How do you RUIN your sex life.

[HellsingerAngel]

I have ruined some casual relationships in the past but not in the way you'd expect. You know how some guys blow their load in like 2 minutes which puts the girl off? Well my problem is the opposite of that. Maybe I have no feeling, maybe the girl isn't good enough or maybe because it's a mental thing but for whatever reason I can't finish from sex.

This is both a gift and a curse. It's a gift because I've had girls tell me I'm the best they've ever had because I can go for as long as they need. But it also ruins casual relationships because the girl thinks I don't find them attractive or good enough. One has even cried because of that. I think I finally know how some girls feel when the guy desperately tries to make them climax and it's so tempting to just fake it.... sadly it's not as easy for a guy to fake an orgasm.

This. I've got the same problem and I feel where you're coming from. First relationship was just terrible for sex with me as I was young, shy and nervous about my performance. I felt like I constantly failed, no matter how awesome she said I was in bed because I never finished and she was "too tired" to finish me off. And yes, I did fake it once or twice, though probably wasn't very convincing. I eventually wrote it off as her seeing the sex part of the relationship as self-gratification and nothing more and dumped her. She dated a few other people I know and they have similar experiences with her views on sex. My second relationship ended the minute I got into bed with her. Too big, too long to finish, wasn't meant to be. So having these above average (I won't say they're stellar, because they aren't. I'm just above average) traits have done nothing but hinder my sex life because most girls don't seem to really want them?

Relationship #3 is going much better, though. She's patient, understanding and has ehard all my horror stories as we were friends for awhile before confessing our feelings for eachother. Though distance is an issue, she's worth it. As for our sex life? Despite it coming around only once or twice a year, it's amazing. She truly wants me to be happy and satisfied. I don't I've ever seen anyone so elated as when the first time I finished properly. Then again, I didn't have a mirror, either. =P

So, while it's hard to find that someone that fits just perfectly, they are out there. I'd also suggest tyring different positions. Believe it or not, it does help. The most common one would be "Doggy" and it seems to work great. Obviously it's not as intimate as others, but it certainly feels good for the girl if she likes deep penetration and it's great for the guy if she's willing to arch her back a little to make her muscles contract a little more. Regardless, keep trying man, you'll find "her" someday!

 

[Joccaren]

I'll let you know when I have a relationship. Currently I have not enterred a relationship with anyone (I'm in High School BTW) for 2 reasons:
1. I'm considered a nerd. If I really wanted too, I could overcome this barrier easy enough. Which leads me to...
2. I don't find any of the girl's I know 'good enough' for me. All of them are either attractive and show very little personality, instead going for the more 'slutty' look and behaviour that many of my generations females (at least the majority of those I know) seem to think attracts decent men, or are horridly ugly and show only minor/average personality. (Wow that sounds amazingly arrogant)

Do not suggest casual relationships to me, I am not interested.

Also, to everyone saying 'chop off your...', ever heard of a chastity belt? wear one, lock it, throw the key into the grand canyon, the Mariana Trench, or into an active volcano. Far less painful than losing an excellent part of my body.

 

[McPulse]

When I asked this girl out, I didn't make wholly clear my intentions. On date #2 I had to clarify and she told me that she had not picked up that I liked her, and didn't find me particularly enthralling.

 

[Squilookle]

I think this says it all.

This image is innacurate: the appropriateness significantly increases during the post orgasm 'cuddling' stage.

As for me, whenever I get horny when she's not around. The same thing happens EVERY TIME: get horny, deal with the matter appropriately (alone), then for one reason or another end up seeing her the next day and mysteriously not having enough juice in the tank.

EVERY TIME!

 

[Nunny]

By ruining any chance i ever have with a girl, thus ruining any chance of ever having a sex life.

 

[Ellen of Kitten]

You know what kills it? By being super available and there for your partner before being in anything resembling a relationship. Something about that level of interest is a one-sided flop. I know this because every single party my housemates hosts, there's one guy that's like that for me, and there is no telling how far my interest drops. (Well, I'm into guys for starters, but, even the girls that do it, I don't want them.)

 

[Mad1Cow]

Just before the sexings look down and scream, GLADIATORS READY!?!

I'd like to point out I never did this but a friend of mine did. OT I suppose I try to treat them too much like a lady and not just a normal human. I try to always be on my best behaviour and never force something on them but they've always told me afterwards if I'd just put the idea forward we wouldn't be in this frustrated mess (sex I mean...)

 

[Verlander]

I don't really. I have a great sex life.

 

[CaptainREBell]

Needing to pee during it.
Their face is like "SRSLY?" but you know you gotta go.
Particularly dangerous when the bathroom is not located near the bedroom/place where it's going on ^_^''

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Needing to pee during it.
Their face is like "SRSLY?" but you know you gotta go.
Particularly dangerous when the bathroom is not located near the bedroom/place where it's going on ^_^''

This is why I always go beforehand.
And sometimes after.

 

[s0p0g]

uhm... having to end the relationship anhd then ending it comes to mind. besides that, nothing so far (yay me)

 

[game-lover]

Oh... harsh. Man. Harsh...
I wish I hadn't read this. It's gonna drive me crazy about what's going on now. I'm gonna have to resist the urge to bombard you with nosy PMs about how everyone is doing current and yadda, yadda.

Were you referring to anyone in particular? Cause I, for one, don't mind being PMed.

You mostly. *shuffles feet* And you don't? Sweet. Stand by so I can relieve my curiosity.

 

[Kuhkren]

I have ruined some casual relationships in the past but not in the way you'd expect. You know how some guys blow their load in like 2 minutes which puts the girl off? Well my problem is the opposite of that. Maybe I have no feeling, maybe the girl isn't good enough or maybe because it's a mental thing but for whatever reason I can't finish from sex.

This is both a gift and a curse. It's a gift because I've had girls tell me I'm the best they've ever had because I can go for as long as they need. But it also ruins casual relationships because the girl thinks I don't find them attractive or good enough. One has even cried because of that. I think I finally know how some girls feel when the guy desperately tries to make them climax and it's so tempting to just fake it.... sadly it's not as easy for a guy to fake an orgasm.

You might want to see a doctor about the lack of sensitivity and inability to completely climax. I really doubt it is a problem that is seriously detrimental to your health, but it would probably make any girls in the future feel better if it has been shown in your case to be a medical problem.

 

[o0BigDave0o]

hmm... how to ruin your sex life? well, depends, if your the girl, 3 words can ruin everything...

is it in?

 

[ramboondiea]

I have ruined some casual relationships in the past but not in the way you'd expect. You know how some guys blow their load in like 2 minutes which puts the girl off? Well my problem is the opposite of that. Maybe I have no feeling, maybe the girl isn't good enough or maybe because it's a mental thing but for whatever reason I can't finish from sex.

This is both a gift and a curse. It's a gift because I've had girls tell me I'm the best they've ever had because I can go for as long as they need. But it also ruins casual relationships because the girl thinks I don't find them attractive or good enough. One has even cried because of that. I think I finally know how some girls feel when the guy desperately tries to make them climax and it's so tempting to just fake it.... [b/] sadly it's not as easy for a guy to fake an orgasm [/b].

that is just not true, you just have to use a condom and then your golden, with no feelings hurt.

OT: ways i have ruined my sex life are as followed; similar to above scenario. losing their number. saying the wrong name (x2). general apathy. alcohol.

 

[Vern5]

So I was checking in on good ole escapist when I saw a poll titled "How do you run your sex life." Interested, I clicked on it. Then I had an epiphany. It seems like we as humans always fuck things up and now I'm asking; How do you fuck up your sex life? I'm asking everyone, not just the people who always mess up.

You bloody thief. I MADE THAT POLL! I demand credit for this idea.

Nah, I kid. Actually, this thread is almost more revealing than my poll.

OT: I'm in the same boat as that guy who doesn't climax easily. I can pretty much go forever. My first gf didn't take that well. She locked herself in the bathroom and yelled at me about not thinking she was attractive.

Another good way of ruining a sex life is by not giving when she is literally asking for sex. Don't even bother with "I'm sorry babe but I'm really tired" or "I'm feeling a little sick, can I sit this one out?" Unless there is a decent chance of you either passing out half way through or throwing up on her, you suck it up and do her!

 

[Leon Last Lord Shyle]

Sleep with the sister, Sleep with the mother, accidently hit on the brother that looks like a chick.

get bored half way through the actual act stand up and walk off without saying a word.

when asked do i look good in this do not answer with "yea ok but damn your friends look better"

hit on sisters at the same time and come out with this
"sooo you two are sisters right"
"yea we are why"
"any sibling rivalry"
"a bit"
*points from one to the other*
"i can tell you whose better if you want sort it out for good"

sat with girl who thinks it's going great
"so what's it like to have met your soul mate"
"what... matt? I've known him for years"
"I meant me you dick"
"oh.... why you aren't that good."

I have loooots of these

 

[AngryMongoose]

Well, you see, you take a hatchet and...

I'm just not very extroverted. Don't really like most people, which makes it difficult to find the exceptions.

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

I've messed up a lot of my relationship... first few by not wanting to do what my partner was pushing me to do... and most others because I have some... issues... that they don't want to deal with. So I've not had a lot of luck so far, thankfully my current girlfriend seems to be ok with all my quirks, so things are going better for me now