How to ask a girl out (Operation 7)

[triggrhappy94]

I have a small bit of expierence with this...
I know you must think just going up and asking "want to go out" is kind of lame but "hey can I buy you coffee" seems to mature/adult (if you're in high school).
There's a couple ways to do it...
-If you two are already friends and talking often (if not you should), then ask " hey we've been friends for a while and I actually kind of want to be more..." or something like that
-If you're aquantences or not very close friends you could try "I've been wondering something/ Can I ask you a question, what would you think if we went out."
-Then finally, if you know who she is but dont really know her (the most difficult), you're going to have to strike up a conversation try flirting a bit (and this is going to be a strech, so you might want to try to working up to one of the other one)then say something like "you want to hang out some time/ how come we've never hung out, just the two of us" you're not done yet after two or so dates (isn't neccesaraly a date) pop the question,"I kind of want to be more the friends,"

 

[Jester00]

Getting up the courage to ask is 9001x more difficult than actually asking.

"Hey, let me buy you a cup of coffee/lunch/dinner" is all you really need.

huh, that ones new. I think I might use that on other girls if I can't get her, right now I am sort of leaning toward "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me sometime?"

To quote my Business Writing professor: "Don't ever give the other person an easy way to say no."

"Would you like to see a movie with me sometime" gives her PLENTY of opportunity to string you along---and it shows NO confidence at all from you. It's a no-balls question.

If you're going to ask a girl out, you give her a concrete set of things you intend to do (I usually ask girls out fairly spontaneously, but if I've the future in mind, I'll append a date and time, like "Let's go out for coffee. 2:30, after class tomorrow sound good for you? Coffee's on me.") I find that women are far less likely to say no if you put them on the spot, and once I have the girl in the Starbucks I make with the jokes and the charm and lo and behold, I'm starting to think I couldn't stay single if I tried.

Again, your intentions are good, but to me that sounds a bit cocky... Something I can't be with the subject with the oposite gender... It's just some weird thing I have, mabey it is just becuase I have too much shit on my mind right now...

As the old saying goes, "confidence is sexy". If you can't be a little cocky around a girl, you're not gonna get a date. Don't be an arrogant shit, but girls are like dogs---they can smell fear.

(girls are also like dogs in that taking your cue from Cesar Millan can do wonders for improving your relationship with them.)

your ideas are great, you can write a book.

@MASTACHIEFPWN uhm ... like Simu said.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

MY PLAN SO FAR:
Engage her in a conversation, and near the end say "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me on friday?"

 

[Dango]

I actually remember all your other threads about this topic...

And just be confident, and be brave, that's all you really need to do.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

I actually remember all your other threads about this topic...

And just be confident, and be brave, that's all you really need to do.

REALLY! Yeah, It's mostely been about the same girl and all of my diffirent attempts... XD

 

[Hazy]

MY PLAN SO FAR:
Engage her in a conversation, and near the end say "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me on friday?"

And then she turns around, and out falls fish from her purse as the startling realization hits you like a brick: she's really a bear in disguise.

I kid, I kid.[footnote]Seriously though, if she is, run like hell[/footnote] Solid plan. Fear of rejection is worse than rejection and all that good stuff.

 

[Dango]

I actually remember all your other threads about this topic...

And just be confident, and be brave, that's all you really need to do.

REALLY! Yeah, It's mostely been about the same girl and all of my diffirent attempts... XD

Yeah, if I'm not mistaken this has been going on all summer...

And one more thing: Timing is much more important than you'd expect.

 

[cartographer54]

With a name like MASTACHIEFPWN, you shouldn't have aproblem!

OT: Don't overthink it.

 

[MASTACHIEFPWN]

I actually remember all your other threads about this topic...

And just be confident, and be brave, that's all you really need to do.

REALLY! Yeah, It's mostely been about the same girl and all of my diffirent attempts... XD

Yeah, if I'm not mistaken this has been going on all summer...

And one more thing: Timing is much more important than you'd expect.

Yeah, it has.

 

[Glass Joe]

You don't understand how much I want to stab you for that post. (Joke)

Yikes. We have work to do.

 

[open trap]

I finde letting some one know your interested if they are a friend, simplifies everything.

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

My two recommendations are be confident and casual. Don't say "I like you" or something, just mention "Hey ____, I was going to see ____ this weekend, was wondering if you'd wanna go with me?" If she says no, then laugh and say "Alright, that's cool" and leave it at that. It'll make things a lot easier for both of you, takes some of the pressure off too.

Oh, and do it as soon as possible, better to do it now than build it up in your head. Best of luck.

 

[Vim-Hogar]

Getting up the courage to ask is 9001x more difficult than actually asking.

"Hey, let me buy you a cup of coffee/lunch/dinner" is all you really need.

Oh man, I'll have to remember that. That way, when I somehow end up saying, "Hey, let me buy you a cup of lunch," I can blame you! XD

 

[Treeinthewoods]

Getting up the courage to ask is 9001x more difficult than actually asking.

"Hey, let me buy you a cup of coffee/lunch/dinner" is all you really need.

huh, that ones new. I think I might use that on other girls if I can't get her, right now I am sort of leaning toward "Hey, would you like to see a movie with me sometime?"

Do not use a movie for the first date, it doesn't spark conversation very well.

Ask her to a meal but make certain to emphasize that you want to take her on a date, not just hang out as friends. Be ready for her to say no, you will live if she does.

But if she says yes? Well, I don't think you will care so much about your zombie killing tournament.

