... I have been ninja'd 2 times before... I hope that doesn't happen again.thebridgetroll said:
How to ask a girl out (Operation 7)
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As the old saying goes, "confidence is sexy". If you can't be a little cocky around a girl, you're not gonna get a date. Don't be an arrogant shit, but girls are like dogs---they can smell fear.MASTACHIEFPWN said:
(girls are also like dogs in that taking your cue from Cesar Millan can do wonders for improving your relationship with them.)
.....sigh.
Confidence my fellow Escapists, dont stutter dont dance around it just say "Let me buy you a coffee." or "Fancy going to see a movie?".
Also if you opt for seeing a movie make sure it is a DVD at one of your houses, cinemas are crap when it comes to spending time with someone and socialising with a person you like, with a DVD in a place where you feel comfortable it will all flow natrually and you will get some physical contact if you play your cards right and showered the night before.
I could do a full few paragraphs on types of movies and initiating physical contact but stick with movies that are neutral (No Hardcore Horror or Romance, try to go for movies with Romantic undertones) I suggest Back To The Future or The Illusionist.
When it comes to physical contact you must first have a look at the situation of the moment. If she is sitting bolt upright about a foot away from you dont bother but otherwise just stick your arm around her and she will get the signal and rest into you.
In your case I would suggest going out and gaining confidence with other women, you are infatuated with this one girl and by putting her up on a pedistal you are just hurting yourself. If you havent spent any time with her try mixing your friends with her friends so when/if you do ask her you dont end up looking like a weird guy who asks girls out they dont know.
Girls group weird with creepy and girls avoid creepy like the plauge.
Confidence my fellow Escapists, dont stutter dont dance around it just say "Let me buy you a coffee." or "Fancy going to see a movie?".
Also if you opt for seeing a movie make sure it is a DVD at one of your houses, cinemas are crap when it comes to spending time with someone and socialising with a person you like, with a DVD in a place where you feel comfortable it will all flow natrually and you will get some physical contact if you play your cards right and showered the night before.
I could do a full few paragraphs on types of movies and initiating physical contact but stick with movies that are neutral (No Hardcore Horror or Romance, try to go for movies with Romantic undertones) I suggest Back To The Future or The Illusionist.
When it comes to physical contact you must first have a look at the situation of the moment. If she is sitting bolt upright about a foot away from you dont bother but otherwise just stick your arm around her and she will get the signal and rest into you.
In your case I would suggest going out and gaining confidence with other women, you are infatuated with this one girl and by putting her up on a pedistal you are just hurting yourself. If you havent spent any time with her try mixing your friends with her friends so when/if you do ask her you dont end up looking like a weird guy who asks girls out they dont know.
Girls group weird with creepy and girls avoid creepy like the plauge.
Yeah, pretty much this.SimuLord said:
Confidence is extremely attractive. If you have no qualms about walking up to her, looking her in the eyes, smiling and asking her out then that is a major plus.
It also helps if she hasn't just been dumped and is in a good mood at the time. All this from experience if that helps.
If all else fails, both of you get drunk off your ass and make out in a dark corner. Also from experience.
http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.239740-I-need-your-help-Making-my-head-work-again#comment_form
I had to quote myself. Same basic thread. Just ask her out. It's not rocket science, it's not brain surgery, it's not rocket surgery and it's not brain science. It's not that hard. Just do it.ShadowDude112 said:
I had to sort of repost it... I didn't really like that one, I feel this one heads it off better.ShadowDude112 said:
You have two things you can do. You can either post in this thread http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=1 or you can stop being a pussy and just ask her. Your choice.MASTACHIEFPWN said:
Get her to one side, deep breath, tell her how you feel. Or you could go with how I started going out my girlfriend: Get a female friend to find out how she feels. Then said friend can suggest in not so subtle ways that the two of you would make the perfect couple. Then, a couple of days later, when you are both alone, just casually ask her out as if you had not set the whole "subtle hinting friend thing" up and had just been mulling over it. Worked for me.
You don't understand how much I want to stab you for that post. (Joke) I posted that one 2 days after she broke up, I am atleast waiting 2 weeks. If I don't I will have a 99% chance of getting shot down midflight.ShadowDude112 said:
Frankly, just ask. Something simple like "Oh hey (insert name), wanna hang out this weekend?"
It may seeem like an impossible task, trust me I have the nerves of a (insert something with no nerves). Once you ask, regaurdless of the outcome, all of the pressure/nervousness will fall from your shoulders.
The longer you wait, the higher the chance of someone else asking her. Trust me, as someone who's failed many times due to similar reasons, just ask.
However I undertsand that fear, and so I could see waiting until monday.
It may seeem like an impossible task, trust me I have the nerves of a (insert something with no nerves). Once you ask, regaurdless of the outcome, all of the pressure/nervousness will fall from your shoulders.
The longer you wait, the higher the chance of someone else asking her. Trust me, as someone who's failed many times due to similar reasons, just ask.
Just make it casual. You don't have to profess your love for her, just get coffee/lunch/dinnner/etc. Let her unload about it, listen and see if she wants to hang again. You'll only seem like a rebound if you go right for the killMASTACHIEFPWN said:
However I undertsand that fear, and so I could see waiting until monday.
One day, just chat it up with her and towards the end of the conversation, when you feel it's starting to drift or either one of you have places to go, just say "Hey, did you want to go see a movie with me on the weekend?" Bam. Don't keep leading her on and delaying it because she might be into that for a while but no one likes to wait forever, and some other guy will come along. If you think you have a chance, go for it as soon as you can.