Well, I think this argument could be boiled down just to that we've simply evolved that way. It's just hardwired into the brain one way or another. The more I think about it the more I realise I can't explain it either, just that all the attractive features of women are simply... nice.
I don't understand what people find so attractive about women. What is it and why?
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What do i love about women? oddly enough im not a breasts person but i do like a well toned fit woman in general and i also adore brunettes and raven haired women! its just smth about that and a cute face that makes me melt 
There is no concious thought process. It can all be explained in biological terms. We all have an inbuilt list of what shapes are attractive and what is not, and there is nothing we can do about said list whether it makes sense or not. If you want the list itself you need an MRI scan, not ask people.
I understand what you are asking but people literally cannot explain what you want. It is completely irrational on an individual level.
We see these lists getting misdirected in their purpose when people are attracted to, for example, drawn depictions of humans.
This is why getting romantic or saying how beautiful women are (for example, poems) are completely pointless. It's pure biology telling you this, not some universal truth.
I understand what you are asking but people literally cannot explain what you want. It is completely irrational on an individual level.
We see these lists getting misdirected in their purpose when people are attracted to, for example, drawn depictions of humans.
This is why getting romantic or saying how beautiful women are (for example, poems) are completely pointless. It's pure biology telling you this, not some universal truth.
Well to be honest, I don't understand why I find boobs attractive either. It is so hard to describe what is a nice pair of boobs, and what isn't. A lot of the time, one tiny thing can make the difference between a pair of nice boobs and a pair of gross boobs.
But I won't talk entirely about boobs.
I find women attractive because I do. Thats it really. Just like I don't find men attractive, am terribly afraid of heights, and love metal. I've tried to come up with whys and explanations, but they always fall short. Or when I think I have it, I remember a small detail, and my answer shatters.
I could get into the traits I find attractive in a woman, but when those same traits are put into a male body, it is not the same.
Was I raised to find women attractive and men not? Probably. I wasn't self-aware of that stuff until I was 12ish, so I can't honestly say. I won't get into what other people are raised to think about sexuality because that is really off topic and will start a flame war.
I'm sorry if that doesn't answer your question, but it really is the best I've got. Everything else I've tried makes less sense, or just sounds stupid, lol
But I won't talk entirely about boobs.
I find women attractive because I do. Thats it really. Just like I don't find men attractive, am terribly afraid of heights, and love metal. I've tried to come up with whys and explanations, but they always fall short. Or when I think I have it, I remember a small detail, and my answer shatters.
I could get into the traits I find attractive in a woman, but when those same traits are put into a male body, it is not the same.
Was I raised to find women attractive and men not? Probably. I wasn't self-aware of that stuff until I was 12ish, so I can't honestly say. I won't get into what other people are raised to think about sexuality because that is really off topic and will start a flame war.
I'm sorry if that doesn't answer your question, but it really is the best I've got. Everything else I've tried makes less sense, or just sounds stupid, lol
TLDR version: read the final paragraph.
As many people have said: "There is no satisfactory answer to your question." It basically boils down to personal taste. I have a friend that like big natural breasts and isn't interested if there's little on the chest. Personally I prefer the smaller breasts. He tends to go for the larger women whereas I go for either the larger or the thinner. I cannot say why either of us prefer whichever: it is just the way that we have been biologically wired.
But there is also a socialogical and historical imperative to consider when discussing why women are attractive.
First, going back as far as we can: women have always been the child bearers. So when we were tribal, women were literally the future of the tribe: if most of the men were killed while hunting / warring with a neighbouring tribe then a few men could repopulate the tribe with many women. The other way would not work as once pregnant a woman is otherwise occupied for nine months. This lead to an ingrained desire for men to protect the women. Back then it was the larger women that were considered most desirable as they tend to suffer less problems during child-birth: the thinner women are much more likely to mis-carraige.
As time has passed and the dangers from the world have been reduced, the desire to protect women has stayed, but has been tempered by complacency. People in the past almost always partnered for love or for child-bearing suitability. The leader, or "Alpha Male" would always have the pick of the most suitable women. As time went on these leaders started having money as well as power and started to want to show off this wealth with "Pretty" things: they would have the most well-made clothes of expensive fabrics. Their horses were from the best breeds. Their castles / villas etc. were decorated with expensive items and so on. It was innevitible that these desires for "pretty" items would extend to "their" women too. They stopped looking for women that they loved or who had good child-bearing posibilities and started looking for trophies that they could show off. Another factor that helped guide them to this decision is that we as a people no longer had to fear for the continuation of the tribe due to the taming of the world and the massive expansion that the human race had undergone.
More time has passed and we are into the modern era now. This "keeping a pretty thing hanging off your arm" mentality has persisted and has spread. The media has compounded this problem due to constantly reporting the prettiness of our "role models" a.k.a. the stars and the rich. The rich have come full-circle and are again looking more for love (in general, not everyone has matured yet) but the stars are always in the lime-light and feel that they have to have the prettiest they can get their hands on (both men and women seem to feel this way nowadays).
The media continues to compound the problem by demonising women when they have a spot, or they're wearing the same dress as they wore two years ago. Take the program "Ugly Betty". She is considered ugly because she wears a jumper and thick, red glasses. Yet they couldn't choose an actress that could actually be considered ugly: no, they had to choose quite a pretty actress and try to "Ugly" her by adding bad clothes.
Another factor to consider is the idolising of "Supermodels" which again is compounded by the media. These two factors combined led to the horrible fad of size-zero.
With young girls constantly seeing people being called pretty, and with young guys only looking for trophy women, which again is down to both the media and the social pressure on those who pretend to be "with it": the popular crowd (yet another sector that is strongly influenced by media, especially hollywood teen movies.)
I know this has been a long and rambling post but I will sum it up for those that don't want to read it all.
Due to the past opinions the media constantly pushes on to us the idea that women are beautiful and that men are handsom. This affects our children who grow up thinking that it is the only way to be: few of these children mature enough to realise that you like a person for who they are rather than what they look like. The media constantly push the idea that breasts are pretty and that a six-pack is desireable and never seem to get beyond that.
As many people have said: "There is no satisfactory answer to your question." It basically boils down to personal taste. I have a friend that like big natural breasts and isn't interested if there's little on the chest. Personally I prefer the smaller breasts. He tends to go for the larger women whereas I go for either the larger or the thinner. I cannot say why either of us prefer whichever: it is just the way that we have been biologically wired.
But there is also a socialogical and historical imperative to consider when discussing why women are attractive.
First, going back as far as we can: women have always been the child bearers. So when we were tribal, women were literally the future of the tribe: if most of the men were killed while hunting / warring with a neighbouring tribe then a few men could repopulate the tribe with many women. The other way would not work as once pregnant a woman is otherwise occupied for nine months. This lead to an ingrained desire for men to protect the women. Back then it was the larger women that were considered most desirable as they tend to suffer less problems during child-birth: the thinner women are much more likely to mis-carraige.
As time has passed and the dangers from the world have been reduced, the desire to protect women has stayed, but has been tempered by complacency. People in the past almost always partnered for love or for child-bearing suitability. The leader, or "Alpha Male" would always have the pick of the most suitable women. As time went on these leaders started having money as well as power and started to want to show off this wealth with "Pretty" things: they would have the most well-made clothes of expensive fabrics. Their horses were from the best breeds. Their castles / villas etc. were decorated with expensive items and so on. It was innevitible that these desires for "pretty" items would extend to "their" women too. They stopped looking for women that they loved or who had good child-bearing posibilities and started looking for trophies that they could show off. Another factor that helped guide them to this decision is that we as a people no longer had to fear for the continuation of the tribe due to the taming of the world and the massive expansion that the human race had undergone.
More time has passed and we are into the modern era now. This "keeping a pretty thing hanging off your arm" mentality has persisted and has spread. The media has compounded this problem due to constantly reporting the prettiness of our "role models" a.k.a. the stars and the rich. The rich have come full-circle and are again looking more for love (in general, not everyone has matured yet) but the stars are always in the lime-light and feel that they have to have the prettiest they can get their hands on (both men and women seem to feel this way nowadays).
The media continues to compound the problem by demonising women when they have a spot, or they're wearing the same dress as they wore two years ago. Take the program "Ugly Betty". She is considered ugly because she wears a jumper and thick, red glasses. Yet they couldn't choose an actress that could actually be considered ugly: no, they had to choose quite a pretty actress and try to "Ugly" her by adding bad clothes.
Another factor to consider is the idolising of "Supermodels" which again is compounded by the media. These two factors combined led to the horrible fad of size-zero.
With young girls constantly seeing people being called pretty, and with young guys only looking for trophy women, which again is down to both the media and the social pressure on those who pretend to be "with it": the popular crowd (yet another sector that is strongly influenced by media, especially hollywood teen movies.)
I know this has been a long and rambling post but I will sum it up for those that don't want to read it all.
Due to the past opinions the media constantly pushes on to us the idea that women are beautiful and that men are handsom. This affects our children who grow up thinking that it is the only way to be: few of these children mature enough to realise that you like a person for who they are rather than what they look like. The media constantly push the idea that breasts are pretty and that a six-pack is desireable and never seem to get beyond that.
Social conditioning. Things that are "objectively pleasing" usually aren't at all. Just look through history, and you'll see things that are entirely hideous and abhorrent to us today were once considered the height of being attractive, and things we now consider objectively beautiful would not have been so in times past.
So, while an obsession with beauty and aesthetics and describing its 'perfect' state forms a wide part of many human cultures and arts throughout history, it's really nothing more than social consciousness that determines whether we consider women inherently beautiful or whether we consider men inherently beautiful. I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but an awful lot of cultures, notably a few Ancient Greek city-states, seemed to consider young boys to be the height of attractiveness and the most inherently beautiful thing ever.
So, yeah. A significant part of the reason why the female body is lauded as being so beautiful as opposed to the male body is simply that we're socially conditioned to be cool with that. The male gaze on women is such a dominant paradigm in our discourse that we don't see anything weird about sexualising women constantly whilst at that very same time the idea of finding the male body attractive is parodied in substandard comedies and LMFAO music videos.
I'm going to shut up about here because I think I've already stopped being coherent.
So, while an obsession with beauty and aesthetics and describing its 'perfect' state forms a wide part of many human cultures and arts throughout history, it's really nothing more than social consciousness that determines whether we consider women inherently beautiful or whether we consider men inherently beautiful. I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but an awful lot of cultures, notably a few Ancient Greek city-states, seemed to consider young boys to be the height of attractiveness and the most inherently beautiful thing ever.
So, yeah. A significant part of the reason why the female body is lauded as being so beautiful as opposed to the male body is simply that we're socially conditioned to be cool with that. The male gaze on women is such a dominant paradigm in our discourse that we don't see anything weird about sexualising women constantly whilst at that very same time the idea of finding the male body attractive is parodied in substandard comedies and LMFAO music videos.
I'm going to shut up about here because I think I've already stopped being coherent.
This is what happens when you simplify anything too far. Why is taste good or bad? It's just different flavour. Why is the colour important? Its just different frequencies of light.
You can't take away objectivity from beauty, nor can you remove the "biological wiering" like you have, because that makes it as irrelevant as gills without water.
This question is flawed on a fundamental basis because you are trying to look at a part of an issue that doesn't work when broken down and needs to be looked at as a whole in order to understand it.
You can't take away objectivity from beauty, nor can you remove the "biological wiering" like you have, because that makes it as irrelevant as gills without water.
This question is flawed on a fundamental basis because you are trying to look at a part of an issue that doesn't work when broken down and needs to be looked at as a whole in order to understand it.
Pretty much nailed it on the first reply.Echo Delta said:
It'd be like me wondering why gay guys find men attractive. We're just programmed to find certain things attractive, and that's pretty much the end of it.
Well, you seem to mistakingly assume that there is any thought process at all going on.LilithSlave said:
Speaking as a straight male I just find myself attracted to certain women and not attracted to others. Why is this? As predicted as the answer is, because of how I'm programmed. I don't go out into the street, see a girl and start contemplating whether the size of her breasts, butt and overall body is something I could find attractive. I just find it attractive instantly or I don't.
Well why do you like tasting your favorite food? We like them because we are biologically programmed to. I know you don't want that answer but its like asking why a computer follows its programming.
Think of any fucking animal you like, they all have there alpha's and all the guys do the loudest roar/have the prettiest feathers/best dance/whatever.LilithSlave said:
Having big boobs is a sign of fertility (I know they don't make you more fertile, the same goes for wide hips), a big tummy is a sign of laziness (which isn't an attractive quality to most).
Women are known for being more sensual, soft and shapely. Men are hairy, rough and bulky. People tend to prefer sensual, soft and shapely things to hard, rough and bulky things.
Would you rather snuggle this little fella
Sure the staffy is adorable but it is a lot more masculine than the baby red panda, which is all fluffy.
That's why women are attractive, they are softer and cuddlier ... there are exceptions, like female body builders but that is getting into fetish's.