 

[sam13lfc]

Sooo... This girl I have liked for a really, really long time is single again... and well, I need advice on how to ask a girl out. I have been receving way to much advice from my friends about what to do, each one controdicts the other. I NEED HELP FROM SMART PEOPLE! Ever sense last week, a bunch of shit has been going through my head on what to do, and why things have happened in the past. I still have to work with my shitty highschool, writing a book, and dealing with... you know... girls. I have attempted 6 times in the past to ask her, 5 of which I couldn't even get the question out! (mostly because she already had a boyfriend and I figured it out before I asked) So now it is attempt 7! Lucky number 7, amirite bungi?????? So I am seeking your advice, I plan to ask her next week, but I wanted to know more steps to it, some of my friends say I should try to hang out with her first, others say I should just come clean and ask her... God my head hurts from this. I have more important things to deal with, but this is distracting me. (God ADD is a curse...) So, sense this forums full of intelegent people, I hope one of you has advice on the oposite gender! So yeah... please help!

OHH I forgot another thing, I have to prepair for a Left 4 Dead 2 tournement at my school, HOW AM I SUPPOSE TO CONCENTRATE ON A HORDE OF ZOMBIES WITH ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRLS ON THE FACE OF THE PLANET ON MY MIND?

Just do it man : \

 

[WrongSprite]

Movies are suicide, you want to actually be able to talk to her.

 

[default]

Okay, MASTACHIEFPWN...

Just by your username and the fact you are participating in a Left for Dead 2 tournament are enough for me to assume you're a bit of a dork.

However, cuteness ALWAYS wins over being a confident badass in any girl's books whos worth being with. Don't get me wrong, be confident, but not a jerk. Be romantic, kind, funny and sensitive. If you have wanted her for this long just tell her that, it will make her feel special. Make sure you look good on the day you ask her. Shave, cut and wash your hair, wear nice clothes and smell nice. Don't stutter or fidget. Just relax.

Take it easy, don't seem to eager, it will put her off. Just ask softly, preferably just as you part. It's easier on the both of you. If she wants to say no, or wants to think about it, she has time to come up with an answer. It is NEVER fair to put someone on the spot, and she may say something she doesn't really want, which will make it harder for both of you.

Which brings me to my next point: There is NO point in having a relationship that one of you does not want. Don't labour the point.

If you have liked this girl for this long you are obviously very emotionally attached to her. Don't let yourself be crushed if she says no. Accept it, learn to let it pass, and move on.

And my most IMPORTANT TIP:

ALWAYS BECOME EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO A GIRL BEFORE YOU ASK HER OUT.

Girls are very emotionally driven beings. First off, are you even friends with this girl? If not, forget about it, or at least hang out for a while first and get to know each other. If you are, what's the tone of your relationship? Can you identify that?

Good luck anyway, mate.

 

[Requx]

Okay, MASTACHIEFPWN...

Just by your username and the fact you are participating in a Left for Dead 2 tournament are enough for me to assume you're a bit of a dork.

However, cuteness ALWAYS wins over being a confident badass in any girl's books whos worth being with. Don't get me wrong, be confident, but not a jerk. Be romantic, kind, funny and sensitive. If you have wanted her for this long just tell her that, it will make her feel special. Make sure you look good on the day you ask her. Shave, cut and wash your hair, wear nice clothes and smell nice. Don't stutter or fidget. Just relax.

Take it easy, don't seem to eager, it will put her off. Just ask softly, preferably just as you part. It's easier on the both of you. If she wants to say no, or wants to think about it, she has time to come up with an answer. It is NEVER fair to put someone on the spot, and she may say something she doesn't really want, which will make it harder for both of you.

Which brings me to my next point: There is NO point in having a relationship that one of you does not want. Don't labour the point.

If you have liked this girl for this long you are obviously very emotionally attached to her. Don't let yourself be crushed if she says no. Accept it, learn to let it pass, and move on.

And my most IMPORTANT TIP:

ALWAYS BECOME EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO A GIRL BEFORE YOU ASK HER OUT.

Girls are very emotionally driven beings. First off, are you even friends with this girl? If not, forget about it, or at least hang out for a while first and get to know each other. If you are, what's the tone of your relationship? Can you identify that?

Good luck anyway, mate.

Confidence always wins, if you don't have it find somebody else. So anyways the problem with this thread is we know NOTHING, about the girl. Do you guys have similar interests? Girls are all different, so play her interests and be yourself. If you can't get her being yourself you arent right for, heres an xkcd to put things in perspective. http://xkcd.com/513/ (I hate it when they have boyfriends too though right)

 

[hortez the champion of the frozen wastes]

Don't ask her out like its a big thing. Don't just go up to her and say "you wanna go out?" because it is sudden pressure and she might say no without thinking. It should always be NO BIG DEAL. Hey you wanna go get something to eat? I heard about this real cool thing (I live in T Dot, and looooove the Toronto events website for things like this), you wanna go? But it's always no big deal.

But heres a problem. If she isn't attracted to you, you go AS FRIENDS, if at all. And if she is attracted to you, she'll show it e.g. touching you inexplicably, reigniting the conversation with sentences beginning with "so...", makes eye contact and smiles, grabbing a hat for no reason and putting it on, et cetera et cetera. But for her to be attracted to you, you must be confident and interesting. Try talking like your excited about what you're talking about, and with an air of confidence. Tease her (not to much, and not about things like looks or social status), don't wait for her to do things first, don't lean in when you talk to her, sit up strait or lean back.

 

[Dr. Whiggs]

Boy howdy did I ever misread the title of this thread.