn't like some weird thing I really think you are being a bit silly.Das Boot said:
I feel uncomfortable whenever someone makes a comment about my looks, even if most of the times it's positive. I'd much rather be acknowledged for something that I can actually take credit for.
I probably lost a good chunk of manhood points just for saying that.
I probably lost a good chunk of manhood points just for saying that.
I dunno, I've honestly never felt bothered by what others have thought. I have looked at myself and thought, "Damn, make yourself look a bit acceptable" but overall I couldn't give a crap because I honestly couldn't live a life constantly slapping on make-up and shit for a bloke, I could do it or me, when I want to, but no one else.
Like it or lump it kinda thing.
Obviously I look at Men and think, "Yeah, you look alright" but never have I ignored or been an asshole etc. to anyone based on their looks. I'm pretty friendly regardless of looks. It's whether you're an asshole or not.
Like it or lump it kinda thing.
Obviously I look at Men and think, "Yeah, you look alright" but never have I ignored or been an asshole etc. to anyone based on their looks. I'm pretty friendly regardless of looks. It's whether you're an asshole or not.
I wish people would love me for me and not just my chiselled abs :/
Srsly though, I can't really escape it, being female. Our worth is judged on how attractive we are, whereas with men it's their skill or intelligence. It's not always like that obviously but it certainly feels that way. I think women get a much harder time for being ugly.
I sometimes think being an attractive female guarantees you respect, whereas I've had to work to gain any respect I have.
Not saying I'm hideously ugly, but I think my life would be better if I were much better looking. >w<;
Srsly though, I can't really escape it, being female. Our worth is judged on how attractive we are, whereas with men it's their skill or intelligence. It's not always like that obviously but it certainly feels that way. I think women get a much harder time for being ugly.
I sometimes think being an attractive female guarantees you respect, whereas I've had to work to gain any respect I have.
Not saying I'm hideously ugly, but I think my life would be better if I were much better looking. >w<;
I know I don't look so good, but I have become a lot less scrawny, and in the good muscly way, so there is that. I have horrible skin [footnote]as in it burns and freckles and moles and annoying things, a few black-heads I really don't give a flying [/footnote], but only my mother has ever given me hell about it -.- So judgemental >.<
But I have an amazing girlfriend (huge ego-boost) and I really could not care enough most of the time. Besides, I fucking KNOW I am AWESOME. So why should I care?
[/footnote], but only my mother has ever given me hell about it -.- So judgemental >.<But I have an amazing girlfriend (huge ego-boost) and I really could not care enough most of the time. Besides, I fucking KNOW I am AWESOME. So why should I care?
Well I think that being judged on your looks BEFORE someone has gotten to know you is only natural if not expected. I mean if people have absolutely nothing to go on other than how you look physically then its fair for them to make assumptions about you based on them. I am a psychology student so I may be looking at it from a psych standpoint, but if looks are all you have to go on then I don't think it's unreasonable. However if people get to know you and still judge you mostly/entirely on looks then that isn't fair at all. I am a fairly attractive person so I've never really had problems with being judged based on looks in general but I hate when people do that. It's bullshit social stratification that really bothers me. Mostly happens in high school when people actually give a shit.
How do I feel? It's something that would classify as natural to me, so I don't care. I've been called plain, pretty, cute, hot, gorgeous, ugly -- it all boils down to the person and their personal preference. What I do care about is how I can use the judgement to further my chances at what I want. Job interview? Emphasis on businesslike, with a touch of softness. Date? Classy, but with some flirt thrown in (a bit of bust or leg). Fiance's Christmas party? Play to his desire to show me off. Form fitting, lots of leg, heel, perfect makeup. Looking for a place to rent? Neat, tidy, with a hint of sophistication. Going to work? Office-ish with a bent towards feminimity.
My face and body are a canvas, and I use it to give society what it wants to see. Honestly, it feels empowering to see people react how you want them to.
But most days outside of work I go as Just Me, comfortable, fairly neat, without make up, and a mood of some kind that people in turn respond to. Buuuut then again sometimes I feel like dressing it up a little bit. It's always nice to feel like you look good, which I think is more important than whether or not people think you look good.
My one dissent in all of this? People who dress outside the norm are treated harshly. That disappoints me, but, well, we are trained to act on what we see. As much as you might think you save all of your personal judgement to getting to know the person, everyone has some amount of judgement or preconceived notion when they look at other people. It's how we function.
My face and body are a canvas, and I use it to give society what it wants to see. Honestly, it feels empowering to see people react how you want them to.
But most days outside of work I go as Just Me, comfortable, fairly neat, without make up, and a mood of some kind that people in turn respond to. Buuuut then again sometimes I feel like dressing it up a little bit. It's always nice to feel like you look good, which I think is more important than whether or not people think you look good.
My one dissent in all of this? People who dress outside the norm are treated harshly. That disappoints me, but, well, we are trained to act on what we see. As much as you might think you save all of your personal judgement to getting to know the person, everyone has some amount of judgement or preconceived notion when they look at other people. It's how we function.
Oh no, it happens outside of high school too, just in different ways and situations.
I don't mind it, because I'm viewed to be fairly attractive, and generally seen as attractive to the types of girls that I find most-attractive (which are not stereotypically-attractive girls anyway, but down-to-earth "cute" girls, or at least that look).