How to ask a girl out (Operation 7)
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Just fucking ask. The worst she can do is say "no" or potentially slap you. If she says "no", she's not interested. If she slaps you, either you did it wrong, or she's someone who's not worth your time.
Protip: If you run out of things to talk about in the first fifteen minutes, you're better off as friends rather than anything significant.
This is probably the best advice here. If either of you, or both, are coffee drinkers, hit up a local Starbucks or something. It's socially intensive and you can actually get to know one another.Pirate Kitty said:
Protip: If you run out of things to talk about in the first fifteen minutes, you're better off as friends rather than anything significant.
Not only does the way the OP is written pretty much completely dispel that possibility, I very seriously doubt that it is a possibility with any individual.Bourne Endeavor said:
Actually, it's the goatee. I have one too sometimes, and when I do, I pull like crazy. I reckon the chicks have all seen the cutscenes in the first C&C game, they know the secret buried power of some well-maintained facial hair.SimuLord said:
I look at it this way---why mentor teens in a formal setting where some asswipe will say I'm being "inappropriate" telling it like it is? I'm like that cool uncle who comes over and tells you and your friends what's what---y'know, the one your mom hates and wonders "how could a guy like my husband have such an awful brother?"Canid117 said:
if your friends with her then just say "lets go to a movie when your free" or something along those lines, not too expenive as you may sound a bit desperate, just something cheap and fun, then see how things go from there...... i know what i said is easier said than done though, it can be really hard to pluck up the courage.
good luck man, hope you get some boob action in the near future
good luck man, hope you get some boob action in the near future
Seriously when it comes to asking people out never under any circumstance have a 'plan' because it never works out the way you want it too, if your gonna ask her just do it it's gonna save you so much time and energy. Then when all is said and done the L4D tournament go just fine for you.MASTACHIEFPWN said:
Try and be casual. "Do you want to have some lunch some time?"
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I should try that myself, actually.
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I should try that myself, actually.
Perhaps you could say you want to go somewhere (Cinema/have a coffee/eat out at pizza hut etc) and whilst your talking about were you want to go, ask if she wants to go and if she want's to bring anyone along. If she doesn't want to bring anyone else, it's a date, if she brings someone along, it's not a date, but you've spared her feeling awkward about rejecting you, and hopefully she'd appreciate you for that.
ok. im a fourteen year old, who beleives i cannot date yet. there is a girl who i beleive as well i am madly in love with. she talks to me. i talk to her. this is all after last year i asked her out on valentines day and was shot down. even if she says no, you can still be friends, which in term can lead to something happening. just go with what you think is right. dont listen to us "smart" people
Why do you need to straight up ask her out?
Why not hang out for a day or so even with friends, see if she's into you in any way.
Then ask her if she fancies going for coffee/ice cream/food/to see a movie/anything with you......so it's just the 2 of you.........see if she still likes you.
Then ask her if she wants to take it further/ask her out.
At the end of the day she can only really basically say yes or no(whatever she says will boil down to a yes or no answer)
So all this planning and building yourself up could be for nothing if she already doesn't want to go out with you OR because you spent so long 'planning' that she decided to go out with someone else which it sounds like has happened the previous 5/6 times!?
TLDR man up and ask her =P
Why not hang out for a day or so even with friends, see if she's into you in any way.
Then ask her if she fancies going for coffee/ice cream/food/to see a movie/anything with you......so it's just the 2 of you.........see if she still likes you.
Then ask her if she wants to take it further/ask her out.
At the end of the day she can only really basically say yes or no(whatever she says will boil down to a yes or no answer)
So all this planning and building yourself up could be for nothing if she already doesn't want to go out with you OR because you spent so long 'planning' that she decided to go out with someone else which it sounds like has happened the previous 5/6 times!?
TLDR man up and ask her =P
Seconded, at a date you are meant to be able to show your personality. At a movie, you are essentially sitting silently next to each other, all attention put on an outside source, no eye contact or interaction. No real opertunities for escalation (because the whole puttting your arm round her thing is stupid). Recipe for awkwardness.WrongSprite said:
Whatever your date is, make sure that its easy to touch her. Not in a creepy way obviously. If you are going out for a coffee, sit beside her not opposite, maybe avoid dinner. Go to the park or something.
The reason for this is that you want to escalate to build attraction, or else you will be left in the friend zone. Escalation just means taking it to the next level, but this can be on a very small scale. Touch them on the arm frequently (but not for a creepy length of time), if you are crossing a road, hold their hand. As the date progresses, just keep building up. Touch their face, hair, stomach, lower back, hug them, high five them, tickle them, whatever seems appropriate.
This will work if AND ONLY IF you don't come off as creepy, and the best way to do this is have a playful vibe about yourself. Alternatively, make the touches very brief and have no "value", ie. if you are going to touch them on the arm, don't look at your hand, don't let it linger, make it seem natural etc.
THE REASON FOR THIS: When you finally want to "seal the deal" (ie. go in for a kiss), you want her to be comfortable with you touching her. If going in for the kiss is the first time you are really getting close, then it will come off as being wierd. The whole point of escalation is that it gives a natural progression.
Some of this is ok advice but one thing I would say would be: How often (rom coms not witstanding) do you see the girl dating the confident badass while the "cute" guy sits on the sidelines pining about why this girl only dates douchebags when he would be so much better for her?Digi7 said:
This is not to say "be a douchebag", but douchebags do often possess certain qualities that are attractive to women: confidence, spontaneity, humor, social proof (ie. large circle of friends). Similarly, guys attempting to be "cute" often mistake bad qualities (awkwardness, a submissive attritude, fear of escalation) for good ones. They will essentially make themselves, at best, the gay best friend, or anything from the best-friend-that-fancies-you to the lapdog. However, some of the qualites are positive, girls do like nice guys. However, its a very particularl kind of nice. The nice that you would be to your best friend, not the nice that you would be if you met the Queen/President.
The answer is to have the best of both worlds. Be confident, spontaneous and funny, but also have the good kind of nice, try and build an emotional connection.