How to hit on girls on the go
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Well you said it yourself from all the guys who hit on you were impressed by two, we usually don't do it because it's a 1/100 shot and that's a whole lot of beating to ones self esteem.feycreature said:
Best way around it is to strike up an interesting conversation that will open the girl up to the idea of spending time with you, just for the love of god don't mention anything you don't want her to be thinking.
"well I don't want to be creepy..." - congrats you just labeled yourself a creep in her eyes
And where did she say she had 200 encounters like that? Also, the best recourse about the self esteem beating is simply realizing that if she's not interested, nothing will change, you will still not have her number.Mr.K. said:
If you take it personally and start to question your masculinity over it, well...you're thinking too hard.
ELMER! Nice avatar, cheers.CODE-D said:
As for your question, everything in a relationship is creepy. Think about it. how often do you see couples holding hands? Eating off of each other's plates? Exchanging bodily fluids. Most of these things would get you a puzzled stare at best and terrified screams at worst if attempted on a stranger.
I will say use your common sense and be yourself. If that fails you, find a girl who welcomes your creepiness.
Oh hey Bob from accounting, so you demand accurate yearly "getting hit on" projections?Vegosiux said:
I am putting a pie chart together as we speak
I'd probably say something relating to her appearance(if she has a piercing, hairstyle, clothing, nailpolish, whatevs).
Like, I've seen this really pretty girl at the train on my way to school several times and she has a monroe piercing. So if I were to approach her I'd probably say something like "that monroe really fits you, did you take it in town?".
Too bad I'm an absolute coward and socially awkward. Maybe I'll see her again.
Like, I've seen this really pretty girl at the train on my way to school several times and she has a monroe piercing. So if I were to approach her I'd probably say something like "that monroe really fits you, did you take it in town?".
Too bad I'm an absolute coward and socially awkward. Maybe I'll see her again.
Chloroform and a large blanket... make sure you have worked on your muscles otherwise its going to get awkward, especially during the day.
FYI just kidding
OT: very few men are confident enough to approach an attractive woman without being inebriated.
Dont follow a script, just go in casually, but most important be genuine. or you can try charming her with a trick and a gift, charm flows from being spontaneous... i think
FYI just kidding
OT: very few men are confident enough to approach an attractive woman without being inebriated.
Dont follow a script, just go in casually, but most important be genuine. or you can try charming her with a trick and a gift, charm flows from being spontaneous... i think
Please don't guys.feycreature said:
While i can understand that you as a girl might want guys to be the more active part instead of being shy, saying the things you are asking them to say isn't the right way to do it. In the end it's going to do more harm then good for the guys confidence because of more rejections.
Instead, they should focus on getting a conversation started. That way both the girl AND the guy can much more easily determine if they actually link with each other, and from there you can figure out some joint activities. It's the proper way to do things and it's going to boost their confidence way more for the next time. Don't just walk up and ask her out on a date the moment she meets you for the first time (unless your name is Parker McDonald).
Short answer: No.CODE-D said:
I hate sounding like an arrogant prick here and i mean no offense, but not only is your conclusion wrong, it's also a downright terrible advice.
First of all, people don't like being called up by other people they barely met (unless it has some very specific purpose related to their life). That's why women don't like giving their number out in general (or give out false numbers). Some women might also give out their number for the pure reason that they like attention, and like being called up by random guys so they can just blow them off (read: they don't have any interest in you besides you calling to boost their ego).
Second of all, determining if you like each other properly requires more than just talk. It requires a real conversation. It requires BODY language. Simply going up asking for her number and then leaving after that isn't going to be enough, and that is just a perfect way of coming off as a creep. Go up and talk to her instead about something else. Be smart, cool, confident and above all else, fun! Then she is going to want YOUR number (although she might not ask about it, so make sure you are awake and capable of reading her).
Number is a terrible solution overall until you had a chance to link with each other through conversation (or if lucky, some sort of activity the first time you meet), in which case it becomes relevant. In fact, if i only had a short time to link with a girl, I'd rather ask for the girls Facebook or e-mail. To girls, giving out that instead feels more 'safe' and less creepy, and for you, it can act as a great tool to meet her again (often better than a phone number).
