I view that as being punished for what my mother did, My mother would have done this too me. In a way my mother is the punisher. *figuratively speaking of course.* Even if it is accidental. If you believe in god, god is punishing you for the sins of your mother. If you don't your still being put in a shitty position for something you didn't do.zehydra said:yeah I meant the "rather be dead" part. I don't understand why you would feel punished though. There is no such thing as being "punished" without there being a "punisher". A person who lives through life with the affects of a mother who drank alcohol isn't being punished, he simply living with the results of unhealthy maternal behavior.TeeBs said:Why what? if you are referring to the "rather be dead" comment. I am ok with any misery I bring onto myself, if I drink myself into a coma and then I wake up and now I have a mental disability I could live with that. If I am being punished for something I didn't do I would be filled with so much anger and a sense of victumalization *Im sure theres a better word I just can't think of it* that I just couldn't deal with it.zehydra said:really? Why?TeeBs said:Let me sum up my opinion this way. Abortion is ok but risking your unborn child to be born into a life in which he will probably wish he was dead most of the time is just wrong. I don't particularly like my life, but I couldn't imagine living with any form of disability, and if my mother was the cause of this disability I would rather be dead.
You know that they are freaking out more about drinking while pregnant than drinking itself correct? Just checking.Valiard said:oh everyone just calm the hell down, seriously people have been drinking for ages if something is gonna go wrong then its gonna go wrong irregardless, maybe you guys wouldnt freak out so much if you read a bit more history. >.>
Pretty much this. It comes down to the future of the child. If the mother chooses to keep the child for whatever reason then they give up the right to abuse their own body until the child is born. By drinking/doing drugs/whatever while pregnant they are ruining the child's future, not their own.Bakuryukun said:You SHOULD be able to do almost anything you want with your own body. But when you pregnant, it's not just YOUR body now is it?
I disagree with that statement. It's connected to the mom it's not born yet. Not considered legally a person yet, you can argue that though.Bakuryukun said:You SHOULD be able to do almost anything you want with your own body. But when you pregnant, it's not just YOUR body now is it?
It seems that any attempt to enforce this would come across as highly Orwellian in nature.BonsaiK said:You're probably right, but good luck enforcing something like that.Eri said:I have little doubt she would say it's her body and she can do what she wants due to her blatant lack of regard for her future child, but should this not be illegal?
I suppose you could try to tackle it the other way and say binge drinkers and alcoholics shouldn't get pregnant, but that's also pretty unenforceable too, especially when you consider that alcohol tends to be something that precipitates pregnancy for obvious reasons.