I dont really know when to do it; but I certainly know when NOT to do it.
1) When she is clearly busy/doing something else. Say she's at a cafe reading a book, that isn't a sign she wants to be talked to, its a sign she wants to read her book- interrupting her just so you can hit on her will make you look like an inconsiderate guy who just cares about what he wants.
2) Body Language. If she's sitting closed off, she probably doesn't want to talk to you.
3) Time and place. Doesn't matter if you are the sweetest guy around, women are taught to be alert at night and when they are on their own; approaching someone at this time will probably put them on the defensive.
Finally; if they reject you- dont become an ass about it, smile and move on. Hitting on women isn't a fundamental right.
1) When she is clearly busy/doing something else. Say she's at a cafe reading a book, that isn't a sign she wants to be talked to, its a sign she wants to read her book- interrupting her just so you can hit on her will make you look like an inconsiderate guy who just cares about what he wants.
2) Body Language. If she's sitting closed off, she probably doesn't want to talk to you.
3) Time and place. Doesn't matter if you are the sweetest guy around, women are taught to be alert at night and when they are on their own; approaching someone at this time will probably put them on the defensive.
Finally; if they reject you- dont become an ass about it, smile and move on. Hitting on women isn't a fundamental right.
Modify this to your needs.
I used to work with street and restaurant performers who needed to create rapport quickly with strangers (didn't always work, people are idiots, but worked a surprising amount of the time).
Make sure your social skills are good (eye contact, steady tone of voice, etc), and make sure you're confident in your manner of speaking and posture without appearing too imposing.
Then the formula compliment, introduction, proposal.
For example, a guy who used to do restaurant circuits, it would be "You look like a table who's up for a laugh! I'm Steven, I'm a magician. Could I show you something?"
But it works in a surprising amount of scenarios.
I used to work with street and restaurant performers who needed to create rapport quickly with strangers (didn't always work, people are idiots, but worked a surprising amount of the time).
Make sure your social skills are good (eye contact, steady tone of voice, etc), and make sure you're confident in your manner of speaking and posture without appearing too imposing.
Then the formula compliment, introduction, proposal.
For example, a guy who used to do restaurant circuits, it would be "You look like a table who's up for a laugh! I'm Steven, I'm a magician. Could I show you something?"
But it works in a surprising amount of scenarios.
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On campus you say? As long as you guys are in the same area (study room, bus stop, computer commons, cafeteria), there's nothing wrong with just bringing up casual conversation, introducing yourself, then if things go well, establishing contact when you guys are going your separate ways.
Just talk about something that comes up organically (weather, something about school, the crowdedness of the bus), then transition to talking about yourself and asking about her (nothing too personal, just majors, age, how long they've been attending school).
None of this works with just passing somebody in the hallway though. = \
edit: oh and getting a number or e-mail isn't always necessary, or even good (people tend not to like being bothered)... Simply being able to meet up again is enough "do you come here often?" might be enough, people tend to have a routine of where they go during their breaks and it's not THAT hard to see the same person more than once. Simply bumping into somebody and establishing them as an aquantence is much more effective that asking for a number from a stranger (ask after AT LEAST the second time meeting up).
TL;DR
Don't ask out strangers, it's creepy by most people's standards.
Yes, I was impressed by two of the guys who've actively started conversations with me out of the blue, because only two guys have done it in an appropriate way. The vast majority of men who've approached me have, as I mentioned, either started out being extremely vulgar, threatening, or wayyy too familiar for a stranger (pro tip: asking a girl you've just met about her sexual habits and appetites is not appropriate), or were about thirty years older than me. If your first contact with any stranger involves asking incredibly personal questions, making an indecent proposal, getting right into their personal space, or refusing to take no for an answer, then you will get shot down and deservedly so. Yeah, there's plenty of chance she won't be interested, but you improve your chances significantly by being polite and friendly.Mr.K. said: